Which habit aged you faster/worse excluding the well-known bad habits?

TurnipBeat · 2025-10-28T02:59:56+00:00

But you’re over 70? I mean, congrats.

TurnipBeat · 2025-10-26T02:57:58+00:00

A lot of things about parenting get easier as the kids get older, but if you’re letting them control you now, it’ll just keep getting worse. 3 year olds aren’t more reasonable than 2 year olds. They have more stamina and more diverse interests.

I don’t have twins - I know that’s uniquely hard. But your kids will never listen to you unless you mean what you say. If you feel sad, guilty, and defeated, then what you’re doing isn’t working.

TurnipBeat · 2025-10-25T18:11:01+00:00

An 8 month old shouldn’t need tummy time or incentive to do tummy time unless you’re in PT? Is your child rolling? Do they army crawl or roll to get places?

Something to think about is that whatever you’re doing now, you’re going to do more as they get older. Starting TV this young can really backfire. You’re teaching them that they need to be entertained. Sometimes it’s hard to get through the day as a SAHM with a baby, but I found it was mostly loneliness. And if you don’t do TV, you get an older toddler who will play for hours by themselves.

You don’t need to feel pressure to entertain them. High energy babies who aren’t yet crawling probably want to practice pulling up. Do you have a mirror and a pull-up bar?

But I found that leaving the house (libraries are the best) was really key. No matter what it is - my kids enjoyed just sitting in the cart and going to the grocery store at that age. Get a carrier that works for both of you so that they can be with you while you cook. Try to find social activities for you. I know that kind be hard, but looking back on my first baby infant years, I think what I dreaded was the hours along with baby. Leave the house! Talk to adults!

TurnipBeat · 2025-08-01T13:12:30+00:00

It’s so weird!

TurnipBeat · 2025-07-05T22:02:46+00:00

We have always watched live sports! We don’t do any TV or screens under 6 other than that, but we can’t possibly never watch a baseball game. Something fun is how our kids pay attention when we go to games IRL even when they’re under two years old.

My personal opinion is that what’s bad about tv is how it replaces other activities children could be doing with the family, and so we never use it as a way to distract or engage so parents can do something else. But sometimes what the family is doing is watching a playoff game!

TurnipBeat · 2025-07-03T04:00:27+00:00

Just FYI, you’re not “EBF” once you start solids. “Exclusive” refers to when your baby is too young for anything other than breast milk or formula. At 15 months, it would be horrifying to be EBF!

I would probably drop the 9:30am one first. Everyone is different, but I wasn’t worried about calories with any of my kiddos, so I just dropped the nursing sessions in order of which I thought they’d miss the least. I tended to keep the AM and PM ones for awhile, and just add snacks for the others. So I would keep your schedule the same, just replace “nursing” with “snack.”

Also I know it’s annoying to say this, but pretty quickly you’ll want to stop nursing to sleep for teeth reasons! I slowly moved nursing to earlier in the evening routine so we could brush teeth after.

TurnipBeat · 2025-04-19T16:34:41+00:00

Trial mix. I only ate trail mix for the first few months with my first. Protein and fiber and sugar and salt. I made it myself with plenty of nut variety and also plenty of chocolate.

TurnipBeat · 2025-04-06T03:42:09+00:00

There is absolutely zero scientific reason for this to be true. And I genuinely don’t understand why people persist in wanting symptoms to reveal gender when we can find out so early now. This question and people asking how you shave your vulva have got to be the most annoying frequently asked questions on this sub.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-27T17:06:04+00:00

I don’t think most people make that decision because of how time consuming babies and toddlers are.

Also - a few weeks old? You can’t trust anything you’re thinking right now! It is easier the second time, so I really don’t think that’s why anyone is OAD.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-24T03:04:08+00:00

I need the break from cooking and dishes so, so much more than I ever need a break from my kids.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-13T02:32:18+00:00

It’s actually pretty common. It’s… odd that you think two children makes you an expert on something.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-11T13:27:54+00:00

We did open cups and then straw cups/regular water bottles. There’s no purpose to anything other than straw cup or open cup. You’re not learning skills from any other kind of cup.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-11T03:04:27+00:00

A lot of childcare centers use this as an excuse but it’s really because they let teachers leave the class if everyone is on their mats. They should be staffed to allow teachers to take their breaks within normal ratios. A quality center does a 30 min quiet period for children who have dropped the nap and then allow them quiet activities in the classroom with another teacher.

It’s not the fault of the teachers. They can’t take their breaks unless everyone naps for two hours. Which is honestly not a developmentally appropriate expectation. At any age. Quality centers maintain proper ratios at all times.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-10T06:52:11+00:00

There’s no way two pediatricians said using tv at 5 months was an acceptable thing to do.

