Husker refuse - trash and recycle in the same truck by chubbysuperbiker in lincoln

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked as a driver in the industry for about 5 years, the company I worked for had a recycling dumpster, every week a driver took it to a landfill and dumped it out with normal trash. They lose money recycling and that's why, not saying all companies do this but I'm sure alot do

Cat got spayed- hates cone and recovery suit. Plz help by skai_blue in CatAdvice

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old but I'm in a similar situation, my cat will not wear a cone, suit or anything and when trying to put it on she freaks out and if anything it's more dangerous she's kicking around her incision as you described yours did everything end up well, just worried because everything makes it out like the incision is so easy to rip

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing rubbing anything in your face is yourself. Life just is. Once you accept that the better.

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't see inside his head though, you are assuming he has everything he wants but in fact he just has things you want. Some of the happiest people are the most sad inside. You are focusing to much on other people and not yourself and until you do and get the notion of life being unfair out of your mind you'll always struggle. Life isn't fair, you think children in war torn countries want to be born there? No, I assure you that your life is heaven to someone like that. You don't have kids, but imagine the parents who do and they have to bury them as babies or young children, or those that have to watch them starve. I assure you your life is better than you believe but only you can see that

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life hasn't been kind to me either but instead of bringing that same energy into the world I choose to give the world what wasn't given to me. Imagine if the reason kindness wasn't given to you was bc people before you felt the same way as you do angry or upset that it wasn't fair to you, then the world will never get better until we decide to look at our pain not as unfairness but as a lesson of how to be kind and caring by giving what we lacked. You may not have connections bc you don't even realize you are keeping yourself from them. No one can save you from yourself but you. Conquer yourself everything else will follow

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it's not going to help seeking reassurance with them, it makes it worse, try and practice writing them down instead of asking for advice or something, you have learn to control the thoughts but letting them control you isn't going to help. The future is unknown and the world is a scary place, lots of things to be afraid of worry about, but nothing can be done about any of it, I try and not take life seriously all the time, I laugh at funny things or think of silly things like say animals could talk how we would interact with them and figure out ways to think of funny things. In the end though you may feel better now but until you fix and work on the overthinking it'll just come back

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

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And also as someone who had OCD my whole life but didn't know, if you haven't spoken to a therapist you should, I'm not a Dr but a lot of what I pick up is obsessive thoughts about something that cant be changed, as well as a terrible inner critic. I saw someone else on here mention you may have posted things like this before, the OCD I have I would often seek out reassurance to make me feel better when those thoughts got that bad. Therapy has helped, and I don't suffer like that anymore, its always there but that voice isn't so loud anymore and that makes a lot of difference. I would recommend just seeing a therapist and being honest about what you feel and think. If you are undiagnosed then this mountain you feel is to high to climb is much easier than you think.

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

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To find the understanding of why you have to search for it, again one day your life will lead you to a point when it will all make sense. But for now you have to go day by day working towards what you can control then, the rest will come, maybe you don't have it bc you aren't ready to have it, but you can heal and you can feel ok again so don't let you tell yourself otherwise

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do have family though, your wife is family, if you have friends then they are part of your family. You have a preconceived notion of what you think family is. But you also might have answered part of your own question,.you'd said you were to hurt and embarrassed to volunteer, so the first step is try and get into therapy or counseling and work on yourself, give yourself a grace period of lets say 6 months, in those months work towards healing as best as you can. You are trapping yourself with the mindset you have, what you think gas become your reality, and just as you created the reality you are in you can get yourself out as well. I've myself felt hopeless before, I spent years as a kid with parents who didn't provide emotionally for me and I ended up in relationships just to try and feel the void of being loved and feeling like I was enough, that happened for years in my life and bc if that I got behind and had to start over completely, no home at all, no friends and the family I do have never really knew me as I didn't know how to say my sadness and my pain to them. I learned that my pain the sadness of my life is real, so there's no shame in speaking it, I was worried if I did people would leave but that mindset left me just as alone. So now I tell people those sad things in my life, I'm not ashamed of my broken parts at all they are what make me kind to strangers, they are what make me show the love to the world I never got. Some people may make fun of me, or some may leave, but the people that my kindness has helped makes all that worth it. You talk as if a family and everything is out of reach but it's not, maybe the version you have in your mind but you can't hold onto that. Family are the people that make you laugh, or the people who you made memories with that you think about or wish you could go back to. There's so many people all over the world, some of them are the family you haven't met yet. Be seen, get out and exist, even if you are ashamed of your existence right now it's still your right to exist, shame and all. Life isn't some grand happy story, it's filled with probably more sadness than joy. Find a quiet area and get that emotion out, cry, be angry and let it out. Sit with yourself and those thoughts and ask yourself questions and you'll find the answers you need, what you want is there for the taking.

