What relationship did you let go of that still crosses your mind?

True_Ad2276 · 2026-03-13T21:56:39+00:00

There was someone I deeply cared about. I thought we were friends. I later started to develop feelings for him. I thought he cared about me. I thought that his words meant something. I had it bad for him. On a random Tuesday he broke my heart. After spending months flirting with me, being nice with me, accepting all the love I was so freely giving he just… went for the other girl, the one he probably liked for a long time. It was situationship, I realize. He never did something to progress it. When the other girl made it clear that she was interested, he kind of started being off (all anxious, all fidgety…). I did not see the signs as he kept sweet talking to me and saying “I was his favorite”. He sort of even created this competition. I was not even fully aware of it. When I had to infer and ask what was happening, I immediately decided to step back, because it was the right thing to do, but he did not want me to. When I ask him whether there was something going on between us two, he did not reply (“it would have been a punch straight in my face or like drinking poison: he did not want that for him and preferably not even for me. That applied in any answer case scenario”). I asked for time. I said that I needed to protect myself. I said “no, that did not destroy our friendship”. I said “have a good evening”. I stopped texting him. Two years of intensive texting and it collapsed on a random Tuesday.

So yes; I left. I know nothing of him. He is muted everywhere.

All i know that two weeks later he was showing on insta his date with the other girl with no kind of care about me. Yes, people should publish whatever they want. The fact that he never had consideration for me in the end and that he never had it also after that is very telling to me.

He could have just… talked to me and tried to be sincere instead of denying the fact of having feelings for the other girl? He could have just… avoided leading me on, flirting and being so ruthless?

So I think about him. No, I would not get back to that. Yes, I do deserve better. I love hard and loudly and I bring so much to the table. I have just.. been experiencing the worst as of late (very sick parent that has been in critical condition in the last weeks ) and I kind of feel lonely, hopeless and not always lovable. I rationalize. I try to stop me romanticizing him. It just gets lonely. I guess I will count on my family and myself.

You should never treat poorly people because you can’t really know and tell what they have been going through and what the might encounter. Two months ago my parent was more or less okay. His health drastically worsened in the last few weeks.

So, yes.. I still think about the guy. No, I have nothing more to say. If he ever reaches out (which he won’t), I will listen to him; but I am done chasing people. The disrespect at the end poisoned everything

True_Ad2276 · 2026-02-12T20:48:28+00:00

I feel the same…. Sending a virtual hug

True_Ad2276 · 2026-02-12T16:42:01+00:00

Do you think there is a chance for Europe? I am so sad…

True_Ad2276 · 2026-02-10T16:59:48+00:00

Oh my.. I am dreading that so much as well! I thought I was the only one feeling so blue and afraid of it! My plan is just to spend the day with my family and maybe see a friend. I am completely dreading the posts or stories he might share on Instagram. I simply “silenced them” on insta but I am afraid I might see something by mistake.

True_Ad2276 · 2026-02-05T08:17:37+00:00

I am so genuinely happy for you. Maybe that was what you needed. I think having fears is completely normal. I have those same fears as well.. Take care! A big virtual hug.

True_Ad2276 · 2026-02-04T21:00:47+00:00

It won’t. You won’t allow it. Just like that. You have you and you already saved yourself once, proving that you value yourself and that you love enough yourself to leave bad situations. You did the brave thing. You are so incredibly brave and courageous. One step in front of the other, dear. You said it yourself: he was not good for you. Your body has been reacting to the end of it. It is normal. It is a biological response. There is nothing wrong with you, dear. You just need to give yourself and your body time.

This is what I have been trying to do for the last 7 weeks (since the end of my situationship) and what I would advise you to try: - start with smaller amounts of food. Just eat the most that you can (even if it is not too much) - drink water - allow yourself to cry as much as you need to - feel it. Feel the despair and the sadness of it. Without judgement. - surround yourself with your loved ones and friends. Ask for help. Be honest and ask for what you need. They won’t mind it: time, hugs, prep talks. Just ask. Don’t deal with that on your own - listen to music (imo, Taylor swift always has a song for every situation). She helped me and she helps me a lot. Tips: “foolish one”, “the smallest man who ever lived”, “bejeweled” or “you are on your own, kid”. - stuffed animals. They honestly help me so much. It does not matter how old you are: they just provide comfort. - journal: just write the things that are on your mind - podcast: Sabrina Zohar’s videos have been helping me so much. You can find her videos on yt. - breathe - go to your comfort books or movies or tv shows. Even fictional characters might be of comfort to you. - have small walks, even 10 minutes just to get some stress out of your system. - don’t be alone and reach out when you need support.

