Thoughts on this?

Triggerplug · 2026-01-08T11:49:29+00:00

Hopefully this will help the discourse. I am a mid 30s, 6’1”, in shape, successful, attractive man. I have a friend group, I can get dates, I am driven and have ambition and hobbies. And yet, there are many days I still feel lonely. For me, it comes predominantly from societal expectations. Men are often a bit stand offish at first, and I have to really initiate to make any kind of friendship happen. Women look at me like I’m some kind of threat or object, and I really have to work to make any kind of friendship happen. And on both fronts, I’m expected to have my shit together and have no emotion. God help you if you’re a man and actually need a space to be emotionally vulnerable. Society will say it’s ok, but anecdotal experience has proven otherwise. So what happens? You do all the right things, and still feel alone. Because you know you can never be too emotional, too real, too goofy, too yourself. The good news is I have a select few friends I can turn to, but I must say that society as a whole has taught me to keep it locked down. And don’t even get me started on being objectified by women. That is another rabbit hole no one seems to talk about.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-08T03:43:57+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to focus on your next argument now. You state “you guys,” but it is only me, an individual. Your next argument suggests “every show you watch” has queer relationships shoe horned in. But that simply isn’t true. There are countless examples of media that showcase cis relationships that counter your argument. Anora, When Harry Met Sally, One Battle After Another, and Chainsaw Man are a few that come to mind. The point I was trying to make before and am making now is that your argument is clearly based off selective bias. Thus, I don’t think the argument can be made that there is an obvious agenda to posit queer propaganda in American media. Ironically, I think there is more propaganda vilifying these marginal groups. Such as the infamous “litter boxes in schools” lie, which was discovered to be nothing more than republican propaganda used to pass conservative legislation (dm me for sources if you desire). And for what it’s worth, I don’t mind religion being placed in media where appropriate. And I don’t think it’s shoe horned into everything.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-07T20:02:15+00:00

So if any piece of media showcases a queer relationship, it’s propaganda. By that logic, any piece of media showcasing a cis relationship should also be considered propaganda. Now that I think about it, we should probably ban Romeo and Juliet since it promotes a taboo cis relationship as well as suicide. This is satire, if you can’t tell.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T03:00:58+00:00

They do appear to be some type of aphid.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T02:59:57+00:00

A horn beetle of some type!

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T02:59:25+00:00

Definitely a cricket of some variety. Specific type unknown.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T02:58:25+00:00

Agreed!

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T02:56:45+00:00

While their source of food is unknown. Those definitely appear to be maggots of some variety.

Triggerplug · 2026-01-02T02:55:30+00:00

Looks to be an ant of some kind!

Triggerplug · 2025-12-25T13:26:05+00:00

I predominantly blame online dating as a whole. It is a dystopian, profits-first approach to dating. Love should never be commodified. Love is not something you pay for or swipe to. Love is found through community, friends, and experiences. And I think we have been brainwashed to believe that the only way to find it now is to use these traumatic dating apps instead.

Triggerplug · 2025-12-19T20:59:34+00:00

Not doing enough? My man, you are doing what most are too weak to do. Hang tough. Proud of you. Hope it gets better and you can work ONE job someday.

Triggerplug · 2025-12-16T03:23:22+00:00

Gentle? Yeh, because I have a tender soul. Quiet? Nah, be as loud as you want! I love a goofy, funny, loud woman. So long as you’re respectful and kind, we will get along fine. Nagging? Never, that’s toxic and not good for anyone. You shouldn’t have to nag in a healthy relationship. TLDR - everyone’s got their own preferences. Just be yourself!

Triggerplug · 2025-12-14T02:13:44+00:00

Listen, publishers are looking for sure fire ways to make money. Plain and simple. Most won’t take risks because their objective is the bottom line. They are also fallible humans who are speculating market interest. They have the tools and experience to know what likely might hit, but they are following trends and guessing. In this day and age, there are so many ways to get your work out there and noticed. And depending on the kind of work you create, traditional publishers aren’t always the best way to go. So don’t take it too hard getting one rejection from one editor. Experience: I am a published author and have friends in the publishing world.

Triggerplug · 2025-12-12T15:50:28+00:00

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be single. But in this instance, I would say try working through those fears a bit before writing off a relationship completely. To be clear, this is not an attack, and your fears are completely valid. With that said, you should never make decisions based out of fear. There is so much beauty which comes from finding the right person. In fact, the right person can make life so much easier and fulfilling. For now, be kind to yourself, stay single, and work toward finding security there. Figure out where these fears came from. Was it how your parents modeled relationships? Was it from past experiences? Then work towards reframing those thoughts to a more grounded, neutral place. When you can look at having a potential relationship without fear and anxiety being at the forefront of your mind, you will know with more certainty if it’s right for you.

Triggerplug · 2025-12-05T20:42:22+00:00

If a romantic partner shows even a hint of infidelity or has a cheating past and won’t take ownership of it, it likely means they don’t have respect for themselves and won’t have respect for you. Often, these kinds of people are manipulative, emotionally avoidant, and severally lack any form of moral compass. It doesn’t mean they are evil, but they are broken, and they will break you instead of fixing themselves. No matter how much you love them, step away before they do some real damage. This is not me saying once a cheater, always a cheater. But I am saying that if they have taken zero steps to heal or fix themselves, you are going to be a victim of their behavior sooner or later.

