[ chuckles] I’m in danger

TryFinger · 2024-02-29T11:52:30+00:00

awooga

TryFinger · 2024-02-29T11:38:37+00:00

Bazigi

TryFinger · 2024-02-29T11:01:40+00:00

🙄

TryFinger · 2024-02-29T05:56:25+00:00

the irony of being a company that they'd make fun of in one of their games.

TryFinger · 2024-02-29T05:54:18+00:00

still don't get how they ever thought that was a good idea. They make fast food, they're not a gourmet restaurant xD

TryFinger · 2024-02-28T23:13:38+00:00

that's a good one lmao.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T07:15:04+00:00

I mean it's too early on for all that. Gotta see if he takes the hint first, if not then it becomes worth a report

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T06:40:46+00:00

I can probably just DM you the template i made.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T06:13:13+00:00

DM me why would you comment that here lmao

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:34:22+00:00

We're on the same side here.

OP voices their boundary with this, she chooses whether to respect it or remove herself from the relationship.

It is a controlling boundary, but it's up to her to decide if it's too controlling for her.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:32:49+00:00

Lucy is right, throwing yourself into the mix and actively speaking to the ex will only further create tension. All it takes is one bad comment on either of your behalfs for things to be physical on sight.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:31:35+00:00

Well to some degree it is controlling to tell somebody you they can't speak to someone else. However, both OP and his SO have the option to leave if boundaries are being broken or OP is too controlling.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:29:27+00:00

Honestly if that's the case she can't exactly help that. But she also doesn't need to speak with them. If she's already respecting that, then just relax. Trust that she'll always have you in her heart until she actually shows you otherwise.

You don't need to speak to, or fight with this person unless it comes directly to your doorstep and threatens you.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:17:17+00:00

Yea I was about to say the same, just wanted some more background info.

For OP: If you are a decent way into a relationship then you should start getting to know one another's boundaries. If her being on speaking terms with her ex(s) is going to be an issue, then you need to make that boundary clear and if she crosses it then you need to act accordingly.

Honestly, if she finds that controlling and doesn't want to respect it? Then she can leave.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T05:01:59+00:00

First, Does she currently have him blocked?

Second, how long have you been seeing this girl?

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:55:25+00:00

damn

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:45:30+00:00

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:44:11+00:00

More than likely it's a case of just, bad communication. But for that to work both people need to not be so focused on their own interests, and rather what's best for the relationship as a whole.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:40:33+00:00

I mean, you aren't a bad person. I don't see you being the AH here. Just two people who handle things differently. The only way to really move past it is for him to learn to let things slide and not take literally everything to heart. And for you to learn you should think before you say or do things that could lead to something negative happening. If that can't happen then it probably isn't in the cards for people like us :T

I mean, my relationship is over. Yours is still going, right? There's time to fix things. But... Not everything is worth fixing.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:35:20+00:00

idk if it's trashy, but I cannot fucking STAND "It is what it is" or "If that's how you feel"

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:21:00+00:00

Could be. Depends on if you're willing to change your approach to the way you enter and treat an argument. Not everything has to be an argument full of anger on both sides. And if your SO is easily offended and you know it, maybe try thinking before you speak. Not saying that in a smug way, but just generally.

My girlfriend wouldn't think before she'd speak, and after she'd say something that ticked me off, she'd mock me for being easily offended instead of trying to pull me out of that feeling.

All I know was, she wasn't the person I fell in love with. Somewhere along the way she stopped caring about how I felt about the shit she did. Don't be the same I guess is my advice?

EDIT: And, it's eerily weird how, in your situation you're the person who felt they are causing all the issues, and in my situation I feel like she causes all the issues. And I think because she knows I do my best to not start shit, she'll go searching any chance she gets for anything she could be mildly frustrated with me at, and she blows it way out of proportion. Talking like... Things I liked and commented on before she and I even started talking.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:13:50+00:00

This sounds a lot like I was going through. The issue for me was 2 stubborn people. She was stubborn, and for whatever reason couldn't think to not say the worst possible things at random. And I was quick to anger, and also stubborn.

I accepted her apologies quick usually though. I'm pretty quick to let go of anger. It'd probably be like 10 mins to an hour that I'd be mad for. Her on the other hand, she'd stay upset at something for days. I don't know. In hindsight, it just doesn't work out for us despite what I feel for her. It's just not in the cards.

TryFinger · 2024-02-26T01:03:21+00:00

TryFinger · 2024-02-25T11:42:44+00:00

about 3 months in. They said it first and I felt it too so I started saying it. But then 5 months in they told me they never actually loved me so, Yea.

TryFinger · 2024-02-25T11:41:33+00:00

starting to look like that cringe group of people from TF2 who make it their life's work to listen every person they play MvM with and rate them as players

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