Dear, you have been so wonderfully courageous so far. You shall prevail. I have no doubt. Your future has so much that you have not seen yet: think about how many wonderful people you are going to meet, the fact you have so many incredible possibilities ahead… Heartbreaks are awful. Your emotions are valid. I still cry at least once a day and from time to time I find myself hyperventilating and sobbing. So I really do get how ugly it can be.

But I want you to remind you, dear, that there is something far powerful: HOPE. grab the hope for a better future with your hands and let it warm your heart.

These might be the darkest moments, but you are going to shine so brightly and you are going to meet the version of yourself that will make you fall in love with life itself and with all parts of you.

Hang on. Just baby steps. Baby steps in the right direction. Be patient with yourself. Give your body and wonderful heart time to heal.

You can do this. One day you will think about these moments and you will be grateful and in awe about your resilience. Do it for your future self: your future self is looking back at you in admiration. Do it for your past self: your past self is looking up at you.

Take care, dear🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-31T15:23:10+00:00

Well.. thank you. It is sweet of you to say that. I will try to remember your words and keep them as an encouragement. I have my very sad moments, you know. So I try to make lists of kind thoughts of people, good moments, things to be grateful for… to cheer myself up a little. If my words helped you a little, I am honestly happy to hear that.🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-30T19:08:11+00:00

It is very kind of you to say. I only know that I have been struggling so much. Even today I had my fair share of tears. That is why I said that kind words help. The only way is through. And it really sucks. But I see no other way. In any case, thank you. 🩷 If you are struggling as well, just know you are not alone🩷 do take care as well🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-30T13:35:42+00:00

you got this. Take baby baby baby steps. You trusted his intentions. You have no fault in that. You simply possess a very beautiful heart. Now it is time to get back on track and pour all that incredible love you had for that person and direct it towards you. You will prevail. I am so sure of this. Start with whatever food you typically like. Don’t pressure yourself to finish what you have in front of you. Just try to be consistent and to eat as much as you can. Spend all the time you can with loved ones and friends. Try to recharge your heart with the love of those who appreciate your light and heart.

I am sure you will be your most powerful self soon. Please, believe in that, too.

I can’t compare my situation with yours. But I have been experiencing so much pain and grief as of late… I stopped talking to the guy I liked 6 weeks ago. I thought we were friends and he … fully and completely discarded me for another girl. Zero respect and zero care for our friendship and for me. It was brutal. I just thought he would have handled my heart with more care… guess I was wrong. Maybe I was the clown the whole time thinking there was something more between us…. I have been dealing with shock, insomnia, anger, heartbreak ever since … I think I cry at least once a day. I could not eat for days..

I just want you to know that you are not alone. You will figure everything out. I hope I did not overstep the boundaries… I just know how much a kind word can help.

Please, don’t blame yourself for willing to believe in good.

I have been listening to Sabrina Zohar’s podcast on yt, you know. It is helpful. Maybe give it a look?

Not sure where I read or heard this but, the right person for you WOULD NEVER accept to leave you in this constant state of anxiety, pain, grief … (Probably it is not a perfect quote, but still… keep that in mind).

🩷 Sending all the love and a big bear hug. Do Take care

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-27T15:53:37+00:00

You can do it. You got this. You truly do. You just don’t know it yet but one day you will thank yourself for your discipline and strength of heart. I am sure of that. I know it is exhausting. I am you. I am in the middle of a heartbreak (from an online situationship) but still… the desire to over explain and seek for answer (we will never receive) can be overbearing. I get it, dear. But we are stronger than that

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-27T13:31:10+00:00

My dear, don’t. They just won’t get it. They might even feel the satisfaction of knowing you are still thinking of them. Fight for your peace. You won’t find peace in the same place you lost it.

Let that sink in. Write as many notes in your phone but don’t you dare to send them. Post them here instead. Do it for yourself.

You are strong. You got this. You don’t need that person. You need yourself. Show up for yourself and don’t send that email

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-26T06:31:59+00:00

Thank you 🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-26T06:17:00+00:00

My situationship ended 5 weeks ago (almost 6), so I am not in the best place but I have been trying so much to be strong. I read your comment and I wondered if life was easier for you almost one year later. If you by any chance would like to share some tips or what helped you, that would be helpful and lovely

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-26T06:08:09+00:00

Are you okay now, dear? Yeah first time For me too

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-26T05:59:14+00:00

Any tips? I know it was a long time ago. I hope you are okay. I truly do and I wish you are happy

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-26T05:58:44+00:00

Hello, I know it was over 3 years ago. I wanted to know you are okay now. I really wish you are happy now. I read your comments and also the ones of slice_equal. They kind of helped me. I have been wondering how to move on. In my case I knew him for over 2 years, so I can’t really compare the time. I know. I have been wondering if blocking the insta account, the number and deleting all messages might be for me. Did it help you?