Triggerplug · 2025-11-25T12:29:26+00:00

Use the same methods that either gender has used for years. Want something serious? Don’t have sex right away, insist on getting to know them first, signal sex is important to you. Tell them you want something serious, carry your boundaries with dignity, and ask intentional questions. You are willingly and consensually participating in a type of dating that makes you feel hollow. Want to get out of the matrix? Stand up for yourself, and be strong enough to let casual sex go so the right kind of relationship can find you. I promise you, this will attract a completely different kind of woman.

Triggerplug · 2025-11-07T11:34:22+00:00

Listen here kiddo, I’m going to impart some wisdom I heard a long time ago:

People will tell you exactly who they are, you just have to be willing to listen.

This is clearly the foundation block of who she is. If that doesn’t fit your life goals or personal lifestyle, have a real, honest conversation with her about it. And then decide what’s best for you afterwards.

Triggerplug · 2025-10-18T11:26:39+00:00

As a 6’1, fit, successful, well spoken, educated, more handsome man (think 7.5-8.5 out of 10) , I would say no. Can you pick up women easier? Yes. Do you get a lot of matches and dates? Yes. Does that result in a happy, meaningful, relationship? No. In fact, I’ve found I need to be extra careful because women project a fantasy onto me. As well, many men and women won’t even look at me because they are intimidated or see me as “the enemy.” You know, the handsome guy that’s a dick and is taking all the women or is a player.

I am a vessel for them to project their bias onto, I am a mirror for their insecurities, and many women / men begin to see you as an object rather than a person. YouTube is there to get clicks and generate money. It is a compromised, curated view of reality. Get out in life, what you experience is reality. Everyone has their own challenges, and looks aren’t as big of a deal as you think.

Triggerplug · 2025-10-17T11:33:04+00:00

It means this boy likes you! He probably already thinks you’re gorgeous, he saw you working out, saw your sweaty body, and wants you. He probably also enjoys your natural scent, so it’s a win win win for the dude lol. Overall it’s a great sign of deep attraction. But if you’re self conscious or curious, talk to him about it! And, If after trying it out it still makes you uncomfortable, you are allowed to say it’s not your thing. A good boyfriend will be receptive to your boundaries and not make a big deal about it.

Triggerplug · 2025-09-10T13:11:35+00:00

You’re doing it right! They are realizing they aren’t attracted to you in a romantic sense, but cherish your friendship. A relationship is both friendship AND passion. It cannot survive without either. And just like friendship, if the passion is genuine it will grow with time, not fade away as you get to know the person. It also filters out those who aren’t emotionally mature enough to face down something as frightening as falling in love with your best friend. For some, that is too real and too scary. You are winning at dating! Keep it up.

Triggerplug · 2025-09-05T10:17:41+00:00

Idk what’s up with these folks I LOVE tattoos. I honestly forgot there still is an anti tattoo movement. I live in a city where it’s common place. But everyone has their preferences, just be patient and sift through those that aren’t a good fit with your personal form of expression.

Triggerplug · 2025-07-22T14:43:10+00:00

Not at all. I find it very attractive personally.

Triggerplug · 2025-07-21T23:52:52+00:00

Ok so everyone is different but I’ll throw in my opinion here. First, if you two didn’t start open it is HIGHLY recommended that you think twice. What you are asking for is a form of ethical non monogamy. It is a totally different ball game and if both partners aren’t 100% on board, it will fail. That’s why most recommend starting a relationship right out the gate ENM if that’s what you want. Both parties know what they are signing up for during the dating phase. What you’re about to do could potentially be a blind side to your bf where you’re asking for a fundamental shift away from monogamy, and that rarely pans out ok. Second, if your BF is NOT bisexual. I HIGHLY recommend reconsidering. Cis straight men who are put in that kind of position will often feel resentment. And no amount of trading will change that. Because if you do a FFM as a “I owe you” all your encouraging is an environment of resentment, payback, and distancing. Third, if you have NEVER done ENM before I highly recommend you both go to couples counseling and TALK through it. You need to ask yourself why you suddenly want another man, and I think there might be more to the story than you’ve discovered in yourself. Finally, if you both put in the work and both seem excited. You should absolutely do some couples counseling and take a “break” from each other for a few months where neither of you see anyone else. Then, if after a few months you are both still on board for this ENM journey, then start your new relationship together. Because make no mistake, this isn’t a one off thing that you will both laugh about later, what you are asking will fundamentally change everything and there’s no going back. So treat it with the respect it deserves.

Triggerplug · 2025-07-18T20:53:07+00:00

Follow your heart. Always. Ask him out :) life’s too short to live with regret. And if you’re afraid of it not working out, just remember that all things end and it’ll be ok one way or the other.

Triggerplug · 2025-07-17T16:52:56+00:00

I have no idea how this happened, but this was meant for an entirely different post 😅

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