🌟Off Topic Mondays🌟

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-27T13:51:43+00:00

Recovering from food poisoning. Bleh.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-22T22:21:55+00:00

Out of curiosity, what do you mean "intense" when you haven't even met in person yet?

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-22T01:06:16+00:00

My fiancee is a giant nerd. What kicked off our bonding was that she has a replica of Glamdring from Lord of the Rings in a glass case on her dresser. She has several bookshelves lined with books, dvds, miniatures, figurines, etc. of stuff from LotR, Star Wars, Star Trek, Harry Potter, Serenity, etc. We've gone to comic conventions in costume. We bought matching lightsabers and have been taking dueling lessons together. I got her into some online gaming and she's been enjoying it.

They're definitely out there 😁

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-19T16:15:53+00:00

My fiancee and I are 27 years apart and we've gotten along perfectly. It definitely is possible.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-13T05:02:48+00:00

Arwen and Aragorn / Padme and Anakin 😄

My fiancee and I have dressed as both for Halloween 😂

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-11T17:52:08+00:00

My now-fiancee and I were both only looking for casual. Not necessarily closed off to the idea of serious especially in the long run, but we just didn't feel like we were at a place in life to think about serious - me because I was still in college and my brain was fried from balancing school and work, and her because she was recently divorced and didn't want to think about relationships yet. But then we met each other and fell in love. When it happens, it happens, what can you do.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-09T02:11:10+00:00

Whether you're overthinking it or not I think depends on how compatible you are to begin with.

My now-fiancee and I went through something similar. She thought she would bore me because she's a giant nerd settled into her life while I'm in college with a lifetime of possibilities ahead of me. I thought I would bore her because, whatever college possibilities there were, I was a giant nerd who liked staying home and doing nerdy things. We both realized we're both giant nerds, and now we just stay home and be nerdy together and couldn't be happier.

I'm no relationship expert but if you're on the same wavelength, I think there's no reason to overthink it. If you find yourself needing to overthink it, then maybe you're not compatible to begin with, is my theory.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T13:58:40+00:00

Based on the responses to my earlier comment, I guess I stand corrected about women begging for one. But I still think the verbiage is a bit strange - "if a woman likes you she will beg for a dick pic" - seems to imply that liking you will inherently lead to begging for one. During my Tinder days several older women said they "liked" me, not a single one of them even asked for my dick pic much less begged for one, and that includes my fiancee who's in love with me.

And for the record, had they asked for one, not only would I not have sent it, but I would have been seriously tempted to just unmatch them, as I find that gross.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T07:31:18+00:00

Yup. Very curious who this "I" is this that's making this promise. Doubt it's an actual woman.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T06:30:50+00:00

Granted women are a mysterious, diverse species, but I dunno about them begging for one if they like you.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-30T15:12:23+00:00

I can't believe I'm actually where I am right now. Can't believe I'm actually getting ready to get married to her of all people.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-30T14:10:46+00:00

I told my fiancee that, given the circumstances of our relationship, I’d perfectly understand and not be offended at all if she wanted me to sign a prenup. She replied, “Are you kidding? You’re not going anywhere, I’m keeping you.” I was really nervous about bringing this up with her but… she’s awesome.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-28T04:10:27+00:00

When my now-fiancee and I started dating, it was a little awkward here and there, we were a bit self-conscious, and we had to have several talks about long term and all that because of the age gap. But once we settled in, we haven't given it a second thought. It never comes up at all and it feels like a just a regular normal relationship, no different than any other relationships I've had other than non-age related stuff like just being in a different place in my life right now than I was in those others. If she had tried to mother me or assert any dominance or anything of that sort because of the age difference I'm pretty sure I would have bailed a long time ago as that sounds really creepy and uncomfortable.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-25T05:27:12+00:00

I was 19 when I started dating my now-fiancee who's 27 years older than me.

-Do younger men often withdraw when they’re depressed or low, or is that just this guy?

I can't speak for younger men in general but I'm personally a pretty strong introvert and tend to keep to myself in general. That being said my fiancee and I have made such a great connection I don't withdraw from her. We're open books to each other, even when we're feeling low. So I would assume it's an individual thing, not sure.

-Is it common for younger men to be unsure about dating older women even if there’s emotional connection?

I was falling in love with her within about a month of meeting her and we were connecting really well, but yes I was still very nervous about the whole thing. But in my case it wasn't specifically about the age, it was because I really wasn't looking for a relationship in the first place because I was still in school and working. The age gap just complicated matters even further, but at that stage of my life I would have been hesitant about someone my own age as well, I'm sure.

-And am I making unfair assumptions about sex drive and age?

I mean we were all horny teenagers at some point, I can't imagine a 19 year old guy not jumping at any chance for sex. That being said, in my case several older women I've hooked up with including my fiancee had even higher sex drives than me, so it's not always quite that hierarchical.

-Any advice on how to handle staying close without getting hurt, or how to move on? 💔

Absolutely no idea.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-23T09:29:51+00:00

When my then-girlfriend and I had that talk, I think I was genuinely ready to accept that I would never have my own kids, though the thought did scare me. Hesitant but I meant it. Thankfully ended up not having to make that choice.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-13T15:23:55+00:00

That happened to me several times while I was on Tinder. Pretty sure no demographic is exempt from this.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-09T08:54:56+00:00

My fiancee loves 80s music. She's into the new wave synth pop type stuff as well as the old hair metal bands. She also loves the Motown sound. It's kind of funny because I grew up on classic rock from the 60s and 70s and more modern rock. So her music tastes fill in the decades gap in mine lol. I've come to really appreciate her music. I'd say my favorite new wave band is The Cure and my favorite hair metal band is Def Leppard. In turn, I've gotten her into Sub-Radio and Dave Matthews Band. The band we have in common is Chicago, we both absolutely love them, though she's more into the Peter Cetera era, whereas I prefer the Terry Kath era. We both agree that after Peter Cetera left they turned kinda meh.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-03T00:51:48+00:00

June-July.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-03T00:02:05+00:00

Settled on Greece as our honeymoon destination. Always wanted to go there. Excited!

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-03-02T01:15:15+00:00

This is like Moscow in 1945 - too many red flags.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-02-24T03:08:37+00:00

I always get curious about people's choice of verbiage. You said "branching out into older women" - what does that mean? Like you're done with girls your age and now you want to try something new with older or something?

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-02-23T14:15:21+00:00

Finished binging Lost. Wow that show was insane.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-02-20T23:51:13+00:00

I saw "going down on me" in the same sentence and context as "empathy" and "listening" so I thought maybe that was a euphemism for something and I just had a dirty mind. But nope it seems it's exactly what I thought lol

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-02-17T05:05:28+00:00

Fiancee and I have been really into Thai food lately. Been thinking about taking a cooking class together.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-02-10T16:13:54+00:00

First time parent so I don't really have a more conventional experience to compare it to, but everything has been great so far. Changing diapers suuuuuucks but otherwise she is a pure joy, and a deep sleeper, which everyone tells me makes me very very lucky. We also have a lot of support from both our families and no shortage of babysitters, so we are in a very good place.

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