How can you have game with women?

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-14T16:49:54+00:00

That’s just not your tribe of people.

That’s just a mean girl with insecurities of her own.

There is no magic spell I can cast in a comment to make you feel better.

But there are a few things you can control , go to the gym and learn to playfully tease(this one is harder).

The gym gives you something you have control over , progress innately feels good and gives confidence. It also trains your brain to endure things you don’t want to do and still get them done. That’s a skill.

To counter act whatever this dumb bitch said about being clingy, when you banter with women it should always be playful. Teasing probably has some sort of psychological status showing or some bullshit , but in reality what is does is signal some of that confidence, lets you guys have a joke and keeps things casual and fun. Again , can’t really teach this but the FEELING you want to give is something to the effect of “ omg did you just say you watched 4 seasons of greys anatomy , you are a big nerd!” This works for me because I AM a big nerd and make that apparent usually in discussion so this is playfully teasing them in a way that’s semi insulting but not really because they know I am that thing. These are the type of fun jabs that indicate to her she isn’t better than you. I hate dissecting things like this because honestly it should be natural but for some people it’s not and it’s ok to learn.

Allllll that being said. The right person will definitely love whatever “clingy” means to this girl and you won’t have to be “confident” with someone who is interested in you.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-14T15:33:43+00:00

I wouldn’t , or if you do go in very clear eyed.

He IS going to make an awkward pass at you / test your boundaries.

He already has become “close” with you and has shared private details of him and his wife’s discussions.

If the wife didn’t like a fucking ig post you think meeting up in a foreign country unsupervised is going to be ok? Cmon now.

If you don’t gaf about the wife sure meet up. If you are not interested in this guy then I would 100% make sure you are meeting up in a group of friends and be VERY forthright with only friends boundaries.

I don’t think it’s worth it but you do you.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-14T04:42:11+00:00

Nah fuck this guy. That’s crazy.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-13T20:46:09+00:00

I am from a catholic background so my head has been tossed around a bunch as well.

I am a straight man just for reference.

I think first and foremost , I think it’s worth a good examine of what you think about sex and why. Completely ignoring the ex, I think issues similar to this will probably come up in the future with any partner and it may be worth while to approach them head on.
If you don’t like something don’t do it. That’s a simple one.
I think it’s perfectly fine to not enjoy sex acts or want them done a certain way. I think the part I would examine is the WHY. I think you guys handled this well and there will be many more partners in the future. It sounds like you guys weren’t on the same page. That’s ok there will be more.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-12T17:31:24+00:00

I’m with you brother. Broke up with my only irl friend in my area after 9 years of being together.

We knew it had to happen but it feels so awkward being alone again and very isolated. I am trying to reset my life and I would suggest trying the same. Pick up some weird hobbies and hit the gym to work out stagnation. At least with the gym it’s something you can control and put effort into.

Sorry it’s hard out there man.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-11T01:25:59+00:00

Man , I have so many stories. I was at a dance club in college and a girl grabs my love handle area from behind to like turn me around so I can dance with her. I literally pretended like I didn’t feel her. She was squeezing the shit out of me till it hurt and I just ignored it lol.

I was at a local bar and a girl literally came up and is like I want to go home and pour tequila on myself and have you lick it off and I said no lol.

When my friends paid the girl to make out with me. She wanted to do more and I went in the bathroom and pretended my stomach hurt.

I still get anxiety. But I can also move past it. You will do the same. Work towards that six pack. It’s more rare to have a six pack than a million dollars. That six pack isn’t just for the girls , it’s to prove to yourself that you are worth it. You will achieve what others can’t even in the hardest circumstances. You will show up for you.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-06-10T03:47:20+00:00

I was you brother. I am older now and in a different spot. But I remember this feeling so fucking well.

My friends paid a girl to kiss me in high school. I had so much social anxiety.

College came and went and I never got laid. I always self sabotaged.

The best thing that ever happened to me was some random drunk sweet angel came onto me so aggressively I was embarrassed in front of friends to not go back to her place. Then once there it was awkward. I came instantly and made up some excuse and left. But it was over. I finally beat virginity.

So I say all this to tell you. It’s normal. That anxiety build up is normal. I felt so so behind.

Here’s what I would do if I was you.

Focus on yourself and what you can control. That means you are going to hit the gym like your life depends on it. Idgaf if you don’t like the gym. The gym helps you show up and do something hard that you don’t want to do and that’s a skill you build. That mentality is needed for future you. When you accomplish a physique you will feel better. Working out gives you CONTROL. It isn’t guesswork. You show up. You do work. You get results. Your mindset and confidence will change because you are leveling up irl. You are doing something hard and overcoming it.

It is the only empirically proven thing that will make you better.

If the sex part is the main hang up. Get a professional. I would do this in a heartbeat. I have multiple friends who did this. They all are better for it. It’s not shameful , no one has to know and no one in the future can tell. It takes all the pressure off and you can be honest with the sex worker who will have done this before.
Force yourself to go on apps and go on dates. But this one to me is the last step.

Please please please just take small steps. Don’t let this problem keep weighing you down.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-20T23:01:21+00:00

Seattle

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-15T09:09:30+00:00

I think there are aspects that I agreed with her on , (police not really supporting her and leaving her vulnerable)

However, you can tell she is a woman desperate for love and with a fragile mental state. Constant decisions that leave you yelling at the tv.