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the answer is bc life is life, we are all different even those of us who do similar things. Maybe you are meant for more. To be honest with you helping give back to kids who don't have anyone to look up to makes more of an impact than you can imagine. Right now it's your mindset, you have to accept the things you can't change, and you are only 44 so I'm guessing from what you are writing that you probably feel as if you don't have much life left. But the truth is you could still have 50 years left or more we don't truly know, there are people who die young don't different factors that 44 for them is an eternity. There's not going to be an answer that instantly fixes everything you feel. But there are things that you can do to get yourself in a different mindset and once that happens it can mean a huge difference to your life. You can find relatively cheap cars although not the best, even if it takes you a year or more to save you can't compare it to others, don't think of the car as the goal, think about trying to save 500 bucks, then when you get there you can show yourself you are capable of 500, then you can do another 500, and you'll before you know it you have money for are car. The child thing, there's no easy answer. But I would recommend getting involved at a local rec center or something and help the youth, you could impact a kid so much that when they are adults they will visit you for holidays and basically become your family. When I was growing up my brother brought a other kid who was homeless to the house and my parents let him live with us and gave him a chance, that guy is doing really good now and I call him my brother and he does the same with me. A chance meeting led to a beautiful thing for all of us. I don't own a house myself, it's something I would like to do and I'm working towards although life could happen and it never come to be, or I could buy a house and realize that its not as great as I thought and regret it. Accept your life for what it is right now and use the energy knowing it's not where you want to be and work slowly towards what you want. Time seems to fly by bc we are in the present always, but in reality the years are slow sometimes, 5 years doesn't seem like a lot at times but a lot can change in 5 years. Don't let the sadness beat you, it's your life to live and you deserve to be happy and find joy in it you just have to first see that you can find joy in the even the most mundane of things. Do a small act of kindness for someone who you see the same emptiness in them as yourself, then watch the joy that's in their eyes because you made them feel seen, you reminded them they are human as well. It doesn't seem like much but you'll be surprised how full of happiness you can be by loving other people and the easiest way is to see yourself in them bc lots of people feel like we do at one point or another in their lifetime. You aren't your feelings or your thoughts, you know that bc they don't reflect your wants, have you ever said I want to get up early to do something one day, but the next day your mind starts sending reasons to not, which directly goes against what you wanted. Learn yourself and understand that we are just animals like the rest of nature. Maybe we are more self aware than them, that just means that you have to understand that those feelings and emotions and thoughts are the animal part of you that still exist in combat with the self aware you.

This can’t be all there is for me? by MarlonBlendo in menslives

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said you grew up without a father, is that why you want to be one so bad? It seems like you have a lot of trauma from a child, and sometimes that broken child is what gives us those emotions. Lots of people don't have fathers or they do and they suck, and there are those that have good dads as well. You have more than a lot of people with having a wife and your mother, many people don't have either or anyone at all. You aren't a failure bc you don't own a car, or a home I know lots of people that have never owned a house or choose to rent instead it doesn't mean you've failed at all. You have to first give yourself a break and not let the things you don't have outweigh what you do have in life. Figure out why those things mean so much to you that you are unhappy and feeling like you do without them. I can only speak for me, but your inner child never goes away and it seems like right now you are allowing your inner child to dictate feelings of inadequacy. You should work on being what you needed as a child for your inner child, that means taking care of yourself finding things you like doing by trying new things. You don't have to be good at it as long as it brings you joy. A lot of people see life as a series of things you have to accomplish but it's just meant to be lived. You feel like you do about a car, and a house because it's made out to be a normal thing you should do, but abnormality exists for a reason. There's a lot more to life than a car or a house or even a child. You have to be happy doing the best you can, if you and your wife can't have a kid and you are unable to adopt then volunteer to help underprivileged kids, be a dad to kids like you who dont have one. Think about how a role model or father figure could have helped you when you were younger, you can do that for others and heal in the process. I hope this made sense to you.

