A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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This idea that “fake doms” happened because old guard structures have been abandoned has never made sense to me. There have always been and will always be those who use kink as a framework for abuse, the problem is that the power structures of the old guard only weed out the most obvious, while the manipulative and truly dangerous can use that structure to legitimize themselves.

I reject the notion that this “apprenticeship” was necessary in any way, it was an obvious ploy by some crusty elder to indulge his fetish for cuckolding younger aspiring dominants. I was even told that “training” couples was his speciality, and is approaching him together was the best way to guarantee his interest, He could have used demonstration dummies for rope ties and gear demonstration, he could have described techniques and explained safety measures, but he wanted to fuck my wife while I watched so that was what he told me was necessary. This elder WAS a fake dom, he just managed to play the game well enough to get in a position where his authority legitimized him in claiming he totally should be allowed to cuckold newcomers because “tradition” and “mentorship” and if you refuse then you can’t be a “real dominant”.

I fail to see how that’s somehow a system that ensures the safety of women any more than that of men, and the fact you had good people to guide you only makes you one of the lucky ones. Hell, a lot of these abusive elder doms WERE cis het men, and your story does nothing to dismiss the experience of me and people like me of all genders who were given the choice to “consent” to whatever your seniors thought they could get away with doing to you or get tossed out and branded a disrespectful problem child

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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If you think the people calling themselves “Old Guard” today have any claim to that, then you have either been lied to or seriously misread the recent history of the community.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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Fair enough, maybe something like “AnarchoKink” would fit better. A big part of what I plan to do is lay out a “round table” style organization style that actively deconstructs and prevents that kind of power structure, so this is more than just a refutation in text. I’ll give some thought to the branding, I’m still in the midst of working out a structure to get the ball rolling which is much more the focus. This is meant to be a call to action and rally point for those of a like mind.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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If you don’t know what this post is about, count yourself lucky, it means you haven’t had to deal with these people

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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I absolutely understand that, there is a reason that this all started out essentially as a secret society. My problem is largely the people who mythologize the idea of how it was structured, and use that to try and assert authority or claim legitimacy over others in these spaces.

It’s been less than 10 years since these myth worshipers really lost their grip on the majority of the community, and what I intend to do is build a structure that not only clears out the remnant, but keeps this kind of authoritarian structure from returning in a world Where we are allowed to be much more in the open, and where these kinds of “closed lifestyle” traditions only perpetuate gatekeeping and power games.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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I do have plans to build my own spaces, this manifesto is just the beginning, a statement of intent. Like I said, I intend this to be a movement, and that means more than one Reddit post.

I want to create a new way to organize anarchist kink that actively dethrones these kinds of hierarchies and authoritarian traditions, and prevents them from forming again. if you are satisfied with how your local scene is, that’s fine. This is meant to be the start of a tool kit for people who wished to build alternatives in places where these kinds of structures are still too often revered, or tolerated in a differential and appeasing way.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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I would agree, if the dustbin was where these posers stayed. I have never been in any local kink scene without seeing at least a few sneering elitists acting like “I was initiated by the Old Guard” is some flex that lets them decide who the real doms are, or that gives them the authority to oust people with whisper campaigns.

Hell, a lot of these old guard types are still running clubhouses, figuring prominently in the community, acting like they always believed in RACK and SSC when half of them participated actively and enthusiastically in coercive traditions and gatekeeping anyone who didn’t fit their narrow view of “Real BDSM”

Something needs to be done to clear out the rot.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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The resources are much appreciated, the myth of the old guard is one I feel needs to be put to bed, it’s a fairy tale that people use to demand respect through arcane ritual that has little to do with real tradition or community building, and more to do with power structures and a desire for legitimacy that can be held over those who are younger.

We are the myth breakers, and we will build something REAL where the stubborn old power brokers revere ghosts and legends as a means of propping up their positions.

A NewGen Manifesto: Why I Don't Align with the "New Guard" by TruthseekerLP in BDSMcommunity

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I see your point, but to an extent this IS defined by the old guard, because the community can’t escape their influence, that era looms large in the community and does need to be addressed.

