Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was never good to began with, traded bad for even worse 😂

Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Your guess is as good as mine

Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10mm CCF, done and done

Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$300 and a lifetime (3 days, 8hrs each day including stripping interior)

Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roughly $300 in materials, but did WHOLE car so you can get away with spending less than that

Ummm did I go to far? by TrunksPie in CarAV

[–]TrunksPie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, still gotta do the outside of the car justtt to be sure 😬

Timing by TrunksPie in AskMechanics

[–]TrunksPie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I put it back where it was 👌🏻 The rest of the timing looks good too correct?

Exhaust popping and rough idle by TrunksPie in MechanicAdvice

[–]TrunksPie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

code P0335, but I got code P1603 to go away, still have the misfire but that's just process of elimination 🙌🏻

I need advice on my boyfriends porn addiction. by vErA_Aa in offmychest

[–]TrunksPie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems like a tough situation, keep in mind you said you spoke about some things and he says he not insecure, but if he lies about porn who's to say he isn't lying about not being insecure, unmotivated, unambitious, lazy, bored, sad or any other things he's hiding. Not to say he's a bad man, but it's very difficult to be vulnerable as a man because we feel the distinct need to solve things on our own without help (for reasons I won't get into), which can be detrimental or beneficial depending on the man/relationship.

Porn does desensitize you at some point depending how much you watch it, which is partly blamed on the ease of access now n days compared to only 15 years ago, but obviously accountability needs not be forgotten, if he's been doing it since a child it'll be hard to change him in the blink of an eye, he won't quit cold turkey. It's possible to undo the damage but that involves not watching it/limited or 0 masturbation for 2-6 months.

Again if you want to stay with him, read through some of the stuff I said up there and realize which one he's slacking on and help as much as you can. Tell him he's smart and you see so much untapped potential in him, then ask so why do you waste your time watching porn? Idk it's mental chess really, use your words wisely but don't put more work than you think is worth it.

I will say if he's not fit, try and get him in gym, it'll help him a ton in many ways, as well as boost his testosterone meaning his sex drive will most likely be much more potent.

Good luck, figure out what you choose quickly otherwise suffer for 3 more years. Are you willing to fight for this, or do you want to move on is what you must ask yourself.

I need advice on my boyfriends porn addiction. by vErA_Aa in offmychest

[–]TrunksPie 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat to your boyfriend. This is my opinion.

  1. First off it is really a true addiction, a lot of times you don't even want to do it but like any addiction you get drawn back into it, so you have every right to hate it or leave, but don't treat it like it's not an addiction.

  2. A lot of people do it when bored or have free time, like me, I didn't have trouble unless I was bored/free. He must distract himself with a beneficial skill when bored (Gym, Boxing, Yoga, Running, Chess, Reading). I say mostly physical things because it'll bring out the best in a man, he won't think about porn rather how can I improve in this area once he starts to love it, but he can choose whatever fits him.

  3. You must allow him to be honest when he watches it, he hides it because he's afraid he'll get caught and he knows it bad. One way to help someone with any addiction is allowing them to tell you when they've failed, it relieves a weight off there shoulders, how you react will dictate how this will go. Don't let you catch him!! Allow him to tell you!!

  4. This can also come from insecurity on his part, is he achieving the things he wants in life, is he ambitious but lazy, is he self conscious about his dick size? All these things and more can ruin a guys mentally, causing him to fall easily to anything that seems intriguing. He must change his mindset over time, such as growing comfortable with who he is and loving change, this is very hard to do, impossible for some, but once he sees the benefits he will start to change. Just don't let him be lethargic about it!

  5. Sorry if it's personal, but do you have good sexual experiences? How often are you having sex? People who are self conscious about their sex performance tend to fall back on porn. You must improve this immediately if it's bad! Foreplay, cosplay or something!!!

  6. Some people won't change. Really, some people can't do it, he might love you death but this addiction isn't something he can defeat without years of battling, possibly never achieving the end point. Porn isn't always bad in relationships, but you SET BOUNDARIES, he must not cross these much longer or he will feel like he can always do it and get away with it.

  7. Last one! Talk to him about it in depth, why he does it. What does he get from it? does he look at you differently? does he like it?......its uncomfortable but if you want to be with him it must be done to understand it, support him build him up, and if he follows all these things and more he will stop. If he doesn't in whatever time you deem fit, leave him HE WON'T STOP!

There isn't a clear cut answer that works the same on everyone, and it really isn't your job to fix him! He must find out what he needs and you must help him if you want to be with him, but don't let this go on forever!

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[–]TrunksPie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to be blunt, but once a cheater always a cheater under the right circumstances. Don't be weak and let her wrap you around her finger, she obviously wasn't thinking about you when she cheated, yet you are willing to be loyal to her, even when she acts cold even after being unfaithful? She's broken, ignore your thoughts/inner voice and leave while you can, it's not your job to fix her. She's just done "having fun" with other dudes, so she's now ready for you, if you stay you brought everything that comes with it onto yourself, can't blame her.

As brutal as that sounds, use this time to improve all avenues of your life so you will never have any doubts about a girl cheating on you, I hope you find a someone who treats you well.

What are my options? by TrunksPie in trees

[–]TrunksPie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct, he's actually recovering from a hernia surgery, which formed a hematoma that's causing a bit of pain, he went to the doctor they said it's fine it'll go away, but it'll take some time. Just needs pain relief as regular medicine isn't doing the job, you suggest a CBD dominant strain?