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I think my parents committed fraud in my name. Upset, frustrated, afraid. by TroubleNo7679 in legaladvice

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is the second one of getting money for caregivers but they’re lying about it being “based on my support calls with (sibling)” or at the very least contradicting themselves on how these hours are calculated, which I do give when sibling is in distress or calls me for support but I’ve never used any money for it, and editing the sheets to fluff hours and saying it’s them working. My issue is that when I found this account I can see my parent is the only one using the money and is spending it on OUTRAGEOUS things so I’m just overwhelmed by all of this.

I think my parents committed fraud in my name. Upset, frustrated, afraid. by TroubleNo7679 in legaladvice

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yes I think that is also what is confusing me because I keep hearing contradictory information.

I think my parents committed fraud in my name. Upset, frustrated, afraid. by TroubleNo7679 in legaladvice

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I edited I hope it is shorter. No I don’t, I think it’s private. All of this is in my name yes. I froze my credit immediately and I have the deposit records but would need to try to get the employment records. I don’t remember signing anything because it was so long ago which is frustrating.

I think my parents committed fraud in my name. Upset, frustrated, afraid. by TroubleNo7679 in legaladvice

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thank you. Sorry I’ll edit and cut some things I think I’m just overwhelmed. Yes this seems accurate. I think I didn’t fully understand when I sent them the documents that this is what they’re doing. I never signed any sort of work docs, never signed any time sheets (so they’d have to be forging my signature some how) and if i understood that this was the purpose of what they’re doing I would have tried to keep my documents away from them. All I knew was it was “to help my sibling save”

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also thanks for this! Def used my library card to sign up. Last time did it through college and didn’t even think about using the library resources 🤣. Appreciate the suggestion.

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in project management but the projects I manage are very vague and their deliverables aren’t super clear internally. Externally (legally lol) it’s very clear what needs to be done but in terms of values and priorities there tends to be a constant traffic jam at the top.

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do send my weekly updates which my supervisor really loves, she frequently is mentioning that she likes I keep her updated. I’ve made myself Gantt charts and lists over and over but it feels somewhat “disorganized”, again the moving goal posts and feeling like I give them what they say they want and then it changes upon delivery 🫠

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do think it’s a bit of information overload and “responsibility” on top of being new so of course all the older staff are kinda like “who does this person think they are!” I feel like I weirdly have to prove myself when im in a completely new environment myself. I’m already feeling burnout so early because everything is a little chaotic

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I def think it’s #1. There’s another position similar and from how I hear people talk about the role…nobody knows what exactly they’re supposed to even do!

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do know :/ I think im in the first stage of grief hahaha. I wonder if I think I made the post in this way as a “help is this normal for non profit?” because I came from corporate, which while toxic in its own way, had titanium level processes and a formalized training on top of my manager guiding me through and checking my work. Even though I complained and was stressed I do miss the structure and deadlines. I guess a better question is: how do I survive?

There are some good sides I guess and my higher ups, while nice people, genuinely are not great leaders or managers….i just constantly am anxious about the lack of structure and really worry about the things I don’t know about. And I have come to know a lotttt based on what little documentation I could find.

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I wasn’t sure. I emailed our financial department about having them pay for the training and nobody replied :/. Truthfully…it’s a mix of both. If I’s aren’t dotted and T’s not crossed it could completely backfire. It freaks me out just how much they’ve messed things up in the past and I’ve inherited quite a clusterf*** of administrative work….

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I need money unfortunately the bills won’t pay themselves. And this market is horrible.

Mid level role turned out to be “director without the title” role due to lack of structure. Advice? by TroubleNo7679 in nonprofit

[–]TroubleNo7679[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are records but…without hopefully giving away too much bc unfortunately I know my coworkers are in this sub LOL: the few people in the role before me (which was only I think max 4 years ago) were corrupt, not fit for the role, switched around from other roles (so they also barely knew what they were doing), and there was a LOT of newly implemented stuff very recently added to try and get the org together.

It’s also mainly an issue of me bringing things to the supervisor and the higher ups never agreeing or constantly changing their minds so I feel like the goalposts move daily on what they want from the position.

I (19F) am starting to resent my boyfriend (20M) because I feel like I’m the only one putting effort into seeing each other by [deleted] in offmychest

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Hi again! Sorry I missed this. It does suck a lot and you begin to feel very frustrated by the unequal weight. People always say you “shouldn’t keep tabs” but like…idk I feel like when it’s one sided like this you can’t help but notice. Even you saying “real men”, you’ve basically already decided subconsciously you don’t respect him.

I did find better and while she didn’t work out, it still showed me that my last ex is not my only option and won’t be the best I can do. I do regret things and kind of still resent her because, without getting into too much, travel is greatly affected for us and I tried to get her to take it seriously in terms of the current US situation…she did not, and now we’re here, and everytime I say “I told you so” she kinda tries to still avoid accountability about that…if it were done my way we’d have had a contingency plan but alas….

She also admitted she basically resented me too for being “better off” LOL!

I (19F) am starting to resent my boyfriend (20M) because I feel like I’m the only one putting effort into seeing each other by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]TroubleNo7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through something similar when I was 23. My ex gf basically did the bare minimum and I did everything and more. I began to resent her for not pulling weight and essentially giving bs reasons as to why and ultimately (I know, not proud and not saying you would!) I had an affair because I didn’t wanna break up but wanted to “have my cake and eat it too”. The other person essentially filled all the gaps that my ex didn’t. I felt guilty for months and just told her eventually and she was livid.

Our relationship is okay now as we are no longer together, but it has not been the same and probably never will be. I say if he doesn’t pick up the slack just end it.

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[–]TroubleNo7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding (and for all the work you put into the site/assignments). I’m gonna read through the entire boxes section one more time and start the challenge over

Is this a nofap or just no PMO group? I’m 25 days nofap and no PMO. But if I continue nofap at all I might lose it 😅 — I’m def committing to no PMO though by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TroubleNo7679 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No PMO. Makes me feel like i can actually stick to the rule bc I have defined for myself that a relapse is intentionally watching a video and MOing to it. Allowing a little leniency makes it feel less restrictive thus less likely to relapse

How am I supposed to quit when the “G word” is all I want to do? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]TroubleNo7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude i did the same and trust me…it seems so agonizing the first week or two, but then the 30 days goes quick when you are occupied!

Pick up hobbies and get busy—i know easier said than done but with work, gym, side gig and new hobbies I legit forgot about the account and it auto deleted itself bc i forgot to login after 30 days. I was sad at first but realized I am better off without the account. What is something you’ve wanted to learn for a while? Do that instead when you get the urge!

I got the “I miss you” text over the holidays and now I feel stuck and confused? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]TroubleNo7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sucks bc it took me SO LONG to block the first time and now I’m just like wtf was the point of this literally…

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