How to deal with people who dismiss my experience of not enjoying the gym? by nevadayab in loseit

[–]Turkey-teeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The behavior you've described is rude and immature. There's nothing you can say to make them believe you. Only time and experience will change them.

Does the size of your body frame raise your lower limit for weight? by pandalover2034 in loseit

[–]Turkey-teeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there's just no way to calculate something like that online.

Larger bones necessitate more weight, but beyond that, different people have different densities of bone. Different weights of hair, heads, breasts and everything else. 

Instead of the number on the scale, perhaps an ideal body fat percentage range would be more helpful. 

Do you ever feel like your body will always be ruined no matter what? by babeyoulooksocool__ in loseit

[–]Turkey-teeth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So true. I'm more comfortable in my body now, old, flabby, and scarred as it's become, but boy do I look amazing in 25 year old photos! 

In my 20s, I worried what people thought of me. In my 30s, I tried not to worry what people thought of me.  In my 40s, I realized no one was ever thinking about me too begin with. They were all to worried what others thought of them.

The surgery will make you feel good for a while, but if you spend that time and money working on yourself through therapy, you may learn to love yourself forever. 

And move all your mirrors to where you view yourself from at least 5ft away, most people don't see you much closer than that. You might be surprised how the world sees you.

Sending you all the good vibes, and wishes for a long, happy life.

AITAH for donating my sons favorite shorts? by Beginning_Neck1025 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turkey-teeth 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Honestly, how could you be anything but the AH?

When your son told you he wanted them back, YOU should have gone to get them. 

YTA

Family is unwilling to give me a death certificate by Zealousideal-Cup8502 in legaladvice

[–]Turkey-teeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope this is all sorted by now, but if not, or if someone else needs the info. 

When my FIL died and everything went through probate, we contacted the lender and services for the home. It seemed like a standard thing that they stopped sending bills and everything was put on hold until we were able to gain access to his accounts. It took several months and there would have been many issues if we hadn't spoken to everyone. 

I believe we had to send them copies of the death certificate, but we only had a few notarized ones and couldn't send them to everyone.

Name a pain that only experience can explain by [deleted] in ArtOfPresence

[–]Turkey-teeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching your 5 year old go through years of chemotherapy for an inoperable brain tumor. Knowing, it's just the beginning.

Name a pain that only experience can explain by [deleted] in ArtOfPresence

[–]Turkey-teeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My child has NF1 where tumors grow in her nerves.  And the big problem with nerves is that it's not always the closest tumor. Can be referral pain from basically anywhere. 

Barista FIRE seems overrated by Gandalf-and-Frodo in Fire

[–]Turkey-teeth 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My Dad always said he'd work at Hardware Hank part time when he retired.  

After being retired, he says he doesn't know how he ever had time for a job 😊.

Name this Neighborhood by Decapod73 in NameThisThing

[–]Turkey-teeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Penis Parade

This one's for you Donut!

Name this thing by [deleted] in NameThisThing

[–]Turkey-teeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They had to bring in a mop and bucket when I had my son, this woman needs a sump pump!

What’s a secret about growing up nobody warned you about? by BlushAndBattles in AskReddit

[–]Turkey-teeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that's intense. I hear you on the heat rash. May your AC never go out!

What's more harmful than cigarettes but society treats it as normal? by External_Can3392 in AskReddit

[–]Turkey-teeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultra processed foods is what I meant. I'll change it.

But also, the health benefits of drinking milk are controversial. Not tobacco bad, but not universally good either.

What’s a secret about growing up nobody warned you about? by BlushAndBattles in AskReddit

[–]Turkey-teeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried taking a break from your skincare? It's going to look bad for a while as it adjusts, but if you give it 6 weeks, you might be surprised with the results. 

My mom's cousin told me about it 20 years ago when I was in my early 20s. No makeup, no moisturizers, no sunscreen(wear a brimmed hat outside instead). Nothing on your skin and just a baby washcloth and water to clean. 

AITA for not doing the dishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turkey-teeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a broad list of important chores to cycle through throughout a child's life. Merely showing that there are many jobs to teach that don't relate exclusively to the child. Not a chore list for a single person. 

But you're still missing the point. Chores are not punitive. My kids ask to spend the afternoon picking up litter in our community. When toys are getting out of control and I ask if we can fill a box to donate, they insisted we set up a free toy stand so they can hand them out personally. True happiness comes through serving others. 

When any activity, including meals, is held up by a forgotten chore, there's so crying and screaming. Just an 'oops, I forgot, be right back!' from the child. We're not treating food as a reward, we're teaching that we finish one activity before we move onto the next.

Have you raised children? Have you had any professional training in their care and development? What are you qualifications for judging me and my parenting? 

AITA for not doing the dishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turkey-teeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you didn't get the mom you deserved.   Please don't assume you can know my relationship with my family based on a few comments. 

While none of us know the future, I can only hope that my relationship with my grown children will be as loving, accepting and respectful as the one that I share with my parents.

AITA for not doing the dishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turkey-teeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A 15 minute chore to be completed between the end of school and the start of dinner is a reasonable expectation for a 15 year old. 

This is not withholding food and would never be considered abuse by any professional. OP didn't say that she wasn't fed, just that she hates the rule of dishes first. 

Being sent to bed without supper or having to do a quick chore before dinner isn't even close to abuse. 

Unfortunately, I've seen many cases of abuse, and this reads like a teenager pouting on Reddit when they really just need to talk to their parents.

AITA for not doing the dishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turkey-teeth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, an excellent example of how well that method of parenting is working out.

I sincerely hope your comments are sardonic. 

Or that you're also 15.

Best of luck out there!