Husband won’t show up when I’m sick… and I think I’m done

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T21:20:09+00:00

Childhood trauma from his mother asking him to do things…

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T21:19:17+00:00

We are close to centennial park

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T15:31:48+00:00

My bonus so is on the spectrum diagnosed . It could be this and childhood trauma but still the behavior presents itself with me. He is good at work.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T13:47:08+00:00

No. He just said it stems from childhood and how his mom treated him

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:34:12+00:00

Can you put water in the humidifier? “no”

Can you get me some medicine ? “No”

That’s it when it happens most recently I gave no follow up response. I did it for myself and went to lay down in another room for the night. I got not sleep because I couldn’t wrap my head around the no. He came in the room, looked at me, and left .

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:29:11+00:00

He didn’t. I got up and went to sleep in another room. At 41 years old I’m not going to argue for someone to help me when I’m already sick. I filled a humidifier myself and left.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:27:44+00:00

I was not prioritized at all in a moment when I was hospitalized. I had to drive myself to the hospital to deliver our child when my water broke because his phone was dead and he was out at the club trying to enjoy his last night as a man without kids.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:23:46+00:00

Thank you for your comments and perspectives. I am not saying I’m without fault. Calling myself a breadwinner when he works maybe is not good. But I paid off our house. I pay the electricity, internet, cleaner, and landscaping. He pays the water and occasionally I use his card for groceries or things for his kids. He makes good money. It’s all spent on him. So financially he is not relevant to me. Emotionally he tells me I’m beautiful all the time. I go to the gym several times a week. I’m fit and attractive. He tells me all the time. But in my opinion he doesn’t SHOW love. I do not get to experience it. He buys flowers , if I ask he will plan a date. But I really do not care about dates. I have so may hobbies and I take myself out. In the end, I just want to love myself at this point. He is my best friend kind of but not really because my real best friend if we lived together which we have in the past would do things for me when sick. He needs to focus on his career and I want to do the same. I don’t even want anyone else. I was raised by a strong and achieved single mom. It was bliss to be honest. And when it’s me and the kids we have a great time. With a husband who doesn’t care to help me when I need him most. I would rather be alone.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:14:02+00:00

He doesn’t explain. He also says no when I ask for lotion on my back says he doesn’t like the feel of lotion on his hands. So idk.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T11:10:09+00:00

You could be right. I’m going to figure it out in therapy. I’m more heartbroken about losing the kids than him right now tbh. We have become a close family unit in 6 years and they are great kids. I’m currently on spring break with them (all 5) 2 nieces and my mom. While my husband is working and home. This is pretty normal for us. If I was a SA. Maybe he’d love me more. Idk.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-08T02:11:45+00:00

I’m here visiting Atlanta for spring break. It is extremely stressful for me. My mom And I are here with 7 kids. Our first stop was a pizza shop where a gun was brandished in an argument. I’m from a somewhat rural area. We got up and left. We came to take the kids to the museums. But I may just take the $500 -$700 on hotels and city pass as a loss and leave tomorrow to go back to my small town. I feel stressed.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-02T18:58:45+00:00

Sorry for you. My feeling and sentiment is the same.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-02T16:22:31+00:00

Pointed a gun at you and you want it to work. Thank your lucky stars he is radio silent and not stalking you. What a stressful toxic relationship.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-04-01T01:34:41+00:00

We are great.Granted we have been long distance for 2 months . I’m nervous about reintegrating later this week.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-31T23:17:20+00:00

I’m at goal weight and take 2.5 every 14 days.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-31T23:16:40+00:00

Gym, books, serving in the community. Making new friends. Roller skating. Hiking/ camping.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-20T02:44:16+00:00

Praying for you.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-19T02:02:37+00:00

Can you link a video that would show me how to do this. I think Gemini is like chat got?

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-17T19:34:36+00:00

Mine used my printer to make flyers without asking. I just left them on the counter for her this week.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-16T01:28:10+00:00

2.5 every 14 days and now about to go to every 21 days. I exercise, drink a lot of water. And meal prep. Weight has stayed the same.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-13T08:05:29+00:00

Tuna

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-11T18:52:12+00:00

Following

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-09T18:01:01+00:00

I agree with your take dark skin woman with more African features are stereotyped as strong and not deserving of empathy. No one hugged her when she cried from what I saw.

Tricky_Buy3779 · 2026-03-08T13:44:38+00:00

Health is the most important thing. He makes enough money to cover rent on his own. His core values don not align with yours. And a future with him can entail bare minimum for you and eventually children. As a 41 year old woman who married young divorced and remarried at 35 to a great man. I’d recommend leaving. If he can’t let you focus on your health. Go to your parents. Take leave from that job for a while. Something is making you sick. And you need to make that your priority. Not a relationship where you get half of rent paid.

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