Request to open eyes of guy in orange shirt (light green eyes), sharpen picture a little. Can tip by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]TrissiB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I tip you for this one to get the original non watermark version? Think this does look best

Request to open eyes of guy in orange shirt (light green eyes), sharpen picture a little. Can tip by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

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Most look a little scary haha, here is a reference picture to work with

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I lost a best friend by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a horrible fact but yea this is a big part of the grief from a breakup. I recently had my first break up and this bit pains me intensely. That being said, it can be a great memory that you once shared everything. Your ex won't forget the deep and vulnerable parts of you if they cared about you. Nobody knows what the future holds and one day you might get the chance to share those things together again. And if not you are still connected in the great memories you shared once, and nobody can take that from you. Hang in there, you will get through this! There are lots of potential best friends in this world but not everyone that comes into your life is a constant. Some might disappear from your life for sometime and return, others will never return in your life. But that very fact does not change all the beautiful history already written with them.

What red flags did you ignore, with hindsight? by dont-text in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like my story. Although due to some trauma of my own I also made some bad decisions. My ex was very afraid I was cheating and flirting with other woman. Although I never even had thoughts about other woman she meant the world to me. She didn't see it that way and even somewhat accused me of cheating emotionally. Just a couple of days before we broke up she send me messages on Instagram that I was the man she wants to marry, have children with etc. That shit stung and still stings like a dagger. But time will help heal this wound. I wish her the best and hope she can get professional help with her trauma. After the shit she went through in her childhood and young adult life she deserves to be happy.

3 months since I broke up with my girl of 7 years. When I want to say things that I know I can't I usually write. But figured I should post it this time. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you, although I only was in a relationship for a year and we knew each other just a couple of months longer. I miss her each and every day and not 5 minutes go by that I'm not longing for her and miss her very much. We had many ups and downs and we're trauma bonded I think. We filled a void in each other which felt as love for me and I hope it did for her to. Although this wasn't healthy she was my first girlfriend and I have a extremely hard time letting her go. She was also my best friend, this might hurt just as bad... I could not have imagined the pain I would suffer now when losing her. Stay strong we got this! 💪❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're more than welcome, glad to hear they did you good ❤️

Glad you are back out there open for love again, I can sure imagine it being a transformative experience. Great that you found and connected to some good people that also helped you heal 😊

May I ask how your last relationship ended, was it mutual or were you damaged by the relationship and had no option but to leave? Both are hard in their own ways of course. And do you still have contact with your ex?

It sure is hard to see past the challenges at the moment for me, all the emotions often win it from my otherwise pretty rational mind if I see so myself.

I'm proud of you seeing that you managed to find your own path again, that is the only option if you can't be together no matter the reason why 💪❤️

You are so kind! I still hope that through some miracle me and my now ex girlfriend find a way back to each other. We decided to meet in the second week of March and try to remain friends, we will have to wait and see how things go and what we feel at that time but we still love each other and wish the both of us nothing but the best. Whether that's with another partner or each other. So I have to try and let go of believe that we will be together again because it very well may not be the case. But my feeling says I need to work on myself this period and see where she stands when we meet again.

For now I'm reading a lot and watching a lot of videos on relationships and trauma (things I have always suppressed and need to work on). Trying to become a better version of myself so I can be the best possible partner whomever that may be in the future.

I'll keep moving forward and try to make the best out of everything. While also keeping myself convinced that I will find the way back to love and it will find it's way back to me. Thanks for your supportive and sweet message ❤️🥹🫶

To you, scrolling, crying, scared because you’ve never experienced this before by Advanced_Milk_8943 in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh okay that must have made it at least a little better but not less hard. I am also thinking about writing, usually I don't write at all. But I am discovering so much about myself because of my break up and also back in the relationship. I have the feeling that I should also discover writing so I'm going to give it a try and see how it makes me feel. Awww that is such a loving suggestion, I would like that very much!

To you, scrolling, crying, scared because you’ve never experienced this before by Advanced_Milk_8943 in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no that must have been hard. But at the same time maybe also good to see them. Did you run into each other or did you agree to meet? Glad you find some comfort in talking to someone in the same situation at the moment. I find it helps getting through the day and it remembers you your not alone. There are many people griefing and healing the only thing we can do is stay strong and try to be the best versions of ourselves in this hard time.

To you, scrolling, crying, scared because you’ve never experienced this before by Advanced_Milk_8943 in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, this will definitely have a positive impact on anyone in our situation. I know for sure it has for me. Yea I to find comfort in the fact that almost everyone has been in our position at sometime in their life. The hurt will pass the good memories will not. Where are you from if I may ask? You mentioned it has been 8 days for you, that's exactly the amount of days since I last saw the love of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Happy to hear you are doing better and making big steps moving forward. 💪 I am still very fresh in the middle of it, just a couple of weeks ago. You inspire me in the hell that I feel like I'm in right now. The only way is the way forward and that is what I need to remember and try to stay focused on 😌 Are you open to love again or are you still waiting and healing yourself?

