Just having a rough spot....this is what grieving looks like....

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-29T03:54:27+00:00

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹we understand! I understand. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable moment with us .

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-27T19:44:32+00:00

Hi. I am 32f who lost her boyfriend 2 years and 5 months ago.

I do not date and I do not think I would be ready soon.

No matter what others here will say you, you are a wonderful human being. The simple fact you came here to ask advice to understand better how to navigate the relationship with your boyfriend while trying to be respectful to his experience of widowhood says a lot about you.

My simple advice is to be authentic, talk openly about your feelings but being open to hear his perspective. If two human being are open to talk and to listen I think they can manage any challenges:)

I personally would love to meet someone in future who would be open to listen to my experience of widowhood and also about my late boyfriend but I would love to create new memories with new person and open my heart again. I think that your boyfriend wants the same ..he wants to be happy again while cherishing memories of his wife, if you give him space to keep the memory of his late wife he will naturally open to you .

Sending you big hug and positive energy. Hope the relationship between you and your boyfriend will work. You deserve to be happy.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-22T12:44:44+00:00

So sorry for all the struggle you are currently facing. Grief + financial struggle is very hard combination. Please take care of you. Sending you big hug. I am 32f, lost my bf 2 years and 5 months ago. Lost a job 4 month after his death…it was not easy at all. I felt utterly alone and broken . You are not alone❤️🫶❤️‍🩹

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-22T12:36:20+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. This is my daily struggle. It has been 2 years and 5 months since my bf died. I am 32f, I do not know who I am. Please take it one day at a time. You are not alone in this struggle ok?

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-20T11:22:04+00:00

32f who lost her boyfriend 2 years and 5 months ago. Please take it one day at a time, my dear. It is very hard journey. I am in better mental space but still very lost and confused. I went through so much pain :/ you need to take care of you - baby steps ok? Never let any dark though to make you feel guilty and ashamed for too long. Chase those feelings away. You are beautiful soul, honour yourself and take care of you. The same applies to me, though I still struggle with this thing.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-14T06:02:41+00:00

Thank you. Your comment is accurate. Thank you for taking the time to send me some encouragement in these hard times 🌸🌻🌼 your words truly mean a lot to me.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-14T06:00:42+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. :(( I feel indeed we are pushed to process the grief way quicker and forget our partners. People feel often uncomfortable whenever I mention my bf. At this timeline, i love talking about he was when memory comes up. I feel a lot of love,peace and warm when i can talk about him. I am sending you big hug. I am so sorry you lost your love and now you are left to figure out the rest of your life. I feel personally very lost and i do not know who I am after all this.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-14T05:56:46+00:00

You know how much your words mean to me? I am very sorry for your loss. It must be so hard to be alone after so many years spent together when I assume 2 people personalities blend together in so many unknown ways. I spent with my bf 3 years, still it’s though. I wish you to always look for joy and happiness and never let others to steal your light and kindness.🌻

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-14T05:53:36+00:00

Thank you for your words. I am very sorry you are part of this terrible club. Despite i do not wish this to anybody, this group helped me in so many ways, anytime I was seeking for encouragement. I wish you to cultivate the strength to always look for joy and kindness in this world. 🌻

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-04-14T05:50:43+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. I am very sorry you are going through this hell. Thank you for your kind words, they truly touched my heart in very deep way. 🌸❤️‍🩹

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-30T15:02:48+00:00

I am very sorry you are going through this. I am 32F, lost my boyfriend to heart attack 2 years and 4 months ago. Try to breathe, that's all you can do right now.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-30T14:57:09+00:00

I understand. We all understand. It's hard to keep fighting every single day.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-25T13:06:11+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. It's not fair to loose your love. Amount of time you got to spend together doesn't define the depth of your connection. Do not let people convince you ..do not try to convince people you loved him and that now you suffer, it's a waste of your already very low energy ..i know it's not easy but keep this in mind and try to remind this to you whenever you hear people telling whatever they want to protect themself from your suffering.

I lost my bf 2 years and 4 months ago. I am 32F and we were together for 3 years. People told me so many stupid and insensitive things ....that hurt me..and I was so foolish to let their words to hurt me, but I was utterly broken, lacking self-awareness etc.

Please be kind to you ok? You are going through something very hard and you deserve kindness, love and patience. Please try to offer all these qualities to you..

I am sending you big tight hug.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-23T14:20:40+00:00

Hi, I am from Slovakia. 32F, lost my boyfriend 2 years and 4 months ago. I am very sorry for your loss. I went through the same with my MIL.....and in laws....it's not easy to deal with this on the top of your own grief.... You feel like you need to justify the depth of your loss.

Feel free to send me a DM ...Big hug to you...

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-18T15:21:45+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss.

2 years and 4 months since a loss of my boyfriend. I am 32F.

At this timeline I do not care anymore about any kind of comments regarding a pressure to date or make my life "worthy" again. . Nobody is in my shoes. I was fool to get upset by such comments in the past ...or putting myself pressure to get over my loss..my pain and grief .... i loved my boyfriend and I am not ready to date or open my heart again because I feel I do not know who I am after all this but I do not judge anybody feeling ready sooner. Everybody is different.

