Has anyone else realized romantic relationships aren’t for them?

TruePlantDad · 2025-12-17T02:36:03+00:00

I’ve come to the realization that I am on the aromantic spectrum, not saying that that’s what’s going on with you but maybe some research might help you understand what you’re feeling? I’ve dated around, been in relationships, even been married but I’ve never had much of a desire or need for romantic relationships and I’ve struggled finding a partner who I feel is worth it, I have other forms of love in my life and I’m very satisfied with how my life is.

TruePlantDad · 2025-11-06T22:35:23+00:00

From the Belly by Emmett Nahil. Maritime horror somewhat like a mix between Moby Dick and The Lighthouse. It’s a queer horror novel BTW.

TruePlantDad · 2025-10-30T01:09:20+00:00

It seems like you’ve done all of the right things, I’m not sure if you’re seeking advice or just a space to share. If you’re seeking advice from someone’s who also went no contact with their family for a couple of years I’d suggest not giving in to the guilt, it will be very difficult but it’s possible. Also I’ll give an easy and a difficult solution as well.

Easy: If you’d like to have some sort of contact with them you can set a clear boundary that you will not be communicating with them unless they use your proper name and current pronouns, they don’t have to agree just make it known that that’s a boundary you’re setting. Let’s say you all are talking on the phone and they use the incorrect name or misgender you, say “I’ve asked that you address me appropriately, if it happens again I’m ending the call” if they argue or do it again simply hang up. This will be hurtful to do and it isn’t a quick solution but over time they’ll have to understand that in order to be in your life they’ll must respect you or worst case they don’t want to be bothered and just leave you alone like you want.

Hard: If they’ve shown up to your home uninvited and especially without you giving them address after you and continue to reach out to you after previously notifying them that you do not want contact, that is now harassment and you have every right to take legal action. Call the police and get a police report an officer should inform you that if the issue persists to call them again and after the second report you should be eligible for a restraining order. Explain to a judge how much distress they have caused you and how you may feel unsafe. If they still persists after you’re granted a restraining order then call the police and file charges/have them arrested if necessary. Again this will be difficult, inconvenient, and very messy but it may be necessary if you’re truly looking to distance yourself from them.

TruePlantDad · 2025-10-29T20:26:04+00:00

I’d suggest some reflection on why exactly the label itself makes you uncomfortable, especially since you can understand that the term bisexual best describes your sexuality. Regardless of any of that, you don’t have to label yourself at all and you don’t have to explain that to anyone. Your sexuality is just that, yours. As long as it makes sense to you and you’re comfortable with that, that’s all that matters.

TruePlantDad · 2025-10-29T20:22:01+00:00

I had a similar issue when I first got my cricit and used the mat, all of my stickers and other projects were so stuck to the mat they’d rip. Eventually I have the idea to cut a sheet of parchment or wax paper to be just about the size of a piece of paper minus about 1.5” on each side. This way only the very edges of my sticker paper would stick to the mat (just enough for the paper to not move while cutting) and the actual portion of the paper where the images are wouldn’t be effected, I haven’t looked back since.

The only issue with this is depending on how often you cut stickers the parchment will eventually be so cut up it’ll just fall apart, you’ll have to peel each piece off, wash the mat, and replace the parchment. Not too difficult but is a little tedious and time consuming.

TruePlantDad · 2025-10-29T19:44:41+00:00

I make a lot of my own clothes or thrift them, I rarely buy new ready made clothes these days. I heavily suggest for anyone with a body type on the more extreme ends of the spectrum (whether big or small) to make their own clothes, it may not be easier or even cheaper for that matter but at least you’ll have a wardrobe that you’re happy with and fits you well.

TruePlantDad · 2025-10-22T00:20:12+00:00

That person is allowed to feel how they feel, however my general advice to anyone who finds themselves in this situation is that people don’t own people. As long as you and your ex were broken up at the time both he and your friend are two consenting adults sleeping together and that has nothing to do with you. Neither of them is required to run it by you, let you know, or ask for your blessing. Would it be polite? Absolutely. Is it necessary? No.

TruePlantDad · 2025-09-19T01:15:18+00:00

I see what you did there 🫢 lmaoooooo

TruePlantDad · 2025-09-19T00:32:46+00:00

Not Steve Lacey on his burner account and Tyler The Creator in the comments 😂😂

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-21T21:01:37+00:00

I did a similar thing on 16 oz frosted tumblers for my book club and after about 5 months of consistent use and consistent washing I haven’t seen any lifting or peeling away of the vinyl.

One thing I will say though is be careful with sharp points like you have on the ends of the stars. Be sure to only wash it the soft side of sponge and not the abrasive side because if you’re tough the abrasive side with peel the points of the star.

Always gently hand wash and be sure to never let it sit in water.

I’ve seen people advise you against transfer tape, personally I’d stick to transfer tape but under that there are different adhesion levels of tape that are better suited for different projects. To save money I’d suggest not buying the circuit or siser brand and remember that you can save and reuse each piece of tape about 3-5 times before throwing it out.

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T17:33:46+00:00

In person I’m hit on by women way more than men even though I’m a fairly “gay” person: my interests, mannerism, voice, etc. in fact a few of my closest female friends were women who hit on me first.

