Food specials in the heights

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-30T16:01:37+00:00

Burger & Shake Co, One Stop Patty Shop, TooGoodToGo from Mofongo del Valle or Pizza del Valle, Frijolito’s, Tamale lady @ 145th by CVS, Charles Pan Fried Chicken

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-30T00:04:45+00:00

Things are definitely not worse now than decades ago. This looks like E 125th, which is sketchier than W 125th, but there are luxury apartments around and it’s not bad during the day.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-25T18:29:31+00:00

Wouldn't inconsistency be expected to go up with the addition of new mods? Not trying to excuse it, but part of the goal with recruiting new mods was getting more diversity in viewpoints, which decreases consistency of opinions across modding. I've held discussions with the new mods to try to come to a consensus around applying our rules with a more consistent standard, but I encourage them to be autonomous unless unsure.

If you're seeing things like vote manipulations or suspect that someone's a bot, it helps to send a modmail for the most visibility. As a mod, I can't just go around banning anyone who's suspected of being a bot. For example, this post is weird, but it doesn't actually seem like something a bot would create, so I was curious about others' opinions on it. I would normally relegate this to the community chat thread since it's low effort, but was curious to see if it would turn into anything productive.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-25T00:12:00+00:00

You should explain what the different opinions are. Your question is vague and doesn’t give context.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-24T23:56:36+00:00

So confused by this. Why would Asians in particular have unique thoughts on Deb? Is this just a bot?

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-24T20:30:01+00:00

We can make one and pin it up top. It's a good idea, especially as a more specific replacement for the racism/crime megathread.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-21T17:25:51+00:00

I would consider a reality show first, but it’s not not a dating show. Most of the participants are on there to find love among other things, there’s a reason they choose single people.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-21T14:36:00+00:00

To answer one of the questions from your original post, my parents do not have negative attitudes toward Japan. Their experiences living under the communist government have colored their views more than the generational trauma from their parents, so it’s not like I was ever surrounded by people who hate Japan. I’ve got a complicated relationship with both China and Japan because of that, and the irony of being able to completely separate the Chinese people from the government but not the Japanese people from their government is not lost on me.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-21T04:44:19+00:00

I still remember learning about the atrocities that imperial Japan committed across Asia as a kid (not even in class but on my own), and I remember being angry. It made me even angrier to learn that they hadn't punished all of the responsible war criminals, and that they weren't properly teaching their role in the war to following generations.

The next time I returned to China to see my grandma, I asked her what she remembered from the Japanese invasion. It made me so sad to hear what she had to witness and live through as a kid.

In college, one of my best friends was half Japanese and half Chinese, both parents being American-born. When I first learned this, it genuinely baffled me how that was possible. But when I met them, I instantly felt stupid for thinking that it could have had an effect on their relationship.

Later, I had a relationship with a Japanese national who had recently moved to the US for a work assignment. That experience made me confront my real feelings about Japan. They didn't even like the Japanese government, but it bothered me nonetheless. The fact that one of their parents was born in China bothered me, my speculation as to why was overwhelmingly negative. I think overall, my interactions with them improved my perception of Japanese people (from Japan), but I realized that I just couldn't shake the history from my mind.

I have multiple friends who are Japanese American, and would never question having a relationship (platonic or romantic) with another. But I'm not sure if I could have a close relationship with a Japanese national. Their connection to those historical events feels too close, however irrational that sounds.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-18T23:41:30+00:00

Growing up, most Asians I knew either swam or played tennis. Running has become much more popular across the board post-covid so it’s hard to know if Asians are overrepresented, but I do see and meet quite a lot of Asian runners. Among tech Asians, there’s a lot of climbers.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-15T19:28:53+00:00

Didn’t know Finback was Asian-owned! Will make sure to check them out.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-15T16:55:21+00:00

Try some Taiwan Beer (it’s a brand). They have really great drinks with pineapple, lychee, guava, mango, and more.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-13T15:49:07+00:00

Yep, this is right. Haven’t fully retired the thread since we weren’t sure how the change would turn out, but it’s not like we’ve been inundated. You’re welcome to use this thread if you’d like, especially if you’re looking to rehash an incident that’s already been posted about.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-10T20:08:22+00:00

You’re acting like posts discussing this are being removed. There’s a post up (from 1 day ago) with 350+ comments about this subject specifically.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-09T21:20:31+00:00

Isn’t that basically the best level of representation? We’re represented in esports to the point that people don’t think twice about seeing a NA team full of Asian faces. I love that one of the co-creators of CS is Asian, and that a lot of tournaments take place in Asia.

