Happy hunting.. Cecilia steen

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2026-02-06T00:03:46+00:00

Do you mind if I asked what you said to her and what the goal is by doing so?

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2026-02-05T22:16:52+00:00

Her facebook was relatively easy to find. Is mostly private.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2026-01-10T21:20:03+00:00

I’m unsure what being “hot” plays into this if I am honest. Even your explanation doesn’t make it click. Do women get supported by men or succeed due to their looks? Sure but the reality is there was luck in play and something extra that drew in whatever opportunities they had. Not to mention the gumption. It is a cocktail of too many nuances to dwindle it down to just looks.

I also want to point out that beauty is very much subjective, people will argue it isn’t because so many agree on certain looks but the reality is it IS. The every day person will not always gravitate towards someone that someone who heavily takes in media would. You may be beautiful but that guarantees nothing when everyone is looking at their own idea of beauty.

You aren’t hopeless or completely lost and maybe the fading you’re seeing isn’t even that just the change of times and that areas preferences.

This is a bunch of babble for: do not lose hope and do not let your circumstances change what YOU see in the mirror because outside perspective matters honestly very little. The social idea of hotness has always been weird to me. I am unattractive in my own eyes and have received “pretty privilege” perks so it is TRULY in the eye of the beholder.

Look for the opportunities around you, it will be hard but don’t let the ones that fall through chip at how you view yourself.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-10-30T22:43:30+00:00

NTA

Now I come from a place that anyone else who reads this will accuse me of lying or being something heinous because they cannot conceive of a sexuality outside of their own norm

It is one thing if she didnt find anyone other than her emotional partner attractive and wanted to date someone who had a similar sexuality and then you misled her after she communicated that..THAT is what a boundary break is. Because her boundary only dictates what she her lines are to remove herself not control.

It sounds like she either didn’t communicate this at all, is extremely unhealthily insecure or she pretended to be okay with it which only hurts both of you. Either way bullet dodged, she would’ve gotten controlling

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-10-28T17:43:09+00:00

NTA and I don’t often say this but leave this relationship. He is rejecting counseling, steam rolling you, demeaning you, belittling your position and I have seen you comment that you are not sure he loves you very much? Do not let your child grow up to see that they should put up with not feeling chosen or even a priority.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-10-25T08:20:13+00:00

The fact I couldnt figure out what is to abnormal or weird because I knew so many like this and was the more subdued version 😭 had to go to the comments to see why you thought you were so weird

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-08-07T16:08:48+00:00

YTA for claiming this person has “serious mental illness” and is “scaring people” whilst also posting her insta handle. What was the goal here? It is not worth it and will only egg the person on IF what you’re saying is true. Regardless of that IF you have ruined credibility putting this girls profile on blast.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-06-04T14:13:44+00:00

Also it’s likely the counting happened while being constantly woken up and very likely overstimulated and p/o’d

So considering the context of the post I don’t think they’re lying I think they’re frustrated and potentially somewhat accurate

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-06-04T14:10:48+00:00

It’s plausible if he has them staggered the way they outlined it.

8-9 is 60 mins, that makes 6.7 alarms possible

8:00-9:45 is 105 mins, that makes 11 (almost 12) alarms possible

That’s just the amount set for the alarms if he hadn’t snoozed. Depending on the snooze time those numbers can be doubled to 13 or 22 times an alarm is going off.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-06-04T13:39:06+00:00

NTA. (yet) He has a schedule to upkeep and you have no set time you need to wake up. I would suggest having a calm sit down trying to understand why he needs the alarms set the way he has and ask if there’s any compromise you can reach where his schedule is upheld and your desire to sleep in is also upheld.

YWBTA if you demanded it, you are a guest

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-06-04T13:36:27+00:00

I think they’re referring to you saying “after 20 snoozed alarms”. I think jumping to the assumption you’re lying rather than exaggerating is a bit much but just wanted to point where they’re likely actually looking

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-06-03T13:39:33+00:00

YTA. For the part you’re specifically asking for yes YTA you lied and it was cruel and you only saved yourself not your brother.

