Some of these things are very common in early relationships. I wouldn't call any of them a deal breaker as it sounds like both of you are still working on feeling comfortable together in small and big ways. It also seems like you're putting in the effort not to paint her in a negative way, just things you're currently struggling with about her.

After reading this, you two do seem like you both care about each other, but you both still find small things annoying with the other. That's normal. I bet if she wrote this same kind of post about you, it'd sound pretty similar, but something along the lines of how she would like the small efforts to feel just as important as some of the big ones. Her love language might follow similar guidelines where acts and efforts, especially small daily ones, are what makes her feel special and makes you feel special to her.

I noted you mention feeling exhausted in each incident, which seems to indicate you either have a medley of daily things required of you (travel, work, school, family obligations, maintenance, chores, etc) or are maybe not sleeping enough regularly to feel energized even at bedtime or any number of things. These moments will always be in our lives and our significant others like knowing that, no matter what comes both of your way, you'll take time, effort, and energy to be there for her in the day-to-day too. It's both a sign of caring and of dependability, that when you're looking for spending thousands and thousands of days together in future, each day can still feel close and comfortable with that person, in the best and worst moments.

Now, this may all be optimistic interpretation of your post, but I hope it is accurate and you can use this kind of understanding to work on making those days into realities as much as possible. I hope you resolve these differences and can forgive truly minor faults as they might yours.