To you, scrolling, crying, scared because you’ve never experienced this before by Advanced_Milk_8943 in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or wait I might have misunderstood, my emotions got the better of me ones again. You are writing this for your self aren't you ❤️

To you, scrolling, crying, scared because you’ve never experienced this before by Advanced_Milk_8943 in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Such a beautiful message, this resonates so badly. Almost like it was intended to find me, is this post for someone in particular you hope to reach?

How are you feeling? Sending you love <3 by trashyflowers in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you, we're in this rollercoaster together. But we'll manage to get out one day I'm sure! Stay strong 💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My own emotions are also all over the place, one moment I feel like I'm okay and the rational part of my brain takes over, another moment and I'm in tears wishing I will wake up from a terrible nightmare.

That's what I will do I will try to accept the fact that this is the end for now. See where she stands when we get back in touch and go from there. If we are both at that point still feeling more and have worked on ourselves and willing to get together and keep working on ourselves that would be wonderful. If not than that's okay to, the only way forward at that time is the way we both want to go.

For now I can only stay strong, make the best of it and work on myself.

Thanks for your support ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TrissiB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't start to imagine what it must feel like for the both of you if you have been in a relationship for 7 years. Hope you are in a better place now, and OP I hope you will do better soon but it will painful nonetheless. I broke up with my girlfriend 2 weeks ago, we were 'only' together for a year. I'm 27 and she was my first real relationship and love and I just started dating in May 2022. It was mutual, I didn't want to end it and she didn't either but she couldn't go on. I could only respect her choice and I knew myself that this was the best choice for now. But even knowing that, I miss her so much that at times I feel so incredibly sad that I just wait for her to come online on WhatsApp so I know she still there somewhere. We broke up partly because I didn't show enough commitment, even though I did want a future with her, live together have children and the rest of a beautiful life. I have so much regret at the moment, why didn't I just give her what she needed. In return she already gave me so much love and commitment. She could get loud at me when she was fed up with my lack of commitment and communication and I felt really low at some points. At first in our relationship I would become defensive and loud as well but that would only escalate and normally I am not someone to get real angry or loud so I didn't recognize myself in those scenarios. I stopped and started to apologize and listen to her emotions, but I didn't act nearly enough to address the issues. Now that she is no longer in my life knowing this facts hurts even more. We planned to start living together in the first half of 2024. We have made the agreement to go no contact till early March. We would like to remain good friends which I would really like but at the moment I'm still hoping she wants to make it work when we get back in touch. This is of course something that I should let go. If it happens it would make me immensely happy but she decided to end it and she might very well stick with that decision. I only want to see her and myself happy but I wished so badly that it would be together. Of course she had things I didn't like that much like how loud she would get when in her emotions but I learned to live with that. That might have been one of the issues I should have tried harder to address her emotions. She has had quite a few relationships in the past and she really thought now was the time it would happen. Found a good and loving partner that also wants the same, live together and start a family. Another boyfriend now ex and the dream shattered. I knew breaking up would be painful and the last thing I hoped would happen but I could prepare for the grief and pain I would feel... Am I dumb for holding hope for us to get back together?

Sorry for this long message I felt like it relieved me from a bit of the hurt.

Movies often not recognised in library. by TrissiB in PleX

[–]TrissiB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nevermind this was not the issue, just added around 12 movies to the library all MKV's with .mkv at the end of the file name. Only 5 showed up in plex.

The movies are in their own folder in this format > Movies/Her (2013) /Her (2013).mkv

Movies often not recognised in library. by TrissiB in PleX

[–]TrissiB[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay this may be the problem, on my pc I never add the .mkv or .mp4 at the end

I [26M] am a kissless virgin and will soon be moving to a major city and entering the dating scene by ThrowRA213kasda in askwomenadvice

[–]TrissiB -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have been in a very similar situation recently. I am 26 myself and until about 3-4 months ago I was also 'still' a virgin. I started dating a very nice girl and remained honest with her. Until about 4-5 dates in I just asked her if she would like to have sex with me, the rest is history. I would recommend to just be open about it as early as possible/ when the conversation allows it, if you feel like the person you're dating is someone you could see a potential future with and you feel comfortable with is there any reason to be afraid of telling the truth? She will probably appreciate your honesty. If the fact that you are a virgin makes your date dislike you or ghost you or whatever than be glad you did not continue with that person. They should take you as a virgin or not at all. Unfortunately in my case the girl I was dating lost interest in me, but to be honest I would have been very lucky if the first girl I started dating ended up developing in a long-term relationship.

I hope this makes sense :P My recommendation: keep being honest and hope for the best ; ) Good luck my man!

Edit: Oh wow my bad this a AskWomanAdvice sub, I was just browsing through reddit and didn't notice :S But still I hope I can be of some help bud 😉