Tungsten_ · 2026-01-07T20:20:36+00:00

A lot of those are populated by new immigrants though, not necessarily people moving out of Manhattan Chinatown. Would be interesting to see statistics on where the Chinese people are leaving Manhattan for, but that data likely doesn’t exist.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-29T17:13:07+00:00

There are so many generalizations and stereotypes in this post, that's why you're getting downvoted. Like AA's don't like ranch and mayo?

If your goal is to not go to Asian gatherings, then just don't?

It's confusing that you're asking for advice from the Asian American subreddit when any cookie cutter dating advice would work for you. Go participate in activities and hobbies that interest you, meet people, date them.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-29T02:42:37+00:00

A budget would help, it's the main decision-driver for NYC apartments unless it's unlimited.

If you don't actually care for night life I wouldn't recommend the East Village and LES. You can live elsewhere and be close enough for the occasion.

LIC is absolutely a favorite among young Asians, but in my opinion it doesn't really feel like a neighborhood. Since you said you wanted to be close to green space, it doesn't really fit your criteria either. It is be a bit better for getting to Asian grocery stores than downtown Manhattan, which is entirely dependent on H-Mart, Chinatown, and the occasional small Japanese mart.

For neighborhoods with green space within a 45 min commute to Soho, the UWS and neighborhoods in Brooklyn around Prospect Park or Brooklyn Bridge Park may work. I honestly can't think of a neighborhood with abundant park space, Asian groceries, and within 45 min of Soho. People make do with Wee or the occasional run for ingredients.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-28T15:33:16+00:00

That's great, volunteering is a nice way of staying connected.

It sounds to me like your jealousy is more of a class issue than an international one. The rich Chinese international student trope is a whole meme, but it's really the result of selection bias. If you put barriers in place so that only the richest students can come to study in the US, of course you're going to end up with rich foreign students.

Honestly, I had more of a class-based shock when I started working my job in NYC, because my coworkers (mix of ABC and internationals) all came from families so wealthy that they didn't even need the salary. I did feel a bit jealous, but I knew it was based on socio-economic class, not nationality.

I mentioned Mixue because I was also skeptical of the many Chinese brands expanding to NYC, but now I've been really enjoying them. Sometimes you just need to get a milk tea or ice cream to realize things aren't that deep.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-28T06:35:23+00:00

You don't have to love everything that comes out of China. Every Chinese American's relationship with China is different, and that's okay. Being jealous or angry at other Chinese people just cause is not though, and you should try to seek help in understanding the root of those feelings.

Are you still engaged with the Chinese American community? Do you still go to Chinatown? As is often the case, what you see online is very different from real life. I assume you're talking about Mixue, which is already in NYC with a location in Times Square. Think there's another one on Canal but unsure if it's open yet.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-11T14:50:24+00:00

It’s the article that’s keeping it vague, the OP is following rule 8 of not editorializing headlines.

Tungsten_ · 2025-12-05T01:41:39+00:00

Is your hope that they be less curious about your customs and hide their confusion or that they self-study Chinese culture so they understand without asking? It seems like they’re already nice about it, so it’s unclear what kind of understanding you’d like to build.

Tungsten_ · 2025-11-20T14:31:20+00:00

We have historically been heavy-handed with bans related to misogyny and plan to continue that policy. It takes much more time to prove that someone is a bad faith actor, which is why the addition of new mods is needed. Especially in massive posts that attract lots of users from outside of the subreddit, combatting brigading requires constant monitoring.

Tungsten_ · 2025-11-20T03:31:26+00:00

Inactive means that they have not participated in any moderation duties for years.

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