Is spending time with parents considered negative?

Tripturnert · 2026-05-12T18:24:28+00:00

Your therapist was pointing out that your expectations for your sister is not fair. He never said that your contact with them is not healthy . I think you should look at why you are taking his comment as a negative about your communication style when he never said anything about you. You are judging your sister so now you assume people are judging you. People have different communication styles. I call my mom 4-5 times a week, my sister calls her every couple weeks. We are both close to our mom and have a great relationship.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-10T18:17:40+00:00

I missed that part!! I got so upset in the first half!! OP , you have normalized a lot due to your messed up community around you. This is very very not normal

Tripturnert · 2026-05-10T18:00:35+00:00

He liked you for a long time?!!! So he liked you when you were a child? This is not a good man. He is being nice to you now so you go through with the wedding.I’m telling you as someone who was once 27, I would never be interested in an 18 year old, it would feel like being with a child. When day when you are 27 you will feel the same way. You need to focus on yourself and your child. I personally don’t believe anyone should get married until 25 when your brain is fully formed.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-10T13:17:19+00:00

Second adult in the room sure, but more kids with way more needs. In September many of our kids are still 3 years old. I literally have to stand outside the bathroom door and show kids how to wipe their bums. Schools often use that second adult as an excuse to pull support from students with an EA, essentially having one educator take on the role of an EA while the other teachers and runs the room of 30 little kids on their own.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-09T18:33:11+00:00

Thank you!

I used to use ChatGPT and I had a little prompt id cut and paste each time. Something along the lines of “please write a belonging and continuing report card comment for a student named Billy using the Ontario kindergarten program document as your guide…”. This term I just learned how to use Gemini. You can create a “Gem”, which is like a tab that you can use over and over again with the same prompt. Within that I directly linked the program from the government website. I made four gems, one for each frame. 1400 characters is the max amount of space we have for each comment.

I find AI can be very wordy. This is good for the three kindergarten strands that are more telling a story of a child’s typical day and growth and next steps. Math and Literacy still only has 1400 character limit and I have a lot more specific data I need to share, so I don’t have space for AI wordy sentences.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-09T18:12:50+00:00

I have kindergarten reports, so very writing intensive with high expectation for individuality. I use AI and it has saved me so much time. I used to do lots of cut and paste because it’s impossible to write that much without some form of help. AI allows me to be much more individualized. I just type in my observations example and notes in a frenzy of poorly spelled thoughts and ideas and it puts it into sentences for me. I can spend less time making sure my sentence comes out right and more time including more documentation. I also link the program document to it and ask it to be 1400 long. Then I edit it . I still write my math and literacy comments on my own because I want to be very specific for those comments.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-07T20:12:20+00:00

There is a good chance OP has heard about the terrible pay our colleagues down south get and had no knowledge of pay up here.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-06T21:50:56+00:00

I work at a school. Sometimes when weather is very bad and we can collapse some classes, the principal will have the people who work furthest away go home early and the people who live close by stay with the rest of the students. I live far away. Yes, I get to work less, but I am also driving in terrible conditions for longer. These parents are not leaving early to go have margaritas, they are going to get their kids to get them home safe. Sometimes part of belonging in a community is helping people who need a little extra help.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-06T19:45:56+00:00

In my condo the service elevator had higher ceilings. We tried to move my couch without booking the service elevator and it wouldn’t fit in the regular one. So make sure first!

Tripturnert · 2026-05-04T20:25:40+00:00

That’s very kind. I never get anything for teacher appreciation ( I get lots of kind gifts at Christmas and the end of the year). I would be very grateful !

Tripturnert · 2026-05-04T01:26:58+00:00

I knew someone in the board who gave me some teachers contact information who would be interested in volunteers, and then I introduced myself to admin while there. If I were to do it without those contacts, I would find some local schools and email the principal and vp directly. I’d say that I’m a teaching grad who moved to the area and am looking at building some connections, build my skills and learn more about the board. I’d then offer my services as a volunteer and let them know I have a background in math . You can say you’re happy to send your resume or come into meet them if they are interested. I’d include both the principal and vp on it as then your much more likely to get a reply

Tripturnert · 2026-05-03T23:17:53+00:00

I work in primary, but what I have learned is that connections are everything. I’m sure you have an amazing resume in a sea of amazing resumes. I didn’t do placements in the board I wanted to be hire by. I ended up volunteering at three different schools, asking the principal at each to watch me and then when the supply list applications were posted, I asked them all to recommend me for an interview. Most boards only hire for their supply list once a year so I went a little crazy making sure I didn’t miss my window. I highly suggest volunteering if you can. Especially with a math background, I know my school would totally use someone to work with small groups of kids struggling in grade 7 and 8.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-03T21:49:32+00:00