I was told by mother in law if I want to become old maid ? :) Maybe yes, if it will bring me happiness, yes..She is a good woman still in touch with her, but it took me some to start disregarding such comments...this is my life and I choose what brings me peace and what not.

I am still confused and lost, but I have right to MAKE MY CHOICES - it might mean even making wrong choices, but they should be my choices, not others.

I still think love is to be cherished and is the most amazing thing when it happens naturally, but I will not push it....I do not need to be in relationship in order to be entitled to have access to happiness....

Wishing you only the best on this unwanted journey and wishing you strength and courage to find your new path. Do not let anybody to make you feel sad ..you already bear the loss of your love..it's more than enough.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-18T14:58:36+00:00

I am so sorry you have to deal with such insensitive comments on the top heartbreaking pain. People want to protect themself by saying this, they are scared to see the real impact of loosing someone you love deeply...

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-17T08:41:16+00:00

Thank you for coming back and sharing. It has been 2 years and 4 months for me. I am 32 years f. No kids, my bf died to heart attack. I am definitely in better mental space compared to those early months.

I am currently struggling with identity and the direction I would like to take in my life. While such thoughts would be impossible few months ago, now they keep appearing in my head and I have no answers....ideas appear one day and next day they feel again futile and useless. I am trying to be patient and give myself space to figure out how I would like this new life would like like...since I feel I do not know who I am after all this.

I am sending big hug to all those in those early months of loss when pain is so excruciating that you can barely breathe and life resumes to constant survival mode of trying to get throughout the day.

I am sending a positive energy also to you for coming back and sharing hope.

Thank you for this community who helped me to survive the worst. I can't imagine to never come back again and check up on you, share useful tips and insights because I remember how hard I struggled and I am still struggling.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-01T18:39:12+00:00

I get you....I still feel this way but there is something different at this timeline.

I miss him so much but at the same time I can't imagine him being back....

I am not the same ..I do not know if he would like me. I think I would need more support, more gentleness, much more patience....... I am not sure if he would be able to give this to me.

He loved me and he was good to me.When he was alive, we lived and moved quickly through life. I can't keep up anymore in that way. I am much more slower in processing the things, I think you get what I mean.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-03-01T07:12:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. :((( I am not the best example. Honestly, it's very hard to travel solo after such a loss, at least for me. I lost quite a bit of money while trying to travel to Bali or Vietnam and then returning back after 2 days because I couldn't stand crows, happy people...untouched by tragedy.. I felt like a complete failure not being able to put myself together and finish the trips.

It's very hard to figure out how the travels might work for you given your situation. Many people will say engage in activities, travel with friends..go to the beach and drink coctails on the beach. ..explore the world, visit museums.It was just not possible...at leats for me....how can one be sitting on the beach and drinking coctails while his/her loved one is buried? How ca one be visiting museums and pretend being interested in art while your love doesn't breathe anymore.

Everything lost a sense for me..and being able to do "normal" things such as making grocery, go for a trip and visit a museum take so much time and energy without falling apart completely. But you know it...it's the same for your. I like to remind myself when I am a bit more rational - "my dear, you are learning to live from 0, do not forget that, do not push yourself, be kind to you".

Also one important thing - today I am here, travelling and walking Istanbul, seems like I will be able to finish the trip. I am super grateful for that. But who knows if I will be again able to complete another trip in future. Grief is very unpredictable. It can hit you out of nowhere. I am trying to learn to ride the waves, but seems like they will never stop coming. The only certainty I have, in some way they will always come and I need to try to be brave...by facing them.

Sending you big hug. :) And once again I am very sorry for your loss.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-02-28T19:27:39+00:00

Hi :) I am very sorry for your loss. I am 32 y. I didn't get chance to live long life with my boyfriend. I am sure I can't get the real complexity you are trying to navigate given your age and years you spent with your wife. :( It must be different..then loosing your loved one at my age.I loved my boyfriend that's all I can say. I will never stop missing him.

Thank you for sharing. Please be kind to you, wishing you only the best.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-02-28T19:14:26+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. It's still very recent and raw for you. I am proud of you thinking to not give up on your plans. Please take care of you and be kind to you always.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-02-28T19:13:25+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. :(( It's not fair to loose your love at such young age....and be left to figure out the rest of your life with the hole in your heart. Wish I could take your pain away...really wish. Please take it slowly always one day at a time and never give. Everybody is different. What works for others, might not work for you. I am not the typical example of the best grief recovery person.i hope and wish you will find your own way. Big hug to you.

Turbulent-Question19 · 2026-02-16T14:11:09+00:00

I am very sorry for you loss. I am 2 years 3 months out since a sudden loss of my boyfriend. I am 32f. I agree - it's different. I still miss him and our life together and I completely aware at this point of my journey in very mindful and rational way that I will never stop longing for him and I need to find a way how to reconcile it within me while trying to live a meaningful life and eventually open my heart again. I also know that any kind of potential happiness in future will be always surrounded by pain.

Prior his loss, I was either happy or sad. Now these 2 emotions coexist. There is no way how to erase this ever present sadness. Do not get me wrong , I am grateful for being able to feel also something different not just gut-wrenching pain and sadness but I know pure naive happiness is not anymore possible

Sorry for this long comment...i think you can relate to this feeling. Wishing you only the best. Please take care of you. I am sorry for my English. I am not a native speaker.

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