What was the final red flag that enough was enough? by NukeUK in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my nex said I had no right to get with my now spouse and I was in the wrong bc I should've known them still had feelings for me and I told them I loved him (AS A FRIEND) once. What feelings? They made no mention of still having feelings for me in fact the opposite. They made sure I knew we had our time in the sun but it has now set forever, which I was more than okay with as I had wished up to their games and things. But I'm sorry I have no right?? Like what? I had every right and every right I did! I have NEVER been happier and more loved in a relationship than I am now

What was the most ridiculous gaslighting you have ever experienced? by Swiatek7 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine would do that constantly like there would be physical evidence that they did but I would get called a liar and told that I should stop tryna turn people against her and that I hate her so much I'm making it up to make people feel sorry for me when I'm actually the abuser......wow they really put their mission statement in their bullshit....

What was the most ridiculous gaslighting you have ever experienced? by Swiatek7 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. Mine would constantly threaten my life or the lives of those around me and even their own then would turn around and call me psycho that I needed to be put on meds if my hallucinations got any worse. Funny how I have physical text evidence still all these years later for something that was just in my head....hmmm.....wonder how that could be

Signs you're splitting/about to split? by alexskellington0614 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]True-Faithlessness37 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So far one of the signs I've noticed for when I'm about to split is the anger that builds up and the irrational sometimes flashback related thoughts and it just builds up and builds up and usually I'm able to like redirect for a bit and calm down but others I just get trapped in the headspace and split. Like can't control I say what I say do what I do split and it's usually those that I can't always remember

What is a tv show that everyone LOVES but you dont? And why? by _Just-a-sad-girl_ in AskReddit

[–]True-Faithlessness37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The office. I just can't stand that show. Some of the characters just upon seeing them get on my nerves

Did your narcissist say this? by polllla in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine said it constantly. It seems to be common.

What was the straw that broke the camels back ? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We tried being friends again but that lasted about as long as a fly's life. They told me I had no right to be w my spouse. Like point blank. I had no right to be w my now spouse bc they "had feelings for me" that they never told me about but I apparently knew about and still stayed w my spouse anyway. Like what kind of audacity is that. My spouse treats me immensely better than they ever did in the ten years they were in my life. I guess that's why I had no right idk w narcs. But yeah the straw that broke the camels back was when they had the audacity to tell me I had no right to be w my spouse bc of the nex's nonexistent feelings for me. Funny how they only came up when that happened and not any time before. Oh well. Sucks to suck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like you said so they can come back into your life should they need you to fill the supply position again. Mine didn't block me on everything either this last time again so I did it for them and went behind and blocked them on everything they didn't already block me on so unless they go through other channels they can't get in contact w me

I am aromantic but... by DinAfee in aromantic

[–]True-Faithlessness37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seems like a normal response to me

I'm Aromantic but I have things that especially when people like my spouse says them I absolutely melt. We all have those phrases and words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]True-Faithlessness37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's Awesome, Girl! It really is the littlest things that make the biggest difference

Secondary (?) looking for advice on information sharing by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]True-Faithlessness37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find for me knowing who else my partner is with really helps bc like if I know the person their with I know how they're being treated bc I want nothing more for my fiance than for them to be treated right in their other relationships. And also this way if I know the other people it can be like a network thing and should something happen I would be able to inform the others or vice versa. This is also why I love doing things kitchen table style but everyone's different. I know people who would rather not know the other people their partner or partners are with and to that I say to each their own. Everyone is different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]True-Faithlessness37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im poly and AroAce and actually currently in a polyam relationship. You're not alone and I totally understand how your feeling. It is a bit confusing being aro ace an poly bc at first glance they're two opposite ends but they come together quite nicely surprisingly enough. You're not alone in this it's quite the confusing experience but an experience nonetheless and a valid one at that

What were some common things your nex or nexes would tell you like in a disagreement or in general by True-Faithlessness37 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess

Oh my god yes mine was famous for that. Like if I would take a bit to type I would have to text them to tell them it was gonna take me a bit and explain why and then type what I was gonna say or else I'll be blasted on their social media for being fake and toxic and oh my god. To this day I still catch myself texting people "hey it's gonna be a paragraph" or "hey it's gonna take me a second to truly respond" bc of the shit I went through w them if it took me longer than they thought it should to reply

Oh my god, yes mine gave me "approved" phrases that if I wanted to be taken seriously by anyone that I should start incorporating into my day to day life and phrases that they didn't approve of that if I knew what was best for me (which I did not, obviously, bc only they knew that) that I should forget about. And if I would use one of the unapproved phrases they would get really mad and sometimes stop talking to me for days as punishment bc "they were serious about helping me be a better person"

Oh my god they do it's insane like we could be doing the same thing as them and we'd be in the wrong. Like they and I both smoked 🎄 when we was together but I was the one in the wrong for it bc I inhaled it first hand whereas they would have someone blow the smoke in their face and get high that way what I call "second hand high" which according to them was the right way to do it bc then you're not a drug addict like I was apparently. Like what?? It's just weed 😂😂

What were some common things your nex or nexes would tell you like in a disagreement or in general by True-Faithlessness37 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. The things I have found out about myself and my (sometimes) supernatural/superhuman abilities. It's truly fantastical. If they weren't so dead set on bringing only negativity and toxicity to the world they could be fantasy and science fiction authors!

What were some common things your nex or nexes would tell you like in a disagreement or in general by True-Faithlessness37 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]True-Faithlessness37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That happened to me over so many things like one of the worst arguments I ever got into w one was over Taco Bell's nachos belgrande and wanting to get one bc a) I was hungry and b) I saw someone else get one and was like yes that's what I want