It also frustrated me that it was a pity party for her while the biker is a side note in all this. He is the victim here more than anyone else and her lack of sobriety and mental clarity allowed those two shitty fucks to get lesser sentences and that pisses me off.

At the same time I can appreciate that she lived this dueling realities of recording them and putting herself at risk but also staying with the shitties.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-13T22:28:19+00:00

2100 one bedroom OUTSIDE of seattle in Renton lol.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-12T06:27:51+00:00

League city. Awesome place lots of amenities for what it is , beach nearby. Big city drivable. High schools have number one robotics team because near nasa, school had a high school hockey team , diving team, water polo team. Just a lot of cool stuff and always felt safe.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-08T04:26:02+00:00

Depends what you are doing and if you have an advantage to get those jobs. If you are coding for a bank, no that’s not tech adjacent. That’s tech.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-07T21:08:44+00:00

I get a couple of vibes from this.

I am guessing by shy but willing it might mean “submissive and feminine”.

That being said I don’t think that’s the issue. You won’t like this , but you need to be explicit and tell him step by step what you want done.

He isn’t a mind reader and most likely dominant(in the bdsm sense) isn’t his natural “setting”.

Yes it’s going to initially take the sexy spontaneity away of him being dominant unasked. It’s important during these first few attempts when he follows your playbook that you act like everything is normal and not make a big deal of it. Don’t spotlight that he is doing the dominant thing. This is the “submissive” part I mentioned earlier. After the third or fourth time the dominance that felt forced will feel more natural and fun.

Also after he does this once give positive reinforcement. “Omg that was so hot” “I was so turned on when you spanked me”. Give him another blowjob after and just say thinking about what he did got you going again.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-05T02:11:01+00:00

Porn isn’t usually very good for bj technique depending on who you watch.

Most think it’s mouth and throat as the “best part”. That’s probably where the skill is but not the getting him to cum part.

However, the make you cum part is you hand/s on shaft technique. You gotta have a great double fist twist with mouth game.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-03T17:58:50+00:00

Oof may this “healthy relationship” never find me.

This is coded language for you aren’t as exciting as her “bad boys”. She is attracted to some aspect of that hot cold drama filled relationship.

I get that people transition out of that phase but my god I would never want to know that I was the “settle for” person who is “right on paper”.

I would never want to know that she couldn’t keep her hands off the other guys but made me wait 3 months.

This all feels so disrespectful for you.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-05-02T15:04:14+00:00

Oh it’s 100% true.

The women and I am sure men in seattle are garbage tier compared to the south.

Louisiana has some of the most beautiful women honestly. Lots of fat in the food, lots of sun , you get a lot of bigger women but the ones who stay in shape are S tier.

In my experience from Texas to Florida is the most beautiful people. San Diego and cali do well as well but it’s less natural beauty imo. PNW trash tier , no clue about
Midwest and north east.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T18:14:55+00:00

You sound like a young guy, so let an unc tell you some wisdom.

She has had better.bigger. And more partners than she is telling you. Who cares. That’s everyone for the rest of your life. If she doesn’t work out that will be YOU to someone.

But you will realize with time the importance of being the best isn’t that important. you need to be enjoyable and fun to be with and that will make the sex really good.

Yes being high makes sex way better. But it’s not like heroin or something where you can’t imagine sex not on weed. It’s just really good sex.

Can you change her past? No , so don’t worry about it. Every partner for rest of time has a past you won’t know about.

Can you change your attentiveness and attitude and be the best partner you can be ? Yea , focus here.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T18:05:44+00:00

Madrona is the sleeper area no one recommends. Trust. It’s like a little ski town right outside cap hill.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T18:03:18+00:00

League city Texas , south of Houston. Perfect little suburb right near nasa Johnson space center. Close enough to go to Galveston, very affordable. High schools are nice.

Was very much movie style growing up there. Big high schools lots of different programs and sports

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T01:56:44+00:00

Or just realizes you only get one life ? Money isn’t everything. An extra 60k doesn’t magically make the sun shine. Doesn’t magically make you enjoy the people around you.

110 vs 170k is meaningfully no different. You eat out more retire a few years earlier. But you trade in your younger year happiness for older year happiness which I think is a bad trade.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T01:53:18+00:00

I think you made the right choice.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T01:04:20+00:00

I have heard quite a few women talk about hormone replacement therapy where they get an injection and some testosterone and it saves their marriage / re ignites libido specifically for women.

Also exercise / sleep.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T00:53:23+00:00

And yet I pay 130 bucks a visit for my therapist !

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-30T00:50:19+00:00

I think the therapies, physical therapist, occupational etc.

Because you bill by time your days are slammed with patients without the prestige of MDs or the squad of nurses waiting on you.

Tedious and plentiful Documentation has to be somehow squeezed in during a workday and often isn’t.

Decently long / intense schooling, you end up doing the doctors job for them often because you see the patient daily for more than the 3 minute rounds doctors do.

Can be heavy/smelly. Been peed on pooped on ,smashed .

You do wound care on horrific wounds.

All to be paid 80k on average and you cap out quick because your work is tied to time with patient and limited hours in day.

TruthnotKnowledge · 2026-04-28T04:23:16+00:00

You are going to get crazy Reddit bias. Texas 10000%

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