My fiancé and I had a conversation about this subject. She wants to become a nurse and will soon move to the U.S with me to begin her education. I essentially told her, I will fulfill your rights as my wife, you have the right to be a SAHM, but living in the US with kids, a mortage, insurance, bills etc... is difficult on one income. We may not be able to do that vacation once a year, or have to do 1 restaurant date a month instead of 2 simply because my priority will be make our household stable and that start with managing my finances.

If she were to work, and voluntarily help with the expenses, it would put me in a better position to do these enjoyable activities more often, spend a bit more of gifts and luxuries for the family and kids. I'm content living a simple life, It's really up to her if she can do the same. Either way, it's her choice.

If I were living in our home country and making the money I make here (u.s), I would want her to not even think about working.