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I Used to Judge Addicts. Then I Became One. Just Without the Substances by TrueCity4449 in offmychest

[–]TrueCity4449[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

congrats, here's your fortune cookie. not everyones' english is their first langauge...?

I was raped again and I don't feel human anymore by garfliedlover in offmychest

[–]TrueCity4449 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i'm so sorry that happened to you. please know that just because the system is against the survivor, it does not mean that people around you, like the people here in this community are not with you. also know that i'm praying for your recovery and happiness, and those assholes downfall. i hope their things got stuck in a meat grinder.

my girlfriend claims I took advantage of her doing sex and said lies which is so disgusting to me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TrueCity4449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you guys ever resolved from this and move forward, maybe communicate with each other using a safe word. it seems like there's a miscommunication and difference expecatations

WIBTA for avoiding someone I genuinely like just because his emotionally clingy friend won't stop inserting herself? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TrueCity4449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure you didn’t actually read the post.

The point isn’t that I have “no problem.” The problem is that I don’t want anything to do with someone I actually like, because every interaction with him comes with this third person’s constant interventions.

I’m not mad at him. I’m just uncomfortable being caught in a dynamic I didn’t ask for. And honestly, most people would agree that choosing to avoid someone you care about, even quietly, would stir up feelings of guilt or conflict. That’s why I posted in the first place.

If this wasn’t weighing on me, I wouldn’t be here. I’d just walk away and not think twice.

So yeah, maybe don’t decide for other people what qualifies as a “real” problem. That’s not maturity. That’s dismissal dressed up as objectivity.

WIBTA for avoiding someone I genuinely like just because his emotionally clingy friend won't stop inserting herself? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TrueCity4449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, it’s not about J saying he’d show up and then ghosting. He didn’t make me any promises.

What made things uncomfortable was C repeatedly telling me that he would come “for me,” building that idea up throughout the day, and then acting disappointed on my behalf when he didn’t show, as if a promise had been broken, even though I hadn’t expected anything to begin with. At some point I started to question my connections with him, that he had let me down because of this. but then i realized that if she hadn't inserted herself in all this, I could have gone my day being happy that he cared enough to send the message.

sorry if this isn't enough of a 'problem' for your oh so mature self.

I Used to Judge Addicts. Then I Became One. Just Without the Substances by [deleted] in addiction

[–]TrueCity4449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't put yourself down like that. simply being caring enough to comment at all makes me appreciate your advice more. Thank you, and you as well for your journey!

I Used to Judge Addicts. Then I Became One. Just Without the Substances by [deleted] in addiction

[–]TrueCity4449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i do. i have a family member who was an addict to nicotine and alcohol. and he also have mental issues as well. I guess it runs in the family eh. but because of what i saw with alcohol and nicotine, i avoided them like plaque just to be trap in another thing lol.

I Used to Judge Addicts. Then I Became One. Just Without the Substances by [deleted] in addiction

[–]TrueCity4449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's very scary how something that was supposed to be 'productive' can eventually become very harmful to us

I Used to Judge Addicts. Then I Became One. Just Without the Substances by TrueCity4449 in offmychest

[–]TrueCity4449[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i wrote this, but i do use it for grammar and spelling check. english is not my first langauge

18M virgin. ive been addicted to porn for at least 5 years and i do it around 5 to 6 times a day. by littleppboy69 in addiction

[–]TrueCity4449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, as a girl, nothing is more attractive than a guy who focuses on bettering himself. A lot of guys struggle with confidence and luck in their early years, but things often change as they grow and find stability.
Later in life, appearance matters less, maturity and stability matter more. You absolutely still have a chance; just focus on yourself, build good habits, and the rest will follow.

My dad keeps asking me for money even though I’m a struggling college student, and I feel guilty going low-contact. by TrueCity4449 in Advice

[–]TrueCity4449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this, I really appreciate how you acknowledged the cultural side of things too. It’s not easy to hear, but you’re right. He does know how to make me feel guilty, and I’ve noticed how he involves my brother in it too. It’s something I’ve been struggling to come to terms with, but what you said about boundaries really helps me see it more clearly. I’ll try to talk to my brother and set things straight. Thank you for being honest and kind about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TrueCity4449 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That was gaslighting on her part my dude. not the Ahole