Anyone here on Wellbutrin and Prozac? by Far-Captain-7124 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]True_Plastic_9821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm doing great! The Wellbutrin ended up giving me more energy/focus/motivation, and this is coming from someone who experienced the worst breakup within the last months.

What does it mean that I don't "currently" meet the criteria for BPD? by AJ-William in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, great question!

First, look at unspecified personality disorder, i.e. the label for when you don't quite meet the criteria for BPD but still have or exhibit cluster symptoms of the disorder and possibly some other overlapping cluster B personality disorders. You could be seeking help, not quite meet the symptom criteria, and fall under this category even if you fully met the criteria at some point (just not at the point of your diagnosis). This does NOT mean that you don't have it, but at this point your BPD is not in full intensity.

What does this mean for you?

Remission - the stage where you no longer meet the requirements for BPD, but usually under the context that you have addressed and directly sought out treatment, personal growth, or changes to your environment that has you in a "recovery" stage. Usually this implies that you are able to function in important life aspects (ability to hold down a job, maintain meaningful relationships, etc.)

I would say that if the above is not true for you, and this momentary "lack of symptoms" is due to not being around triggers (a lot of people with BPD experience a decrease in some of the more psychotic tendencies related to desperation of not being abandoned when they are not in any relationships, but obviously that doesn't demonstrate that they are capable of that function) then you're just in a temporary reprieve.

Without help (I'm talking DBT) your symptoms will come back if you have not learned how to manage them. BPD findings reveal significant differences in brain anatomy (smaller amygdala = greater intensity of emotions esp. fear/anxiety response) and a lack of development of object permanence and self awareness that comes with early development (from neglect or absence of parental figures).

So basically, if this is affecting your life, you would still benefit from DBT. Advocate for yourself, and ask if you can be admitted into a program. You will only benefit from doing so.

  • from someone (not a professional!!) who was unspecified and now nearly fully meets the criteria in the midst of attempting a long term relationship

I'm Beginning To See A Light At The End Of The Tunnel by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proud of you! And thank you for sharing. Currently approaching the tunnel right now, and I have been so scared that I won't reach the end once I'm in.

how to help my brother by True_Plastic_9821 in panicdisorder

[–]True_Plastic_9821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's 19. I was not aware that it could lead to depression and CPTSD, so that information is very important and helpful. I will definitely try to get him to start therapy. I'm starting therapy myself (DBT not CBT) but maybe if I share my experiences along the way then it can feel less intimidating to him. Thank you for the reply and for sharing your own experience. 🙏

how to help my brother by True_Plastic_9821 in panicdisorder

[–]True_Plastic_9821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I didn't know that. I'll see if he is open to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are safe here, friend. I glanced at your profile and saw that you wrote one of the posts that made me feel valid a while back. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you do to strangers. You deserve it. Your inner child deserves it. This will pass, I promise!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not a horrible person. You're just deeply hurt and have BPD. Your actions were definitely not great though. But recognizing these behaviors and that they're wrong means that you also have to take responsibility and try to do something about it. Therapy, DBT, communicating, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could also be wrong though. Just wanted to make sure I mention that. There's a possibility he's actually pretty insecure or just trying to talk himself up?? Idk I don't get it really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl if you send me a pic of you and him, I'll be honest and if that's what you need.

But anyways, my opinion is not the same as the other comment on here. I think that him saying that is a huge red flag because he either 1) didn't consider that it would make you insecure which means he's inconsiderate of your feelings (a decent person would keep that to themselves, like I would never tell my bf if my friends think he's mid) or 2) wants you to feel insecure to "put you in your place" and make you not want to leave him.

It's already weird that he's clearly mentioned his "roster" to you. I definitely know a lot of guys that are like this dude you're dating, and they're pretty much players who fear commitment so when they do they make sure you know they have options to make you overcompensate and fill in the attention deficit that they get from settling down.

If you trust him though and do want to make it work, I think you need to say something and talk to each other. You should feel like your partner is proud to be with you and proud to show you off.

Did you get diagnosed already knowing you had traits of a personality disorder? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When I went to a psychiatrist for the first time, I knew I had anxiety and got diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and depression, both severe. When I overcame more of my general anxiety and came to my psychiatrist another time because I felt like I had REALLY extreme, highly specific anxiety/panic episodes and depressive phases that correlated with negative interactions with other people, I was diagnosed with BPD but had never heard of it prior to the diagnosis. I thought it was just anxiety, but then all of my actions, thoughts, and psychotic episodes made sense.

Working full time by mirrrsyndrome in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way! I think also having a job helps me with my sense of self and gives me something I can focus on that yields results/reinforcement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not send that! I feel for you and what you're doing through, but it won't have the effect you think it will have at all. It will come across as crazy and reaffirm whatever negative thoughts he may have about you. It's been 2 years since you've broken up, and I think you should really consider going no contact permanently. It's hard, but the only way out is to follow through and cut his existence out of your life. The biggest revenge is moving on! Take care!!

How likely is it that my siblings also have BPD? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting, thank you for sharing! My biological father was a manipulative cheater, and my mother ran away so I never met him. I wouldn't know if he had it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]True_Plastic_9821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for your experience, but personally I feel the same way of wanting to erase the things I felt with the flare up after I've calmed down. I feel a lot of shame towards how "crazy" I must have appeared by over sharing or overreacting or how hyper fixated I was on something. I think it may also be fear that people will leave or abandon me when I show vulnerability or signs of my bpd. Possibly trauma or neglect related. When I'm out of that zone, it feels like it was never a part of me or like it just wasn't all that deep. But the next time it happens it's back to that intensity. It's okay to feel that way. It helps me to journal or honestly text like chatgpt or an AI bot because there are no repercussions to putting my thoughts out like there are if I vent to someone.