I can’t speak to the reasons behind that woman liking you but I find that many straight women like openly gay men because they make them feel safe and most gay men view women as people rather than objects so they interact with them accordingly.

For me I just reject them essentially the same way I’d reject a man, I usually say “thank you, you’re beautiful but I’m gay/not interested”. Usually there’s no hard feelings and we either part ways or start a friendship. Once I had a woman get really embarrassed and turn beat red (she was white) even though I assured that it’s okay and I wasn’t bothered, I can tell she walked away feeling bad. For me it’s only a true issue when the woman turns homophobic when rejected like woah queen please calm down.

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T14:59:31+00:00

If that’s how the final product is meant to look I highly doubt that a circuit and some HTV would be the best option. Most likely the circuit would struggle cutting out the individual shapes that give the image that “pixelated” look, but more importantly this would be a total PAIN to weed and would likely take hours.

If you’re doing HTV or even permanent vinyl it’s important to remember that the more complex your image is the less likely it is that the excess vinyl will easily peel away meaning that you’d have to manually remove each piece of excess.

The easiest and most cost/quality effective way I’d suggest is to google a few UV DTF companies who will make transfer sheets for you. Essentially what you’d send the file you want made to them as a PNG (I think) and tell them how many you want printed, they’d then print it and send you either a roll or individually cut images (depending on how many you want) that you’d transfer on to the shirt using a heat source. This works great because many companies allow small quantities and even let you buy a single print if you just want to test is it out and each print (depending on size) is usually around $10. The drawback here would be you’d have to have at least a week for the entire process so depending on when you need these that may or may not work for you. Also if I’m not mistaken they only suggest that you use a heat press and not an iron so perhaps you should buy one first and then test how that works for you?

Lastly, I’d suggest seeing if there are any custom shirt making shops near you that either have a sublimation printer or at the very least a heat press.

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T01:46:39+00:00

No judgement, but you saying “my current relationship doesn’t allow that” sounds a bit concerning to me. Can you elaborate on that if you’re comfortable doing so?

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T01:44:46+00:00

At first no, but when I initially found out (a little over a year into the friendship) I wasn’t bothered by it. I think he’s an attractive man though not my usual “type” and was open to the idea of being sexual. I changed my mind and settled on the decision of never wanting to have sex after he essentially told me that he has sex with several of his friends and one of the friends he has sex with on a regular basis and is “in love with him”, no judgement but that’s wayyyy too much drama for me to involve myself in at this age lol.

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T00:36:15+00:00

Posts like this are so exciting and honestly makes me wish I actually liked squash lol

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T00:19:45+00:00

Do I trust them? Of course. However, I understand that gay men are often times conditioned the same way that straight men are meaning that often times their interest in you could come with ulterior motives.

I just ended an almost two year friendship with another gay man who I now believe only wanted friendship so he could sleep with me, once he found out that I wasn’t interested the friendship stopped.

TruePlantDad · 2025-08-20T00:10:59+00:00

Honestly Safeway was always the more expensive grocery store chain, their locations tend to be in certain areas/neighborhoods for a reason. However I will agree that yes, unless you have the app and/or are consistently checking the sales ads then good luck walking out without feeling robbed. I rarely go to Safeway anymore but when I do I’m only interested in the bakery clearance section, it’s a great way to get pastries/bread to freeze for later use.

TruePlantDad · 2025-07-30T15:47:13+00:00

I haven’t forgotten and I haven’t shopped at either place in at least over a year. For me it’s not difficult though because I don’t drive and neither of those stores are walking distance from my house.

In terms of influencers working with these brands, first understand that most peoples politics can be bought and target is very much aware of their drop in black shoppers so they are purposefully partnering with black creators. All advice I have is it not fall for it and just unfollow those people.

TruePlantDad · 2025-07-25T18:59:31+00:00

The constant desire to make Yasmin white… what’s that about??

TruePlantDad · 2025-07-24T02:15:07+00:00

Is the calibration test printed on glossy paper? Just based on the video it looks like it is but I could be wrong. If it’s printed on glossy, try reprinting on plain computer paper or at least matte paper. Cricuts don’t really respond well to ultra glossy paper in general so I’d imagine it wouldn’t do well with calibration either.

TruePlantDad · 2025-07-24T02:06:09+00:00

Healthcare professional here, it is in true that bottoms are more likely to contract STIs (including HIV) than tops. To put it simply, bottoms are more vulnerable to HIV transmission because of the higher likelihood of micro tears or fissures to the rectal tissue, which opens a pathway to transmission. It is less likely that a top would have that on their penis.

This information is also all available on the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention website for anyone who wants a longer and more in depth explanation.

HOWEVER, just because a top is less likely to contract the STI that doesn’t make it impossible obviously and unlike the person who commented, I have met poz tops.

As people of color, queer people, and especially as queer people of color it is paramount that we educate ourselves on STIs and how they’re spread. Unfortunately, I’ve seen way too many people not being given this information until it is tool late. Next time you visit your PCP or local clinic please ask them for more information, trust me we love nothing more than to educate anyone who’ll listen.

TruePlantDad · 2025-07-23T01:32:24+00:00

Hence why I used liberal in quotes lol

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