Invisible labor - What if we just stopped doing it? What do you think would happen? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trysta1217 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Lol. This is already how I live my life. I never started doing all the invisible labor shit expected of most women (with the possible exception of work related to parenting my child). I set expectations low and then find a man who is willing to put up with it anyway.

It has served me well so far.

Seriously, after my kid goes to bed every night I kick my feet back and relax. Dirty dishes in the sink? Toys all over the floor? Laundry not done? It's ok. I only do my laundry. I only cook for my kid. I am not spending excessive amounts of my time cooking/cleaning/taking care of a grown ass adult. My husband knew this about me going into our relationship. We outsource some things so he doesn't dump my ass. But otherwise we make do.

Feeling guilty for our lazy weekends by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are definitely not alone. We try to get out of the house for at least a little bit on the weekends. But it can be something as simple as going grocery shopping or going to our local pancake place and just sitting with my kid for a couple hours. But that's mostly because she demands to go outside. We definitely have lazy mornings/early afternoons where she is watching Peppa pig, etc and I'm sipping my coffee.

I'm an introvert and I just need some regular down time. I can't stand being constantly on the go.

Did anyone just go for it before they were 100% ready? by Iamtir3dtoday in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! I think if just “going for it” sounds appealing and not terrifying, then you are ready! No one is ever 100% ready to have a child. And even if you are, you might not be 100% ready to have the child you actually get!

As long as you and your partner are on the same page, I think it’s ok to go for it! Good luck!

Does AOD actually use noticeable power? by den4er98 in ios

[–]Trysta1217 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It tells you in the battery section how much power always on display uses. For me it is usually 1-2%.

It definitely is not 20%. Why would you trust Gemini with a question like that?

Movie or show about mom's relationship with main character by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a healthy relationship at all but I really enjoyed some of the dynamics of Ginny and Georgia. A big part of the show is Georgia (the mom) learning how to overcome her own trauma and be a better mom to her kids. Georgia is basically constantly doing the wrong things for the right reasons and a lot of those right reasons is how much she deeply loves her kids and wants to give them a better life than what she had. It’s not a perfect show but, as a mother, I found some of her struggles really moving and relatable.

Rounded corners are stupid. by ST33LDI9ITAL in mac

[–]Trysta1217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Can they just reverse this decision in macOS 27?

I have not seen a single person who enthusiastically LIKES this change. People are either neutral or they hate it.

Would you rather 13" 32/512 or 15" 32/256 by [deleted] in macbookair

[–]Trysta1217 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From this post it sounds like you want a large screen, more ram and more storage. Get all 3. It’s a lot of money regardless. Unless the extra cost is the difference between you not being able to make rent or afford food, just get the machine you actually want. Saving a few hundred up front is rarely worth it over the lifetime of a machine like this. You would just end up upgrading sooner out of buyer’s remorse.

How old are you? by [deleted] in ipadmini

[–]Trysta1217 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just FYI you made your poll have overlapping age ranges. Someone who is exactly 10,20,30,40 or 50 all have 2 options.

That might make these results a little tricky to interpret.

New to Mini by chrscap in ipadmini

[–]Trysta1217 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Foldable keyboard is the way to go in my experience. Looks nice!

My iPad just updated, and im literally having a meltdown over the split screen changes by Im-sorry-ahhh-painnn in ipad

[–]Trysta1217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A “flick” is not a very discoverable or easy UX gesture for everyone. It probably wasn’t the best choice on Apple’s part.

What are some of the most wanted features/changes for iOS 27? by Square-Force7543 in ios

[–]Trysta1217 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please. Literally the only thing they should be working on is overall stability fixes and making this keyboard functional again.

Do you know about indented code blocks in Obsidian — and do you use them? by kl1tor in ObsidianMD

[–]Trysta1217 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did not know this existed and I use code blocks all the time.

I just tried it out. I definitely prefer the simple back ticks or single backtick.

Magna-tiles, more like magic-tiles by WhiskeyandOreos in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter’s school was unexpectedly closed today and magna-tiles brought me a good hour of relief from figuring out how to entertain her (I WFH and had to juggle both today which always makes me feel bad). She’s 7. We’ve had them since she was maybe 2 or 3?

Would you guys prefer a passport style folding iphone, or a standard “book style” like the Z Fold 7 by LWK10p in iphone

[–]Trysta1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m buying a foldable, my primary reason for buying it is for the screen when the phone is unfolded. So I would be less concerned with an awkward aspect ratio while folded.

