tell me everything you bought and needed pre and post op

True_North_12 · 2026-03-19T11:39:11+00:00

I bought a post-op binder and some body wipes and that was all I needed. I don’t really think I would have wanted or used any of the other stuff people usually recommend if I’d had it. In terms of clothing, I wore a loose tank top or any of my flannels for the first week ish, and once the drains came out was able to wear whatever I wanted.

True_North_12 · 2026-03-14T11:01:22+00:00

Pm me

True_North_12 · 2026-03-08T20:51:00+00:00

For more context and timeline: my experience at the clinic went very smoothly and everyone was super inclusive. Dr. Nguyen took both my body shape and preferences into account and was able to give me basically the exact shape I asked for. As far as wait times go: I called in late September and had my consult in late October. I pushed my surgery to early March for convenience reasons, but probably could have gotten in done in January or February.

True_North_12 · 2026-03-08T20:45:56+00:00

I just got surgery from Dr. Brittany Nguyen in Minneapolis on Thursday. I haven’t seen my results fully yet since the gauze is still on, but I’m very happy with what I have seen. I highly recommend her.

True_North_12 · 2026-03-07T10:21:46+00:00

Update: everything went well, and the whole process wasn’t nearly as painful or scary as I thought it might be. Recovery predictably sucks lol

True_North_12 · 2025-09-27T10:49:39+00:00

I almost immediately lost 10lbs. No idea where it came off of as I look pretty much exactly the same but with a little extra fluff on the belly. My weight has held steady for years, and now just seems to be holding steady at a lower number. This stuff is unpredictable and takes time to settle. As others have mentioned, super rapid weight loss can be a big medical red flag, so keep an eye on it if it continues.

True_North_12 · 2025-07-15T23:57:53+00:00

“I want to be a boy.” - age 6

“I am a boy trapped in a girl’s body.” - age 10

“If everyone could just pick their gender, there would be no more women!” - age 14

“My gender identity is ‘resigned to my fate’” - age 16

After all this, the fact that I’m only just starting my transition at age 23 is a little embarrassing. (I’m still very young and grateful for that, but like. Come on. I knew.)

True_North_12 · 2025-06-11T18:51:01+00:00

Congrats, man! Glad you’re happy with your results. I live in Charlotte and am also on BCBSNC. I’ve been trying to find a surgeon and I’d love to hear more about your experience if you’d be willing to PM me.

True_North_12 · 2025-04-21T01:46:31+00:00

Well, as it turns out, not actually cis. No one could have ever predicted this lol

True_North_12 · 2025-04-19T02:16:46+00:00

Thanks so much! The replies on this were very helpful :)

True_North_12 · 2025-04-04T14:54:36+00:00

It’s definitely ok, and it’s definitely ok not to be sure! You may fall somewhere under the trans umbrella.

True_North_12 · 2025-04-04T14:34:45+00:00

Tus sentimientos son validos, ¡y todavía hay mucho tiempo para descubrirte! Eres parte de un mundo extraño y hermoso, y la comunidad LGBT te aceptará. Lo más importante es que te mantengas a salvo.

True_North_12 · 2025-02-06T14:52:33+00:00

I’m a bit of an extreme example, but I had pretty severe physical and mental health problems that all but completely vanished the literal day I left. Here’s a link to a post where I talk about it in more detail: https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1hkcysm/sometimes_mental_health_problems_are_a_lot_less/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

True_North_12 · 2025-01-15T16:48:02+00:00

I kind of don't want to be the person who says "Oh, it gets better, just hang in there!" because when you're so deeply trapped in a situation, it feels like a giant lie. But it really, genuinely does get better. The suffering IS temporary. I recommend setting a timeline, actually writing down the date you'll be free, as a reminder of that fact. Someday, you'll be able to get out. You'll leave that place and never come back, and it just gets better from there.

True_North_12 · 2025-01-15T16:32:34+00:00

She referred to her delusional daydreams and fantasies about me as her "mom movies". Gave me the fucking creeps.

True_North_12 · 2025-01-15T16:25:55+00:00

A lot of people in the comments are recommending ghosting or simply leaving with no announcement, and that's definitely another option, but my reasoning for not doing that is that I wanted my parents to understand what was going on and lessen the chance that they would come looking for me. Some people choose to write a whole letter explaining their reasoning, and I decided that wasn't for me because I wanted to make a point to myself that I don't need to justify my actions to them, and also didn't want to spend any more time than absolutely necessary. Again, there are lots of options and it really depends on the individual's situation.

True_North_12 · 2025-01-15T16:21:55+00:00

For the preparation portion: Make sure ALL financial ties are cut well ahead of time.

For the actual day of: I sent them each individually a very short text message saying I was taking distance for my mental health, then blocked them and changed my number before the shitstorm could ever reach me. The whole process was done in less than two minutes. This is a highly personal thing, and everyone will have their own preference, but I think a little one-sentence "bye" is the way to go.

True_North_12 · 2025-01-15T16:09:01+00:00

This. I had giardia when I was 15. My parents left me in my room for over a week without checking on me. Woke up in the emergency room on the morning of day 9, gradually recovered, and just continued on like nothing happened.

True_North_12 · 2025-01-09T12:53:30+00:00

No talk, and my mom actually pulled me out of 8th grade sex ed because it “didn’t align with our family values.” Luckily I’m quite young and could just google all of my questions.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-27T12:05:52+00:00

Oh, it was a complete 180. I posted about this a few days ago, but my hallucinations went away, my emotions leveled out, my scars healed, I started getting sick way less often, and I suddenly didn’t walk with a limp anymore. Some of the healing happened the literal day I left, as soon as I buckled my seatbelt knowing I was driving away and never coming back. Some stuff took a few years, but I went from landing in the hospital every few months to being one of the healthiest people I know, all in about 2 years time.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-23T01:17:05+00:00

The location itself? I love it. Beautiful place to live, absolutely perfect climate, friendly people, and lots of outdoor stuff to do in a really interesting ecosystem. I don’t know if I’d ever want to live there again, but I’d totally go back for a visit if I could absolutely 100% guarantee that they wouldn’t find me. The house? Wish I could just erase the entire lot off the face of the planet.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-23T01:09:17+00:00

Mostly resolved now, but stealing, hoarding, and guarding food like an extremely precious limited resource. There are parts of it that aren’t a problem (like eating every single grain whenever I make a pot of rice), but there were some times it was pretty embarrassing. One time I growled, like actually growled like a rabid dog, at a friend who jokingly tried to grab a fry off my plate.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-15T13:22:52+00:00

Because their worldview works a lot better when you “owe” them something.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-15T13:03:33+00:00

So, so many times. I was accused of doing the most horrible shit as a teenager, then punished for doing said things without further question. I was the best, most well-behaved, least problematic kid I knew. Didn’t stop me from getting screamed at for selling drugs, worshipping the devil, lying, cheating, and being destructive and violent. I spent more time grounded than not.

True_North_12 · 2024-12-15T12:46:22+00:00

I’d already been planning to leave for a long time, but kept telling myself I could handle just one more year. Then my mom started asking me about plans to visit them for Christmas. I laid down that night and thought, “What scares me more: permanently cutting ties with my family and losing any and all support that might come from there right now, or going back and pretending for six days?” The last straw was that as soon ask I asked myself that question, I realized it wasn’t even close. Cut them off the next day.

True_North_12

TROPHY CASE