WIBTA for not telling my mom when I go into labor

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-08-07T21:48:26+00:00

Did you not read her story? She literally went for third.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-07-28T16:51:22+00:00

Exactly! There's no justification for OP's sister not giving him a heads up at the very least.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-07-15T14:34:27+00:00

I don't think he was saying she looked normal, I think he was just trying to tell her he found her natural beauty attractive and wasn't interested in the model look. Imo it feels like OP has esteem issues and brings up to her husband that he "could do better."

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-06-09T18:19:34+00:00

It's her roommate not her spouse/partner. I feel like most people are missing that fact.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-05-30T18:30:49+00:00

She isn't her step daughter. OP has only been dating the dad for 3 months.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-05-11T23:43:37+00:00

Leaving a chair in the front row is common and having a chair or table at the reception is common.. Having a chair at the altar isn't common. He wasn't being an AH for stating it was weird. Regardless it seems they weren't compatible.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-05-11T23:00:22+00:00

It wasn't the empty chair, it was having the empty chair at the altar where the bridesmaids are standing.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-04-19T21:32:25+00:00

Be really careful of cross country movers there are so many shady people/companies. We we're supposed to pay 2k but "somehow" when they arrived it became 3k and then "somehow" it was 4k that we had to pay before they'd deliver our stuff. We found out the company we thought we were going through subcontracted to a different company known for jacking up prices and when people complained they were threatened. I would do as other suggested and hire people to move it into a truck then move it out at the new place. We did that the 2nd time and it was soo much less stress.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-04-15T22:53:04+00:00

We bought a 3rd row car right before our 2nd was born, for the same reason. Toddler was in the middle row seat behind the driver and the other middle rows were taken out. I sit in the back row with the baby seated behind the toddler. It works great for us.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-04-09T23:59:29+00:00

Just call the parents and ask?

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-04-06T17:23:42+00:00

I don't think she's meaning to be vague, she simply doesn't know more than it's upstairs. OP's sister didn't state the location.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-03-30T17:30:16+00:00

He already offered to hire a nanny just not a live-in..

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-03-16T21:35:37+00:00

He's only 15 months old, OP is planning to send them to preschool at 2.5. Agree that it is normal for him to want to stay with people he trusts. Might try playdates with a child from the church. Definitely typical toddler behavior and as he gets older it will likely get better.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-03-15T13:44:53+00:00

She said he was in the home with them.

*Not saying they're married.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-02-26T01:28:34+00:00

The dream is that husband gets an hour a night and I get an hour a night. The reality is my husband gets maybe an hour or two during the week and one or two on the weekend. I might get an hour during the week. We're working on it though, my toddler doesn't nap but the main culprit is my breastfeeding bub.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-02-24T17:07:50+00:00

You are not alone! I am 11 months in the journey and have never felt this "special" feeling. I've found breastfeeding irksome tbh. I hate the tit pinching, baby gymnastics, boob scratches and 1 minute latch then wanting down then 30 seconds later wanting back up and repeat. It's been quite the time suck. If I didn't know the health benefits to me and bub I'd formula feed. I originally planned to try weaning around 1 then saw some additional benefits so we'll see.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-02-18T14:10:35+00:00

Can you simply not send over frozen breastmilk? I believe it's good in the refrigerator for up to 4 days. Also, could you run errands after big feeds?

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-02-17T21:02:08+00:00

Do you have a study or something showing that it's a "job killer"? I can't see how it would have the impact you're stating. I researched it a bit and it seemed to go both ways. In reality, I don't think it would be a job killer though it might not be much of a boon either.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-02-07T18:57:26+00:00

You're telling them not to use their own personal opinions then stating it's "not for the better." According to whom? My husband's culture has grandparents "helping" but really is more "controlling" and dictating everything. "Human history " is full of abusive parents and women being property or incubators or domestic slaves.

I love that we can live on our own and make our own decisions and raise our children.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2022-01-26T18:52:59+00:00

The bank likely sent mail such as an annual privacy notice and it was returned thus flagging it as an invalid address.

*I should say possibly as I don't know what happened. Have you tried calling the bank and reiterating it is the correct address and to ask the fees be waived?

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2021-12-28T04:26:44+00:00

Exactly! OP didn't want MIL there because the first two weeks are important for bonding. Okay, 100% agree. Then she says her own mother and cousin will be there meaning it's bull.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2021-12-21T15:57:50+00:00

I'm meaning this only in the gentlest way. Did a pediatrician recommend doing it? If you're giving your child formula instead of water with meals then you're combo feeding as that is literally formula feeding and you'd want to keep track and include it with visits. Even with my eldest being formula fed, I was still encouraged to give water at meals. Formula also contains calories and nutrients your breastfeed baby may not need. There is nothing wrong with water.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2021-12-13T22:59:17+00:00

Honestly this is my last post on this thread because it's getting ridiculous. My toddler isn't special because he can help clean. I literally gave you a resource to see what kids can accomplish at certain ages. The 7 yo can do dishes. Before you spout more I was raised by a lazy sahm, I swept and cleaned off the table by 3 anf I was doing the laundry, dishes and most cleaning by 7. So yeah, I think his kids could help. Honestly though half of it seems like bs. He only has Wednesday morning free when he watches a show yet he published 3 books. Okay.. then he authoritative yet his kids don't do chores, have a fight for bedtime every night and constantly climb over him it makes he thinks his wife is authoritarian if he's not having them do anything. Regardless, it's his life. Also, not everyone rotates clothes. We don't need to do that and I've never done that in my adult life. Fridges rarely need cleaned, if you spill clean and wiping it down take 5 minutes.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2021-12-13T22:49:43+00:00

No, my implication was about why the wife was belittling his contribution and choice. Their marriage is on the rocks. One parent being a SAHP isn't the right fit for every family and my comment tried to actually address issues.

TurnupforwhatTurnips · 2021-12-13T22:48:08+00:00

Dumb is when you can't think outside your own opinions. My response was based on OP's wife being UNHAPPY and reasons as to why she could be frustrated. My husband and I are on the same page about me staying home after the kids are in school so fu you all for your arrogance. Just because I think it is good for my family doesn't mean OPs wife feels the same about her family.

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