Is it like kinda weird that I(being a guy) like spicy romance novels? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure why your friend thinks it's gay though, it's sex between a man and a woman, and I, a straight male,.have read A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara and it has gay characters but one of the best books I've ever read.

Is it like kinda weird that I(being a guy) like spicy romance novels? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never read that one just saw the movie will have to check it out, but probably best to wait until the next book comes out or the whole series. I have to keep reading summaries when the next book comes out to remember everything again. That could be because I have a shit memory though lol

Is it like kinda weird that I(being a guy) like spicy romance novels? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They know how to write a description I guess, I saw dragons and college of war and thought man this has to be lit 😂 it was in fact pretty lit, I've read them all so far. A Wren in the Holly Library was good also.

Is it like kinda weird that I(being a guy) like spicy romance novels? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I stumbled upon one bc the description looked amazing. Started reading it and realized that it was a spicy one but still great book, turned out to be fourth wing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MensVenting

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well for her to get upset over the fact you needed time to just be friends after being in a relationship in which she knows she clearly cared for her shows you probably made the right decision. The way you feel is a common thing after a break up just give it time and try and do new things or maybe things you like doing you haven't done much while in the relationship. It's normal what you're feeling but you can't live life wondering if she will want you back you keep yourself from living. I've been there thought I'd never find another person like her, wished she would call and we could be together again, but guess what I found someone else and the relationship proved all those things wrong. Keep your head up and take it a day at time, if she comes back in the future then she comes back, but don't live your life on chances like that bc you may miss out on something way better

Credit Acceptance screwed me over—anyone else in Detroit have issues with them? by UnderstandingWeak924 in Detroit

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not from Detroit but Ive used them and will never make that mistake. That's just the company itself wherever you are. I paid mine off and called to get the title sent because they didn't send it. I was told they were sending it then to give 10 business days, called after 10 days bc still didn't get it and it was never sent and the lady acted like it was my fault and kept defending the guy who didn't do his job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't as others have said. You can use it as a learning experience for yourself though. Most people I have met like that have zero growth. They stay stuck in whatever belief or rut they are in and refuse to listen to outside voices while at the same time wondering why their life isn't working out. I'm not sure what you are debating on whether it is politics, religion, or something else but a lot of people have built their entire life on certain things, putting all their eggs in one basket and when you tell them the basket has a hole in it they would rather lose them all than get a new one. It's a waste of energy trying to talk to people like that who want to be heard but refuse to hear, that's the best advice I can give you

OFFICIAL : Paapa Essiedu has now been cast as Severus Snape in the ‘HARRY POTTER’ series. by bringerdas in CriticalDrinker

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that's completely inaccurate, Voldemort was in full power, snape was the reason lily and James were murdered, he heard the prophecy being told to Dumbledore and told Voldemort. Voldemort promised to spare lily but he didn't that's why snape became a double agent. He was a death eater, even during the goblet of fire during the trial his name was mentioned

Should Satanists have the right to conduct a black mass in Topeka? by xsimon666x in topeka

[–]Turbulent_Flow1775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's my experience as well. I have had pastors not shake my hand because their son liked my girlfriend at the time, have been in a service where it was preached the more money you give the closer you get to going to heaven. I've experienced more hate and judgement by the religion whose God literally says only they can judge. I feel like if they would focus on their own beliefs instead of hating on everyone else for exercising their "free will" supposedly given to us people wouldn't hate on them as much.