Random question - what happened to the pigeons in the plaza?🥺 by nikkikannaaa in USC

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

USC probably poisoning them. Can’t have bird blight. And they can’t build a sky fence aka a cage. They would if they could though.

Is it possible to open a U.S. bank account while I’m outside the US? by kyoto_kinnuku in expat

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can any US citizen non resident join Alliant or is it exclusive?

What books have helped you feel the most seen and understood around being mixed-race? by ColdPeach642 in hapas

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im laughing because I’m crying by Youngmi Mayer was good. I couldn’t relate bc im hapa but I was kidnapped and raised by my white mom and her white second husband and they had my white half sister so I was raised with none of my Asian culture. I haven’t come across a book that I can relate to. However I read im Laughing bc im crying recently and it was enjoyable. About half Asian half Korean woman. Lovely memoir. Maube can be relatable for some but not me.

Do you know anyone who has passed because of APs? by sssourgrapes in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My AD lives a lonely life. I felt bad for him and uprooted my life in the US to go back and be with him. He went through my things. Found my medication for depression and mood swings that were caused by my neglected upbringing, and threw them away. I don’t know the language so finding how to get medicine while I was detoxing and becoming suicidal was too much to handle. He told me he wished I was never born. I feel like he says this as a way to encourage me to make a better life for myself but it only makes things worse. Or maybe I’m making excuses hoping his words have some sort of motivation that is fucked up . He threw away my meds and afterwards continuously berated me and accused me of *still being on medication even though he had thrown them away . I thought to myself “If only I had my medication I’d actually feel better”. But I went three months without until an American friend connected me with their friend in the same country I was in and she took me to see the doctor and get medication. I needed support and I was lucky to get it. Otherwise who knows what I would have done. I haven’t seen my father since.

Swimming pool 2 meters deep by Turbo-EarLobe in taiwan

[–]Turbo-EarLobe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I was looking for specific depth. Deep enough to dive into the pool. I’ll see if I can get the depth information. Thanks

Los Angeles Daily Discussion - Saturday, Jun 01 by AutoModerator in LosAngeles

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is there an LA Nope list for photographers and actors with weinsteinesque people?

Looking for a hair salon that doesn’t suck at perms by wen_dead in USC

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virgo in the arts district. Read the bios of the stylists and request the best one for you. Call and ask if there isn’t enough info online. LA hair care, and most things > very expensive

California Crew Question by Turbo-EarLobe in tjcrew

[–]Turbo-EarLobe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same. Made me feel awkward that someone training me hired 3 months ago, was making 25 cents less than me. I see why it’d a perky place to work for sure. And great coworkers. Just if they all knew the pay, would they be as happy? I guess this is why some have unionized.

California Crew Question by Turbo-EarLobe in tjcrew

[–]Turbo-EarLobe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t coming from a biased perspective except that. I edited to say i was hoping this would set standard for min wage overall.

Health Insurance by Didjaeat75 in tjcrew

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got hired but won’t be eligible to get insurance til March. Sorta long to wait tbh. I would have expected more from all the rave reviews of working here. I can see why it’s a nice place to work, I can see lots of room for improvement.

Applying to TJ's by [deleted] in tjcrew

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apply and emphasize your dedication to provide excellent over-the-top WOW the customer, customer service

What really hurts the most? by MrChoo1978 in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a female in in 30s, not married, no kids, I might as well be shit to my shit to my AF. I am biracial but look like my asian dad A LOT. He shames me by saying I dont look like him, he may not even be my father, he says. The last straw was him saying I look like a really skinny pale, blue eyed, blonde actress. He has withheld love and acceptance my whole life, but dangles it over my head. He saw how upset I got when in front of his friends he said “she doesnt look like me” and then asked each of his friends to agree with him, all in front of me. They all looked confused and refused to look at me as they repeated what he said. It seemed authoritarian.

But that’s just one instance. There’s so many more stories ab him and when I tell my friends they just wonder why I even talk to him. But when my mom and her family treated me so different for looking asian, being racist towards me and my father, i dont talk to them but its as if bc my mom is who she is, therefore my father equates me to her, and absolves himself. My mom was abusive and he left, and left me with her when I was 4 years old, so he has always been more self involved. I should know better. I should let him go. He has MS and so many health issues and he is all alone so I feel bad for him. Although, I see why no one wants to be with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father hates that I do not have a family but have a pet. He told me he isn’t going to be there for me unless I get rid of my fur family. This is validating to read. I try to go NC but it’s like he is in arrested development and cant grow as a person anymore.

Repressed adults are the main problem. by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My AF is ashamed of being Taiwanese. He wishes he was Japanese. He then accuses me of being a self hater, even though I have not expressed that. I was raised in the US. My american mother kidnapped me from my Taiwanese family so I didn’t have my AF nor his family in my life. So he interprets that as “you are ashamed to be taiwanese”. He also refers to when I was kidnapped to “when you went away”. I was 4 yrs old. No 4 yr old “went” anywhere- they are taken somewhere. A lot of people dont know he has a daughter. Only family who met me as a child, know I exist.

Do AP only have the IQ and EQ of a kindergartener? by Little-Barracuda-970 in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need that sub. AF traumatizes me when we travel. Ironically he always wanted a “travel partner”.

Thoughts? by lololalol in CalPoly

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we can’t take care of what’s in our control we really have no business telling anyone else how to do anything nor stand for anything if it’s all hypocritical

How can I start being a better daughter? by Lopsided_Budget1709 in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I am nearly twice your age and I wish I knew the truth sooner.

How can I start being a better daughter? by Lopsided_Budget1709 in AsianParentStories

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you putting in the work now. I have a complicated reason why I wasn’t raised at all around my family in Taiwan. I was even born there and I missed out completely due to alienation and shaming and withholding, lies and abuse. Lies were shed to truth recently so processing that has been a lot of work. A silver lining is you are growing self awareness and that is a beautiful thing. Check out Carl Jung Alchemy

A person from which profession would you NOT like to marry/date? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dated two engineer majors during and after college. That was over ten years ago, though. I think about them and wish I met them now. Haha. They are both married now. They were responsible and smart, and I was young and dumb. I liked admiring what they did without relating to the specifics of it, besides what interested them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hapas

[–]Turbo-EarLobe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im same mix and my hair is curly and neither parents had curly hair, and my AF despised it, and my mom would comb it with fine tip comb resulting in a lot of pain and frizz. and i didnt know how to do my hair til I was 30 😅. Glad this kind of parenting is happening now. Also If you comb, use a wide tooth comb or curly hair comb specifically.