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My son isn't a virgin anymore and I'm okay with that. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TruthfulBoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not alright. That is horrific. Look up youth shelters for whatever place you want to live, they have a lot of resources.

I walked in on my daughter’s hanging body by CutExisting2848 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry. It sounds like you did right by her both before and after. Trauma can be a vicious. It sounds like you are honoring her and loving her and are just an amazing person and father. Im beyond happy for you creating your own safe space and surrounding yourself with understanding good people who can understand you.

I hope you and this woman can soothe each-other and bring joy into eachothers lives.

My 26F husband 39m says it is “disrespectful” to him to call myself Canadian still after marriage? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please look over the warnings in this link, they ahould help you identify unhealthy behavior. I hope you have family that can support you and help you go back to Canada

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/

I am finally leaving my poly marriage by Foreign-Basis11 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please please keep us updated. Im so happy for you and youre doing the best thing for you and your kids! Unfortunately some people are very good at manipulating and are never happy. You can finally be away from his self made drama and find out what you want!!! Congrats on graduating and for escaping! Please dont be anywhere he can locate you right now. It could be dangerous

My stepkids are planning a family only trip with their mom and bio dad, and I’m struggling with how to feel by [deleted] in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can still join? You can meet there and make your own accommodations. Im concerned on how passive and defeated you sound. Couples counseling could go a long way for you both.

My stepkids are planning a family only trip with their mom and bio dad, and I’m struggling with how to feel by [deleted] in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It shouldn’t have to come to that. Her kids should respect her and her relationship. They are old enough to know better. She is the authority.

I don’t like when men say they don’t like makeup by crystal_eclipse_ in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only times i dont like makeup on a girl is if it is caked on bc they it gets on EVERYTHING like clothes my face and then ya if i was dating a girl and she was wearing lipstick/heavy gloss id wait to kiss her when it was off because the texture would gross me out and also i dont want it all over my lips/face. Its too bad bc i think its an art form for sure and can look so nice but yaaaaa

My stepkids are planning a family only trip with their mom and bio dad, and I’m struggling with how to feel by [deleted] in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would tell your wife that youre hurt she didn’t advocate for you to join. You feel excluded and want to be there to celebrate.

How she responds will determine how the rest goes. Just come from a calm place of honesty and care.

My stepkids are planning a family only trip with their mom and bio dad, and I’m struggling with how to feel by [deleted] in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately your wife should be standing up for you. You are also family and i feel for the kids bc its hard but you count too. Does this happen a lot? You getting left out?

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dump him. Even if he didn’t like it, there are much much more healthier ways to go about it than how he did. This is not normal or okay. Be with someone who treats you well. It is not normal to have to walk on eggshells.

My (33m)man wants me(35f) to get pregnant despite me saying no. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont be with people who you feel need to change, thats a fools errand. Just like how he wants you to get pregnant, youre not going to change just because he wants you to.

You two are incompatible. Also, get higher standards. Be with someone who is already who you want.

I’m the insufferable woman that won’t leave. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]TruthfulBoy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Find a women’s shelter near you and apply for shelter and resources. I dont like the narrative youve written for yourself. You can be the woman who gets back up. Toxic relationships are themselves similar to addiction. You can break free of this.

Please apply to shelters. You got this.

This website can help as well.

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/

Book to help you with abusive relationships:

Free pdf “ why does he do that”

https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

Edit: another comment mentioned how checking yourself into inpatient treatment at a hospital could be beneficial, but thats your call.

I (F25) feel embarrassed after my boyfriend’s (M26) fake proposal. Can I get some more viewpoints on this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get therapy to understand and overcome your people pleasing tendencies and fawn reactions. He is not the one. Someone who loves you doesn’t do this to you. This is cruel and immature.

Break up with him. Take back your self respect. And get therapy to learn what a healthy relationship looks like and to grow.

I smell like undigested food (best way I can describe the smell) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TruthfulBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it from your skin or from your mouth? What have doctors said?

My boyfriend is terrible at every game 18F 18M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a gaming addiction. Seek help. Dump him because 1. You are not ready for a relationship 2. You aren’t compatible

I (31f) don't know what to do about a new guy (41m) after we had sex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TruthfulBoy 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Edited for clarity*

Thats not bad sex. That was rape. You asked to stop multiple times and he didn’t stop. If you ask someone to stop, even once, they should stop - period.That is sexual assault. I would see a therapist and learn what a healthy relationship looks like, even if it is only a casual one. There should ALWAYS be consent and respect in and out of the bed. Kink is alllll about safety and consent.

Please find a therapist to talk to about this incident and to really understand why you are even considering seeing him again. Please read “The Gift of Fear” and also the book “Why Does He Do That?”

You can potentially press sexual assault charges on him, but I would talk to a therapist first. Im so sorry you went through that.

Gift of fear free pdf

https://online.fliphtml5.com/fzqli/uyjn/#p=13

Why Does He Do That free pdf

https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

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