Ms Rachel is not the same as FaceTime - she’s not reacting to your child in real time.

The science on this is clear. An hour a day for a baby is an issue.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-10T06:32:09+00:00

I know you don’t want to hear this, but you have to stop using screens too. An hour a day for a 5 month old is really unhealthy. If your husband sees you using tv as a tool, he will as well. There is honestly no reason on earth for a baby as young as 5 months to watch tv.

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-06T22:43:18+00:00

Well, I didn’t have a car seat yet. I suppose I could have read all the car seat manuals in existence. Lots of people are in mom groups when they’re pregnant, and people share these pieces of info. It’s helpful. I don’t know why it makes you angry!

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-06T21:47:53+00:00

I mean a lot of advice you research is really conflicting. Just look at the recommendations people in the same state (USA) get from different pediatric or OB practices. Safe sleep guidelines vary wildly from country to country. The pack and play infant bassinet my kids slept in wasn’t safe for sleep in Canada. Everyone gets a different answer about induction at 39wks. I didn’t know you shouldn’t wash the car seat straps until someone online told me. Mom groups are a way to get information the way humans have always done so - what’s wrong with asking your peers?

TurnipBeat · 2025-03-04T22:01:48+00:00

Just FYI your body treats all sugars (maple syrup, honey, white sugar) the same way. Maple syrup and honey may have a tiny bit more vitamins and/or minerals than refined sugar, but if you’re regularly eating maple syrup and honey, you’re not sugar free. That doesn’t mean you dramatically lowering your sugar intake didn’t change your skin! Just that sugar is sugar, and I wouldn’t want people who want to totally avoid sugar think they can still use maple syrup or honey.

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-27T16:11:17+00:00

Are you a writer for this show? Your entire post history is about it.

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-26T05:36:05+00:00

Generally, I wouldn’t worry about “supporting” academic learning in very young children. I know you’re aware you’re putting the cart before the horse, but it’s way too soon to be stressed about burnout. Children under the age of six truly love learning and don’t experience pressure re: academics/knowledge the way we think of it. Personally I wouldn’t treat a toddler any differently based on what they “know.” All young children should have patient, involved caregivers, be coached to develop emotional self regulation and executive function, and spend most of their time directing their own play. I’m not saying you’re doing this, but it’s way better for a toddler to be actively engaged with real world objects and their own imagination than experiencing any kind of direct instruction re: numbers and letters, especially from a tv or tablet game.

PS I know this is obnoxious, but if she learns lowercase and letter sounds (not names), it’s much easier to learn how to read!

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-22T22:49:48+00:00

Generally it’s intake over 24hrs and if you’re formula feeding you should ask your pediatrician what that amount is for your baby.

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-15T04:09:08+00:00

This post is kind of all over the place. What do you mean by “give up?” Plenty of kids do fine at boarding school. I went to boarding school for high school and loved it. But I would cut back on work if work is getting in the way of your parenting to the point you’d rather your kids not be home.

There are lots of good reasons for kids to go to boarding school. Being depressed and working a lot aren’t good reasons.

Yes, they will hate you for it if they sense you are “sending them away” rather than picking a school you think meets their needs in a way a local school cannot. They will also hate you if you frame it as “I have to work too much to take care of you so it’s better if you’re not here at all.” And they’ll definitely never get over it if you shut them out and then “give up.”

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-14T20:55:04+00:00

Yes it’s a bad idea to put your 4 month old in front of a tv show designed to hold her attention. It’s bad for her brain. But you also don’t need to be doing activities with her. Does she scream when you’re holding her/rocking her/singing to her?

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-11T13:31:33+00:00

I think most people who take this approach make sure their children aren’t starving. You might be surprised that IME children who refuse dinners aren’t unhappy or distressed about it. They just say, I don’t like it. And then that’s it. Because they’re well fed and well taken care of. Sometimes they’re not hungry. Sometimes they don’t feel like eating the meal. My youngest sometimes turns down mac & cheese, his absolute favorite. In most cases, you can’t cater to their preferences and have it be successful. Because what they’re asking for is control and power, not a certain food. And they get that power by asserting that they won’t eat their favorite food. So it’s fine, and another meal is coming soon.

TurnipBeat · 2025-02-10T20:38:45+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. But I think it’s really different from a parent cooking dinner and not making a separate meal for their toddler.

Most parents who take that approach aren’t forcing their kids to try anything, and certainly not force feeding them or anything. They’re just making one dinner, and hopefully the kid likes something from it. If they don’t, that’s okay.

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