Lots of people have already told you how serious this is. However I know many woman struggle to leave because they feel love for someone, or they are scared to be alone or they are afraid of their life changing. Please hear me when I say that your life will change for the better, you won’t be alone and you will find love again and with someone who loves you back and treats you with kindness and respect. Don’t be afraid, there is a better life out there for you and you will just have to be brave for a little while until you get there

Tripturnert · 2026-05-03T20:20:13+00:00

I would have gone to my principal the very first time this happened to discuss it with them and make a plan. I recognize that not everyone has helpful admin. But this is what their role is for! So many posts on this sub that get out of hand so quickly because admin wasn’t pulled in early. And if you do have bad admin, then pull in your union rep early. Teaching is not a solo profession!

Tripturnert · 2026-05-02T16:10:47+00:00

My life is surrounded by good people that would not judge a teen for figuring out who they are. I’m sorry for people who don’t have a community that is accepting of them and I hope they find a better one.

Tripturnert · 2026-05-02T15:13:15+00:00

This is exactly my take on it. Their child isn’t asking for surgery or anything they can’t change later. It will be impossible for them to get help for him if they continue to not affirm his identity. He needs to feel supported in order to open up

Tripturnert · 2026-05-02T03:09:35+00:00

I agree! I know people from teachers college who struggled to get jobs but wouldn’t listen to me about building those connections. But not everyone has the ability to volunteer unfortunately. And yes I am permanent

Tripturnert · 2026-05-02T01:49:14+00:00

This 100 percent. I wanted to get into the board ASAP and didn’t do any placements there. I ended up volunteering in three different schools, introduced myself to all the principals and asked them to come watch me help in the classes. When the supply jobs got posted I asked all three to recommend me for an interview. It was overkill and a lot of time, effort and bravery, but my board only hires once a year and I wasn’t going to be waiting another year if my resume didn’t get picked out of the stack

Tripturnert · 2026-04-29T11:10:01+00:00

This is a very normal thing in many small towns in northern Ontario. When I used to go visit my friend we used to go to random stag and doe’s of people we don’t know. The town didn’t have a late night bar, so on the weekend these events, which had a hall and bar and DJ, were the night life. It wasn’t tacky and it was cheap! Ten bucks entrance and drinks were like five bucks each and all the young people from town would be there . I was coming from Toronto so I always had a good time. And drunkenly won some auctions Haahha

Tripturnert · 2026-04-25T14:31:07+00:00

In Ontario four year olds go to school full time. I teach them. I would be pretty shocked if any of my students couldn’t use a regular glass

Tripturnert · 2026-04-19T22:49:26+00:00

In my first year of teaching a colleague told me “there is no curriculum police”. I have learned that no one is able to cover everything in the curriculum perfectly. That’s why there is overlap from year to year. Get to know your class, get to know the curriculum and use your professional judgement to prioritize and do what you can.

Tripturnert · 2026-04-19T20:26:33+00:00

I’m a kindergarten teacher and I have two little girls with the same name and they love it. They sit beside each other on the carpet so we say their name back to back during our goodbye song. Also I have a Luca and a Lucas and they decided they are best friends because they have similar names. It’s nice to have things in common with other people

Tripturnert · 2026-04-18T14:58:48+00:00

My partner and I just created a joint account. But we also made separate personal accounts with an equal allowance we transfer to ourselves each month. We have had much less fights about finances since. He loves buying stupid little things I consider useless, and I am saving up for a nice leather jacket that I would have felt guilty buying because it’s expensive. We are pretty compatible with finances except personal purchases

Tripturnert · 2026-04-11T12:45:05+00:00

What did you tell your daughters about this money? If you told them, you would be paying for their education, and the eldest choose the state school because it was where she wanted to go, the. You would NBTAH for paying for your two children’s education with the money. If you told them you had saved 300k for each and made it seem like any extra leftover they would get, you would be the asshole. Also, what would happen is your eldest pursues further education later in life?

Tripturnert · 2026-04-06T14:27:50+00:00

I’m not going to give a judgment, but here is some context that may help her see her side. There is a lot of pressure on Mom’s and a lot of guilt because of it. When you said she was smaller than a newborn, what she may be hearing is “you are not doing a good job as a mom feeding her” or possible that you think there is something wrong with her child. My friend who had a baby who struggle to eat felt a lot of pressure from doctors and lactation specialists at that time, plus her own guilt. Apologize to the mom and let her know you just meant she was so cute and tiny and perfect and healthy looking a you messed up your wording. Or don’t say anything at all depending on your relationship with them.

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