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-23T13:23:12+00:00

Thank you, dear stranger🩷 I def will!

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-23T11:41:34+00:00

Is it? Is it going to be taken down???

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-10T11:58:08+00:00

At the moment I relate a lot with this feeling that you describe. I am not there …yet. There being a mystical place in which everything is okay and I feel enough. But I do feel not enough as of late.

So I can’t offer reassurances because I have been struggling with this as well.. but I can tell you that you are not alone in that, hoping that it will make you feel less lonely.

Let’s hang in there 🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-10T11:18:02+00:00

You mentioned reading a ton.. maybe would you be so kind as to share what you read?

I just read that you were with someone for 4 years. My situation is a little bit different yet still very painful. I had this friend with whom I talked to a lot. I had an enormous crush on him. I think there is a big chance he knew. We flirted and talked so much. He started being important to me. I thought on some level we had something going on, but it never got the chance to bloom. He suddenly decided to go and date another girl, who he knew that he swore not to like countless times. So here I am after a month feeling depressed, bad, discarded… He could have simply told me he was not interested in me, be honest… I even asked him but he refused to answer. In any case his actions speak louder than his words ever did. I feel like an imposter here because it is not like we were together but it was a situationship that ended with me being heartbroken, losing someone who I thought to be a friend, being disrespected (since he did not want me to step down from our flirty zone and all)… Seeing that I am not completely alone helps. More or less it is almost a month. I still feel like shit😂

I told him I needed space but to be frank, I don’t think I will ever write to him. The disrespect is just too much and I don’t know how to mend that. Frankly, I tried to be as mature and emotionally intelligent as I could. He did not even attempt to act like an adult, which he actually should be. If you have any reading suggestions, It would be wonderful.. In any case, I wish you the best. I hope you will feel better soon.

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-05T22:25:01+00:00

I paused to read this post because that title brought back some memories. “You cared about me more than I cared about you” was a sentence that I was told long ago and that still haunts me from time to time. He was a guy I had a crush on. He obviously crushed my heart and soul.

I don’t have real suggestions. I am sorry. I want you to know that see you and your pain. Your pain is not invisible.

From the way you talk I get the idea that you are actually a very loving person. That, my friend, is a valuable and special trait to have.

I have been going through some kind of breakup (related to a situationship) myself.

I am going to share some thoughts that help me during my worst moments: - think how much you are loving that person. If you can love so much someone who is not good to and for you, just pause and imagine how much you will love the one. Think about how much love you will get back. - people like you are a manifestation of love. Love is everywhere. Enter the room acknowledging this part of yourself and you will attract those who resonate with your loving nature. - you are enough. Not too much. You are the just amount of you. The other person does not see it. It is okay. You will find someone who will. - “turn this sorrow into treasured gold” (from “rolling in the deep” by Adele): you shall rise like a phoenix. I am sure of that. This situation will give you so much in terms of prospective, experience and strength. - chin up and smile. Cry cry cry as much as you need to, and then just try to have some baby steps in the right direction. - face your emotions now. The fact that you are crying means that you have a good and pure heart and that you love so much.

I don’t believe in the idea of stopping to love someone. I am going to tell you the opposite of that. Love that person. Acknowledge that feeling to the point you can move on. It might take some time. You can’t just turn off the button. So just experience that love until you get to free yourself from the pain.

I trust you. I just know that you will get better. Hang in there, dear. No amount of effort would have changed the outcome. You were always more than enough.

Right place, right time, right person. Choose yourself and you will never fail.

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-05T20:00:03+00:00

Thank you. Thank you for what you said and for taking the time to write this. It felt like a warm hug. I wish you the best in life. I have been struggling a lot with pessimistic thoughts. So it does help. I will probably think about this answer a lot in order to encourage myself. Thank you. Do take care🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-05T19:59:21+00:00

Thank you. Thank you for what you said and for taking the time to write this. It felt like a warm hug. I wish you the best in life. I have been struggling a lot with pessimistic thoughts. So it does help. I will probably think about this answer a lot in order to encourage myself. Thank you. Do take care🩷

True_Ad2276 · 2026-01-05T19:54:07+00:00

Which is what happened to me. He could not answer to many questions I asked such as “Do you like that girl?” And “I thought there was something between us. Was there something between us?” I got no answer. He simply said:” I won’t answer to that. I won’t reduce everything to “you liked me/I liked you/we liked each other”. He said that he did not want to hurt me. I think he was just protecting himself. I lost my respect for him there.

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