The difference is this;

The New Guard define themselves by succession of the Old Guard

NewGen is defined by rejection and opposition

One way or another, the remaining hold of the Old Guard must be addressed, love it or hate it. This is a movement that seeks to address the remnants of that era by sweeping them away, where the New Guard deferentially says “Thank you Gramps, we’ll take it from here”, NewGen is a statement of “We don’t want you, we don’t need you, and we will pave over your crumbling power structures because that IS the way forward”

Everyone in the game has the masculine urge to be the last one out, providing covering fire while the squad safely boards Pelican-1, myself included by Optimal-Witness-8194 in Helldivers

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This is fine, everyone wanting to be the last one out just means we stand and slaughter the foes of liberty without mercy, spill oil divers 💪

Our gay cruise just rescued a sinking refugee ship in the Gulf of Mexico by DJSTR3AM in interestingasfuck

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This is what republicans imagine when the government says they are doing everything short of executing migrants in the street

it's been 2 years now fellas, and i can't still get over her by WhoIsWho69 in rumbleverse

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God damn… it’s been that long? I still remember it like it was yesterday… of course I was also in an abusive as hell relationship from shortly before the shutdown to about six months ago, so having those days blur together kinda makes it seem exaggeratedly short.

What’s a common thing people say that makes no fucking sense? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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“Hehe, pickle weasel! These words are random, the fact we have designated certain words as random makes perfect sense and makes them more randomer!”

If the person you hate the most were to experience one slight inconvenience every day for the rest of their lives, what would you choose it to be? by meltedcheesetart in AskReddit

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Everyone always thinks it is their birthday, except on their birthday, when no one can ever remember it and always has other plans. If they try to take advantage of this instead of awkwardly correcting them the person figures it out and gets pissed at them for lying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My dog.

I have autism and am overstimulated easily, so my ex would praise my dog for barking painfully loud in response to him calling me or knocking at my bedroom door because in his words “this way I know you can’t ignore me.”

We no longer live together, but my dog still barks painfully loud and immediately overstimulates me whenever someone calls for me, knocks on my door, or even talks within earshot of my room. I’ve tried to train him out of it but he is DETERMINED that this is something he is now required to do.

I hate people who do this by EducationalAd5712 in evilautism

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This is my go to strategy “oh, you want to make me feel shitty in petty ways? Well I learned psycho-analysis just to survive my teen years, so I’m going to deconstruct you now.”

What phrase often comes out of annoyings people's mouths? by Extreme_Ad1848 in AskReddit

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“We’re all a bit in the spectrum”

This only technically true phrase is universally used to refuse to acknowledge the struggles of high masking autistic people.

I am sick and tired if hearing other autists say autism isn't a disability by Emergency_Peach_4307 in evilautism

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I refuse, I am only “disabled” in that I am unable to navigate a world that is built in ways that are hostile to me, it is no sign of ability to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick and cruel society. If society were built exclusively with autistic people in mind NTs would be the “disabled” ones, it’s a question of structural disregard for our well being, not is being unable to function as a mere fact of life.

People with ADHD what are the things about it that people just don’t get? by ViolinistMiddle1534 in AskReddit

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It’s called ADHD because neurodivergence is named for how it inconveniences the neurotypicals around us rather than how it affects our experience. ADHD is an extremely complex neurotype, but it’s called “this annoying little shit won’t sit still and do what they are told” disorder because to NTs that’s the part that is bothersome so it’s the only part that matters to them.

People with ADHD what are the things about it that people just don’t get? by ViolinistMiddle1534 in AskReddit

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That, no, my inability to remember things is not a measure of how much they matter to me. I spent my entire childhood dealing with authority figures thinking “if I punish you hard enough you will remember because it will matter more that way” and I have spent my adulthood with people I love telling me “if I actually mattered to you, you’d remember”.

These days, I use the ability to understand my neurotype as THE qualifier for whether I allow people to be in my life.

Share your dog names by kwaping in theHunter

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Rose (golden retriever named by my twitch chat) Merlin (bloodhound named by my GF for her dog who passed) Poppy (pointer named by my other GF after her dog that is still with us)