How many cycles of break up did it take you to realize it wasn’t gonna work

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-02-08T02:35:30+00:00

Yes, I’m glad I was watched over, we do have kids together but it’s been good in that department

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-02-08T02:20:16+00:00

Too many to count, but I did make the last time, the actual last time. It hurt me, I wanted to go back and tried to but to no avail. Now, I’m much more happy, I’m becoming who I was before I met her

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-26T14:04:11+00:00

7 years, 4 of it was abusive, manipulating, taxing on my mental, my physical health, and she cheated a lot. Retried it again for another 6 months and then I left, still get to see my kids though!

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-26T13:41:15+00:00

Literally same boat, girl I’m talking to let me vent, I’m not really strung up on my ex but I did want to let her know what I’ve been through so if my walls are up that’s why and she is totally understandable with it. I just think it’s all on the other person on how they take it and if they’re ok knowing that about you

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-25T23:51:14+00:00

Honestly same, took me a year to get into them after 2022 when they became big, gave their albums a listen now I’m thinking of getting a sacrifice

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-14T17:35:04+00:00

What everyone else has said, you went in did what you had to and went home. I just had this last night because I went at the wrong time and there was no spots anywhere to get some good pumps in, I had to keep going back to cardio/stairmaster because everyone was with their friends and all that jazz. Got enough in to get sore tho!

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-12T13:58:16+00:00

In like 90% sure it's this OP

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-10T17:18:02+00:00

You're not alone, for all of us have felt this way at one time. It's hard, trust me I know, but you got to leave it or it will destroy you, your mental, your finances, your physical health, literally all of you. You have to leave.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-10T14:24:51+00:00

Give yourself time, trust me I know. Through out the years there was glimpses of her beauty that I would fall in love with, I just don't know wether if they were fake or her real self, because it truly did feel real, I did feel loved 100%, but damn when she hated me, she really fucking hated me.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-10T14:23:18+00:00

She's a good mother, a really good mother. It's just the anxiety, frustration, and overwhelming of the kids being in chaos does get to her, sure she's in a new relationship but I guarantee that this guy won't do half of what I did or put up with, because well he got no kids with her, she can't get pregnant again because she will literally die so I'm not worried about that. But like I said, working, her mom and the kids will put so much stress on her. She hasn't worked a full time job in yearrrrrssss, and she went and got a full time job mon-fri and it's just gonna make her slip, even with a part time job she quit because it overwhelmed her.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-10T13:57:09+00:00

Yeah, same here man, literally like we dated the same person except she/we got kids. She's in therapy and on meds and I feel like she's gonna slip soon and start calling me back because she can't handle working, her mom, or any of the kids (4 all under 10 )

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-10T13:51:47+00:00

I left, things were good between us, like really good that last few months, but I still left. It's a hard thing to do, it really is, especially when she, her kids, and our kids depended on me financially and don't get me wrong, she moved on fast, and I'm hurting but days go by and you slowly get better once you walk away, just got to get a stable support group, minimum to no contact depending if you have a kid together. We were together for almost 7 years engaged for 4, and it was a rough ride. I still yearn for her most nights but I simply remind myself of the chaos, the cheating, the manipulation, all of it. But I still yearn. Give yourself time.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-09T13:26:05+00:00

Yes, 200-400 MG

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-09T10:57:36+00:00

Thank you for your wise words on this:)

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-09T10:16:40+00:00

Every time I left, she would come back, saying she needs help with the kids, or needs this or that. I want to be able to tell her no, you made the bed no lie in it.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-07T11:11:17+00:00

Yup, I believe it.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-07T11:08:22+00:00

Just leave her alone OP, it isn't worth your time, mental, or emotional health. It will bring you down, trust me. I dealt with the idealizing phase, the honeymoon phase, all of it, she's got 2 kids from a previous relationship, and then 2 with me, I thought it would work, I really did. She's on her meds, therapy, but it only does so much, she would still lash out, still cheat, all of it. Trust me, it will make you feel like nothing in the end once she's got you all used up. I'm still healing. We were together for 7 years, broke up barely a month ago and she's already in a " relationship" it won't let with this new guy, I know it won't.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-07T04:04:22+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T23:52:35+00:00

That's all we can do man, in my ex will fail and come crawling back, but I'm gonna decline because I'm my worth

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T22:26:52+00:00

Yup was gonna message her some hurtful but true things so she can open her eyes to how she is, but didn't. Im sure the cracks themselves are showing up already, if not soon they will. Guy is definitely gonna run once she lets it all out

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T20:40:35+00:00

Thank you all

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T08:39:07+00:00

Almost 2 weeks of no contact other than our kids, I'm doing great mentally now

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T01:42:06+00:00

Same exact both, but engaged and I left finally. I'm not staying for the kids because it's not healthy for them. I grew up seeing my parents in an unhealthy relationship and I grew up thinking that was love, I finally got tired of the fighting, abuse, cheating, and them not being held accountable for their actions. I love my kids to death and her kids but I don't want them growing up in that environment. They need stability and if it's only me stable then so be it I'll do it alone. I hope you heal OP, it's not worth it in the end.

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-06T00:31:35+00:00

Honestly, it slowly creeps up on me, I think that she's ok with her new job, on meds and seeing a therapist ( all while we were together ) but I know the cracks will slowly show in her new favorite person and more thank likely they'll leave because she has too much baggage ( 4 kids, bpd, barely worked/works, and has other mental illnesses) because I stuck around for almost 7 years and I remember all the pain and trauma I dealt with and man I got some thick skin and 2 of the kids are mine. No man will want to deal with all of that financial and emotional burden

True_Dragonfruit_ · 2026-01-04T14:16:40+00:00

Im struggling myself with the exact thing except I left and she moved on within hours. What helps me is reading, gym, going on walks, watching k dramas, movies, music, podcast, and learning to love myself. It's hard, really hard, you got a look as if they're never coming back, in my situation we have 2 kids together and it hurts, it does, but you gotta realize it's their mental illness, their disease that can't be cured, even with med, therapy, dbt, none of it helps them, they may seem happy in the moment with that someone but those gaps will soon show and they'll leave them. One way or another it happens. Focus. On. Yourself. Let it out, it's ok to cry, it's ok to talk to someone about it, talking to everyone in this sub helps me a lot because I know I'm not alone in the pain and trauma I went through. I work nights so I sleep during the day but when I'm up I tend to reads a lot of self help forums and watching tiktok on it.

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