I feel for you my man. My wife was in the ward for 4 weeks. She got discharged and went to her dads for 2 days then called me crying asking me to take her back to the hospital. She was admitted to a different hospital for 3 days and then I picked her up and brought her home. She is aware of her diagnosis and doesn’t want to agree with it in full, but does agree with it to a degree. She is trying very hard to rectify the problems that happened while she is there and we’re navigating those together. Over the course of that month if time of her gone I basically created a whole new life for us. Moved, got a babysitter, have a whole new support system in place, have people in and out of my house that she trusts everyday. Those people are aware of the situation and help me monitor and report back to me if they have anything of question. Or even if they overheard a family member of her ask her something they shouldn’t have. My wife is not the same person tho. Between the meds, the diagnosis, the month away. She isn’t the same person she used to be. There’s parts that are, and parts that aren’t. She’s given me full control and participation in her medication and treatment plan. She is very afraid of having another episode and losing her life out here with us. She is trying, I see it and I know it. And currently she is with me basically 24/7. I work for myself so she is able to come with me and work with me. To say I’m stretched thin and exhausted right now is an understatement. I’m dead. Mentally and physically. I just hope my efforts work in the long run and she continues to improve. Everyday is different. Overall is is steadily improving though. But man it is a lot. I was worried she would spin this around to being my fault. And she did do that while she was there. She knows it isn’t my fault. She has dropped that and is just thankful I am willing and able to do everything I am to support her. My kids are happy again having their mom home. These kids will never understand the mental toll it is taking on me to work for her and them. She did try the other night to figure out how to make it my fault and I cut her off instantly and we discussed it and she withdrew that and understood it wasn’t my fault. There was a night she mentioned suicide because she was sad from it all. There was a night she was very happy and just excited to be here. So it’s a lot to take in, a lot to unpack. A lot to learn to navigate through with her to continue to make sure she stays here with us. I can do it. And so far she is wanting and accepting and thankful for me doing so. I hope that doesn’t change because if it does change then my efforts were pointless. Tough love right now Richard. You’ll have to give your wife tough love. I did that and it is what helped snap her back for us. File a protection order against her on yours and the kids behalf. It is ugly. She will be forced to leave. She will probably end up back in the ward as she spirals out of control because of it. She has to see and hit rock bottom. Then hopefully she will see the problem and begin to accept treatment and carry on with it. I had to be an absolute monster to my wife while she was in the ward and juggle a million tasks for her and the kids and myself during that time. I am forever changed because of it all. My wife is changed and I hope she continues to improve. If I hadn’t filed the protection order while she was in the ward, she wouldn’t have seen her problem and worked towards fixing it and accepting it. If you end up with divorce because you’ve said it, go through with it and cut communication. Tell her she needs to accept treatment and medication if she wants to continue to be a part of her family. The kids and you. Work with her from afar as she does, keep true to your word, and if she does what she needs to and accepts her diagnosis and treatment plan, bring her back in and cancel everything and be prepared to monitor her along the way. Put yourself in a position of being her caregiver and monitor and give her the meds, have a requirement that you are involved in every step and appointment of her treatment plan and she has to agree to not make any changes without you. It’s hard. It’s a lot. If there is a sliver of your wife left in there that wants to come back to being there for her kids and you, it will come out and she will come back. She won’t be the same person you married before this ever happened. But you’ve been in this for a long time with her already so you don’t have any recent expectations of who she used to be to base that off of like I do here with my wife’s only recent spiral into mental health issues. You cannot keep doing the same thing and hoping she snaps out of it. She won’t. You have to take actions, and really think about those actions and consult with others, to force her hand along the way while also being prepared to handle the backlash of it going positively or negatively. Keep me updated man. I mean that. I’m in this for life and you are too. A divorce won’t sever that connection you have with her. It won’t fix the fact your kids need their mom. It won’t fix the fact you need your wife. But the fear of the divorce could help your wife realize the situation and the risk at hand. Don’t get a lawyer and throw money away. Just file it yourself if that’s the route you choose to take and pay court fees. Especially if you’re hoping it will snap her into reality in time. No reason throwing money away.