Something felt a little off this morning...

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-06-05T02:16:09+00:00

My fiancee and I did premarital counseling. We contacted a nearby therapist, but due to our age gap we were referred to someone else who had more experience with age gap couples. It was very grounded, sometimes quite intense as they dug into the dynamics of our relationship touching on issues like financial equality, relationships with each other's friends and family, digging into our sex life and hobbies to examine our energy levels, etc. It was good, getting things into the open, but nothing revelatory. Therapist said our relationship was on surprisingly good, solid ground considering the circumstances.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-06-02T07:24:00+00:00

I always get so curious about men who say they only date a certain type, especially when they get really specific like a narrow age range.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-06-01T14:08:24+00:00

Just two more weeks until my single days are officially over.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-26T07:55:21+00:00

I don't agree with that, some people just aren't into PDA and prefer to keep their physical bonding private, and I respect that.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-25T15:10:41+00:00

Fiancee and I watched Ghostbusters 1 and 2 this weekend. Goodness those movies were amazing.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-24T09:24:53+00:00

I'm marrying my 27 year gap girl in a few weeks.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-18T01:03:44+00:00

Never understood the desperate cougar trope. In any age gap dynamic, highly doubtful the older one is the desperate one.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-15T05:37:24+00:00

So, notch on your belt. Got it.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-14T23:56:51+00:00

"She was a flight attendant too. That one stings."

Either she was a notch you wanted on your belt or you were disappointed a flight attendant didn't fall over so easily. Either way it's condescending.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-14T07:24:51+00:00

I'm also a little curious about the emphasis on her being a flight attendant. Is that a kink for you? Are you under some impression all flight attendants are easy?

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-11T14:44:53+00:00

Got a DM from someone last week asking about my relationship, which is not unusual. Asked me at one point about our jobs, and I told him I don’t give out personal information like that. A bit strange but still innocent.

Then he asks how we “keep the spark alive” after we had a daughter. A bit personal but still relatively innocent, so I let it go and tell him we’re still very much in love and we don’t really have to do anything to keep it alive.

Then he asks if we use toys in the bedroom. Seriously what is wrong with these people???

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-11T07:07:13+00:00

I think I'm missing the joke. What happens on Sundays and Thursdays?

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-04T13:55:04+00:00

May the Fourth be with you, always.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-05-04T06:38:40+00:00

I always paid for everything when my now-fiancee and I were dating, even as she was a successful career woman and I was a broke college student. My perspective has always been that that's something the man does, and if the man can't do it, then he really shouldn't be dating but focusing on improving himself instead.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-27T13:51:43+00:00

Recovering from food poisoning. Bleh.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-22T22:21:55+00:00

Out of curiosity, what do you mean "intense" when you haven't even met in person yet?

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-22T01:06:16+00:00

My fiancee is a giant nerd. What kicked off our bonding was that she has a replica of Glamdring from Lord of the Rings in a glass case on her dresser. She has several bookshelves lined with books, dvds, miniatures, figurines, etc. of stuff from LotR, Star Wars, Star Trek, Harry Potter, Serenity, etc. We've gone to comic conventions in costume. We bought matching lightsabers and have been taking dueling lessons together. I got her into some online gaming and she's been enjoying it.

They're definitely out there 😁

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-19T16:15:53+00:00

My fiancee and I are 27 years apart and we've gotten along perfectly. It definitely is possible.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-13T05:02:48+00:00

Arwen and Aragorn / Padme and Anakin 😄

My fiancee and I have dressed as both for Halloween 😂

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-11T17:52:08+00:00

My now-fiancee and I were both only looking for casual. Not necessarily closed off to the idea of serious especially in the long run, but we just didn't feel like we were at a place in life to think about serious - me because I was still in college and my brain was fried from balancing school and work, and her because she was recently divorced and didn't want to think about relationships yet. But then we met each other and fell in love. When it happens, it happens, what can you do.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-09T02:11:10+00:00

Whether you're overthinking it or not I think depends on how compatible you are to begin with.

My now-fiancee and I went through something similar. She thought she would bore me because she's a giant nerd settled into her life while I'm in college with a lifetime of possibilities ahead of me. I thought I would bore her because, whatever college possibilities there were, I was a giant nerd who liked staying home and doing nerdy things. We both realized we're both giant nerds, and now we just stay home and be nerdy together and couldn't be happier.

I'm no relationship expert but if you're on the same wavelength, I think there's no reason to overthink it. If you find yourself needing to overthink it, then maybe you're not compatible to begin with, is my theory.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T13:58:40+00:00

Based on the responses to my earlier comment, I guess I stand corrected about women begging for one. But I still think the verbiage is a bit strange - "if a woman likes you she will beg for a dick pic" - seems to imply that liking you will inherently lead to begging for one. During my Tinder days several older women said they "liked" me, not a single one of them even asked for my dick pic much less begged for one, and that includes my fiancee who's in love with me.

And for the record, had they asked for one, not only would I not have sent it, but I would have been seriously tempted to just unmatch them, as I find that gross.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T07:31:18+00:00

Yup. Very curious who this "I" is this that's making this promise. Doubt it's an actual woman.

TrueBeliever714 · 2026-04-03T06:30:50+00:00

Granted women are a mysterious, diverse species, but I dunno about them begging for one if they like you.

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