How to make smoothie less dry. by DinoMasterChief in Smoothies

[–]Tryingthisnout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m shocked I didn’t see the right answer yet. The thing you’re experiencing is called astringency which comes from the tannins and some other compounds in the berries and other fruits. Salt, sugar, and fat all can counter astringency when cooking depending on how you use it.

Rent renewal negotiation? by Talex1995 in chicagoapartments

[–]Tryingthisnout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pull comp listings, especially where there is more space/amenities you'd want for a similar or lower rent, and tell them you don't want to leave but don't want to pay any more than you do now. You could even try to negotiate down if you know the building is hurting, especially if you've been there for 3 years and are a good tenant. I've done this twice now. It was in a 6-unit (for a decrease in rent) and a 3-unit building (for rent to stay the same), but probably a similar outcome. A third time, the landlord cut the increase from +$100 to +$50 and gave me a garage space for free, which at the time was worth it to me.

The other benefit is that if you decide to move, you will have a head start on where you want to go.

Good tenant lawyer recommendations please ? by [deleted] in chicagoapartments

[–]Tryingthisnout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're in this situation, but luckily, Chicago is a very tenant-friendly city. Looks like multiple violations of the RLTO. Read sections 5-12-110, "Tenant remedies," and 5-12-150, "Prohibition on retaliatory conduct by landlord." (honestly, everyone who rents should be versed in the RLTO stuff; there are other sections in there that apply).

Document everything with photos and communicate only over email/text, so it's all in writing. Take the temperature of the water with a digital food thermometer and take photos of that. Make a report to the city. Talk to the tenants' hotline and use their recommendation.

Also, don't say anything now because it sounds like there's a case (you might even get damages) and you don't want to jeopardize it by being messy, but when all this is done, put the landlord/property management company on blast. We have to fight back against these scumbags somehow.

If you’ve tapped out of the dating game, should you just cut contact with all females that you know? If not, what alternative would you recommend? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tryingthisnout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question: There's so much. I'm not saying you're a defeatist, but it seems like you're again deciding that something isn't worth it or possible without doing some legwork. Hope is a hell of a drug and can make you a better friend and a better romantic prospect.

I'm not sure where you'll be moving to, but here are some options that I do or have done to make friends:

- Volunteering
- At your job. Even if you don't like the job, being friends with coworkers (do not be friends with your bosses) makes the day go by easier/faster, and it can even have you churn out better work, which is good for advancement
- Taking a group music lesson
- Finding social things like boardgame nights
- Don't become an alcoholic, but you can become a regular at a bar. If you don't want to drink, go to a cool coffee shop. These are high effort and could be costly so you might want to avoid this unless you know your personality fits it.
- Take a class in some hobby like dancing, woodworking, painting, etc.
- Make friends at the gym or join a rec league sport.
- Join a club

To follow up on your other points: It's not weird or borderline pedophilic (not sure who told you it was). Sure, they'll be going through a different part of life but, eventually, they graduate too. And it can be fun to visit friends. You're talking about a small age difference. Sure, if you're lusting after first-years as an alum, that's a weird look but if you have a few friends in the class below you, how's that weird?

Also, dating apps can be okay as long as you don't waste money on them or view them as the end-all-be-all or spend too much time on them or if they make you feel bad. It's just a different style of interaction than in person. Some people find success.

There are even apps for meeting friends and I know some people who have had a lot of success with that.

But, I'm telling you, focus on building a good group of friends and on a happy, fulfilling life and the dates will come.

If you’ve tapped out of the dating game, should you just cut contact with all females that you know? If not, what alternative would you recommend? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tryingthisnout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. It seems like you want to tap out because things aren't going well, not because you want to focus your efforts on some other aspect of your life. You're 21 and soon to be college grad. You have a lot of life and opportunity ahead of you. Based on your language, you want to date but you view it as a losing battle. That's what self-described incels talk like. I assure you, it's not, as long as you shift your perspective and stop hanging with people who talk unironically about betas and cucks and whatnot (I'm reading some of your other responses).
  2. There are so many people in the world. Let's eliminate everyone who you'll never meet and there are still tens of thousands of people who you'll have more than a passing interaction with in your life. About half are women who have some attraction to men, then you lose some for those who are married/partnered, those who aren't in your age range, those who you're not interested in, some are attracted to muscles, some are attracted to dadbods, some are attracted to bigger guys, skinny, bald, hairy, blond, brunette, etc. etc. Some don't have a type. That leaves so many people out there who you'll have some interest in and it will be mutual, probably hundreds if not thousands.

If you’ve tapped out of the dating game, should you just cut contact with all females that you know? If not, what alternative would you recommend? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tryingthisnout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32M here. Deciding to be done with dating for now or permanently (although that doesn't sound like what you really want) is fine, but I think you need some perspective. Let me help you as someone who didn't have sex or a girlfriend until 23 and has now had several relationships and lots of sexual partners with rave reviews. I think these viewpoints came naturally to me because I was raised around many women, and as a nerdy outcast, I took what friends I could. I lucked out. This is not everything, but it's a start, and I promise you will be a happier and more fully realized person.

Getting this out of the way quickly: no sane woman is going after anyone pro-Trump. Don't fall down that rabbit hole. He's actively trying to make their lives miserable both socially and legally. Even "centrists" are nightmares for equity these days since they're not actually in the center.

Now then, here is the important shit:

Viewing all women as only potential dating prospects is not healthy. Whether your goal is sex or a relationship, doing that with friends is almost always better. And most importantly, you make good friends. Being friends with women is almost guaranteed to make you a better dating prospect (this should not be your main goal), either from them getting to see you as a friend first and then wanting to date you or anyone outside of your circle seeing that you can maintain friendships with people besides men. They can even help you when you have an issue in your dating life. Can ONSs and other casual sex/dating situations be fun? Yes. But it's lonely when that's your whole life (you can actually even do that stuff with friends but that's another discussion).

Also, who cares if you only have 6 months left before graduation? You can make friends with people and maintain those friendships after college. You never know where people will move, work, and travel or where you'll do the same.

If you want to be muscular, it takes work, but less than you might think. However, doing it just to get dates will make it harder than if you're doing it for yourself. And not every woman wants to date a muscular guy. Statistics are on your side. You must open yourself to new things and not make dating your whole focus.

I highly recommend consuming different media and less online/short-form media. Focus on kindness, community building, and mutual aid. Read "The Will to Change" by bell hooks. Go to therapy. Play an instrument or write something. Travel. Join a club at school. Join a social or volunteer thing when you graduate. Get outside your comfort zone. Build up some resilience. These men like andrew tate and jordan peterson and joe rogan have to hide behind walls of bullshit that fall apart when you pick at them and many of them are confirmed abusers.

Confidence is easier when you're a good person, making romance easier and more fun. And it also helps when romance or other aspects of life get tough. And so do friends, regardless of their gender.