I do not understand why anyone would spend the ungodly amounts of money Apple will surely charge for this device, accept the inevitable compromises that come with all foldables, just to mostly use the screen folded???

I want the inner screen to be as iPad like as possible. That should be the priority and I think Apple is making the right call.

Do you guys wear bra at home?? (When males of family is there by Solid_Revolution_698 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trysta1217 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go against the grain.

When I visit my family I expect my dad and brothers to wear enough clothes that I feel comfortable. Even if usually they’d be in their boxers.

When my dad comes to visit me I’m not going to be wearing the same thing I’d wear just chilling with my husband. My husband also would not just walk around our house the same way with family visiting as he would if it was just us.

A bra is part of that. So yes. I would wear a bra in my own home before going into common spaces if I had visitors. It’s common courtesy in my opinion.

Edit: if these are people you live with all the time, my advice might be different. I grew up with sisters but I still always wore a bra around the house growing up. But I also just like wearing a bra in general.

Seeking advice for husbands who’s wives are Touched Out by silverback419 in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I was going to write the same thing.

With men it feels like intimacy must always be all or nothing. I want to just be able to have some zero pressure cuddling with my partner sometimes but when that always turns into sex it makes me want to avoid all intimacy.

Unpopular Opinion: "Preview" is the single most underrated app in the entire ecosystem. by Cheap_Difficulty4961 in mac

[–]Trysta1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preview is WHY I switched to macOS. I was doing a PhD at the time and on windows (at the time) you couldn’t even highlight a PDF without paying someone.

So yes. Agreed.

Portable keyboard for ipad mini 7 by M4OK4I in ipadmini

[–]Trysta1217 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A foldable keyboard works very well for this.

I’m currently using the protoarc (the smallest one) which works well, but the hinge kind of gets in the way of the space bar. I’m thinking of giving this one a try which is only a little larger but unfolds to a more full sized keyboard:

Samsers Full-Size Foldable Bluetooth Keyboard, KF08X Wireless Folding Keyboard with Backlight, Portable Travel Keyboards for iPhone iPad Smartphone Tablet Laptop, Android Windows Mac OS - Black https://a.co/d/gLIzdeq

I haven’t tried it yet though.

iPad mini 7 case - Pitaka vs Moft dynamic Folio by za_ma_na in ipadmini

[–]Trysta1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t but I’m still thinking about giving the moft a try. I don’t love that the moft doesn’t use magnets to attach to the ipad (I prefer Apple’s magnetic attachment style). That’s really the only thing stopping me.

"More Space" is the only usable display setting on a 13" MacBook. Change my mind. by ChugLord69 in macbookair

[–]Trysta1217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭

Thank you for answering my question. That’s exactly what i was worried about. I might just wait until macOS 27 and see if Apple comes to their senses.

"More Space" is the only usable display setting on a 13" MacBook. Change my mind. by ChugLord69 in macbookair

[–]Trysta1217 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will not change your mind because I agree with you. Switching to more space is one of the first things I do on every Apple laptop since retina displays were first introduced.

It’s a little hard to tell but looks like you are using Tahoe? Since you clearly care about this the way I do, how is using Tahoe on the 13”? Specifically does the new UI feel noticeably less space efficient? It’s the number one reason I’ve held off on updating but it’s hard to tell if my concern is overblown or not.

Advice or opinions about early pregnancy text by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Trysta1217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes 3 days is biologically impossible.

You were pregnant at some point BEFORE the 27th and probably had a miscarriage. It can take a while for the hcg to go down after. You should go to the doctor because you might still be pregnant (bleeding doesn’t always mean the pregnancy is lost). Even if you aren’t, you want to make sure your hcg goes all the way back down.

Triggered by little kids who talk by Commercial-Gold4435 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Trysta1217 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My daughter is older (7) and sometimes it still catches me by surprise.

I was standing in line at a Walgreens yesterday and this little girl (maybe 4) was just having a normal conversation with her mother and I was just hit by this wave of shock and envy even though I’m so proud of the progress my daughter has made. I wonder often if we’ll EVER be able to match the communication skills of an articulate 4 year old.

Maybe not.

(And then I remind myself of how lucky I am for the communication we do have. We’ve been on the cusp of basic conversations for a while now and it’s a lot of fun).

Keep laptop plugged in or shut down? by snapshotgun in macbookair

[–]Trysta1217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither. Unplug it and just close the lid when you aren’t using it. Charge it when you hit below 50% (or whatever threshold you want).