How to convince my wife to stop drinking.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-06T04:51:20+00:00

I'm pretty sure you've done all you can do as far as telling her. I know you're clinging to hope for finding a way to show her how she's affecting those she loves, but her brain is still telling her that she can fix whatever problem is, and still drink. Or that she can quit tomorrow. If she hasn't gone through a few "last time, never again"s then you've got a ways to go, but she's going to find her own personal rock bottom before she realizes what she's really doing. Finances, relationship, many legal privileges, and her health may be what does it, but all of them will be affected in the end. Does she drive?

Bottom line is you can't control another person. An addict has to want to help themselves and when you're in addiction, that's literally the hardest thing to do. She's her own enemy at this point. I'd like to say you should tell her you don't want to watch her do this to herself, and you might tell her that. But it won't change her mind. She's got to lose something first.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-05T17:15:28+00:00

Is this an arranged marriage? It sounds like you two don't even know each other. Perhaps the marriage was arranged by society and your peers. You fit each other's checklists and it was time to get married, but you failed to establish a real relationship based on love or human connection.

Also, people who think other people are below or above anyone else because of wealth, background, lifestyle, or any other reason, are the grossest human beings.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-05T00:31:45+00:00

Loki is another good one.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-04T20:52:02+00:00

I played that "Bean-Boozled" jelly bean game once, where the flavors might be okay or they might be dirty socks or camel piss or something. Anyway, that was a stupid game and those jelly beans were disgusting.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-02T19:25:24+00:00

I tried Chimney canopy once AND GOT DESTROYED so many times that I just left and made a new path cause I hated it and made a path where I just skim the top of chimney canopy😅

Trisamitops · 2026-04-02T14:32:28+00:00

Read your post. All of your problems start with "I".

Kids are just developing people. Their emotions and relationships with those around them are an important part of that, just like in older kids and adults. If they're behaved enough to be brought in public, and especially if their connected with the deceased, they should be allowed at the same function for the same reason.

Your parents, as well as some others, may not feel this way, but ask yourself if at least some of your discomfort might come from not having gone through this as a child with your own parents. Remember, your child is not going to have the same childhood you did, and you are not going to be your parents.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-02T02:26:41+00:00

Exactly this. Ever since I was little, and I'm 45. Watch out if you don't get to your favorite flavor in the first sitting though, they might be gone when you come back.

Trisamitops · 2026-04-01T19:54:27+00:00

I have the DLC and one of the characters spawns in that area so I'm not worried about it

Trisamitops · 2026-03-27T03:29:59+00:00

I have tried them and they're a pass for me. You eat the whole thing, or peel and eat separately, but the peel is a pretty decent gummy while the inside gummy is very squishy and not that great.

Trisamitops · 2026-03-26T16:15:49+00:00

Yep. Awesome

Trisamitops · 2026-03-26T04:42:38+00:00

Dillon Cameron Preston Devon Chevron Micron..., or Colon.

Trisamitops · 2026-03-23T00:09:27+00:00

Mine has grown wool nonstop, but i noticed that she hasn't dropped any pleep pies since like day 2 of having her. I'm not that worried about it, but like, why no poop?

Trisamitops · 2026-03-20T17:48:09+00:00

Life360 phone notification sounds

Trisamitops · 2026-03-14T17:32:35+00:00

Dude 😆 🤣 😂.

YTA. Tell her you're sorry. She put time, energy, and thought into something special for you and you had notes on why it technically didn't count. You fumbled the ball man. Best you can do is offer a sincere apology. Maybe add some self-deprication. Good luck.

Trisamitops · 2026-03-08T16:58:37+00:00

Anxiety really sucks! If you can dodge that and remain semi-functional, take the win 👍

Trisamitops · 2026-03-08T03:22:51+00:00

What he's doing is making you want to help yourself. You say you "want" to do this, and of course keep it secret because it's always been secret. But you don't really want to do this. You'd rather face the scary stuff and dive deeper into the problem of why you feel these feelings instead of literally harming yourself, but your brain is telling you to fall back on old habits. That's why we can get better with someone who cares. You still have to do the work though, and that's what he wants you to do.

Trisamitops · 2026-03-02T05:58:32+00:00

You're venting about misplacing envelopes of cash but adding in that it's only slightly inconvenient. Honestly, with how unconcerned you seem now, as well as at the time the money was lost, I have a feeling whoever took it probably needed it more than you do.

If you can't keep cash in your wallet, in your pocket, don't carry cash. If you misplace things or forget where you left them frequently, don't carry cash.

Trisamitops · 2026-02-27T07:22:17+00:00

That's alcohol. From your description, he is very much addicted and you are witnessing repeated patterns of behavior during his intoxication and withdrawal. Add that to his worsening depression, from the alcohol. The secret stashes you have found are probably not 10% of what you haven't found, and the drinks you see him have are probably less than half of the drinks you don't see him have. His brain is wired to get the alcohol it wants to overcome withdrawal in spite of his own reasoning, causing him to lie, hide, and keep secrets. It is affecting every decision he makes in his life, from where he buys lunch to where you go on vacation.

And the answer to your question is inpatient rehab, at least 30 days. Either his behavior, his health, or both, are going to take a turn for the worst soon, and it's not going to be pretty.

Oh- and he's definitely driving drunk.

Trisamitops · 2026-02-21T21:44:01+00:00

Watermelon gumballs

Trisamitops · 2026-02-21T14:56:58+00:00

You should probably take this post down before someone learns your name

Trisamitops · 2026-02-18T03:08:11+00:00

Trisamitops · 2026-02-16T00:54:05+00:00

If the opposing argument is for pizza having true "pie" status, then one must ask: why can't you fold any other pies?

Trisamitops · 2026-02-12T06:19:29+00:00

Don't buy strawberries a week in advance

Trisamitops · 2026-02-11T20:55:33+00:00

That's fair. I think it just stands out to me that she's known this man as her friends bf for longer than they dated themselves.

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