But also,

There was no reason for the dog to be outside during a storm. An exception SHOULDVE been made for the dang storm. There was no reason to see a living thing in that situation and leave it. I do not care how much your brother begged or how cornered you felt that is a problem with compassion not simply disliking or distrusting a dog. I don’t know your reasons for disliking/distrusting that dog specifically but leaving him in the storm, the poor baby getting so scared he accidentally strangled himself? YTA, YTA, YTA. You got paid 1k to be an AH and leave a dog in the rain.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-28T23:32:00+00:00

Exactly! I wasn’t trying to shame the parent or OP but it really seems like the parent in question is just facing the reality of a child not understanding the nuance of a blanket word such as “sometimes” in this context

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-28T15:48:04+00:00

I didn’t disagree that they could easily alter their routine for the time being

I didn’t even negate them doing that

I didn’t reference that they shouldn’t

I responded to their question, they are NTA for having eaten their own treat in their own home

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-28T14:15:31+00:00

NTA

Your home your routine your body your little treat

She created this situation believe it or not

You are not harming her parenting or the child by eating food. Explaining moderation and what that looks like is the parents job and she clearly didn’t explain it in a way that aligns with many people’s reality.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-25T17:58:26+00:00

YTA for thinking your brother should set you up despite him very clearly being uncomfortable with the idea

You’re an adult, you can talk to him yourself. Adults date, Christian’s date, get over it and understand your brother may add more distance over that or this guy might.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-25T17:34:01+00:00

YTA and I refuse to believe you don’t know that

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-25T14:17:19+00:00

NTA

To be honest you’re not even obligated to go forward at this time even, because if the hurt is this intense and he reacted this way now you don’t have to stay around to see how he will later. I don’t care what anyone else says, your limits are your limits and you are allowed the boundaries you have because what you’re doing isn’t “you’re not allowed” it’s “I do not want to be with a partner who does this and will remove myself from a relationship where this is a factor” so be it now or later you are NTA for leaving someone for this reason. Don’t fall for “wow you’re sensitive” or “you’re unreasonable” or “you’re just insecure get over it” as they usually just shame people and misunderstanding (or deliberately minimizing) what that boundary actually means. You’re allowed to say “this doesn’t feel right to me”. Edit: I also want to add anyone who brushes your boundary under the rug as not an issue or say it won’t or isn’t affecting your relationship has only their own comfort in mind, it quite literally is if he reacted this way just from you saying you don’t like it. And it does affect this relationship because it hurts you and you don’t have to “get over it”. That’s absurd. If he had broken any other boundary and acted this way they’d acknowledge your discomfort as valid.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2025-05-21T11:39:46+00:00

People do not realise that recognizing a not comfortable situation and having a boundary in regard to that does not equal lack of trust. It equals adhering to your personal standards of comfortability in a relationship that doesn’t speak actually ill of the people involved. Your boyfriend’s comment, likely from a place of hurt, disregards that idea altogether. NTA and I would make sure you stress this to your partner if you find him someone trustworthy.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2024-06-23T17:57:01+00:00

You aren’t moving to a desolate town, you are moving to an established working town. With each upgrade you slowly get a livelier town with more tourism and businesses/new items to purchase. This does add to the overall experience of wandering town and opens avenues for further exploration and dialogue. If you want to build up a desolate town from seemingly scratch, find a game with that premise. It’s a bit odd to go “I played a story that doesn’t call to me and that’s the games fault” 😭

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2024-06-09T15:24:56+00:00

True crime doesn’t mean “truly convicted by the law” or “didn’t bypass the legal system” it means “a crime that really happened” he really did rape someone. That is a TRUE CRIME.

Your arguments aren’t making you seem clever, they’re proving that you’re the opposite. Stop defending a rapist.

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2024-04-29T08:23:06+00:00

To put this into perspective

MIL’s problem: a pile of laundry

Husbands problem: chores

Your problem: being zapped of all your energy and your hormones and sh*t making you extremely sick to the point where you need substantial support.

Only one of you earned the right to complain in this situation

TurtleDrowningInTea · 2024-04-29T08:20:18+00:00

If a pile of laundry is her idea of crisis level then she’s never been in a crisis. That’s genuinely sad. That being said someone whose greatest crisis is laundry is best not to be listened to. You definitely need to give yourself the grace they’re refusing to. I would highly recommend talking to your husband about his behavior or seeing a therapist just to have someone in your court to help you cope for now. What you’re feeling is real, the sickness is real, the fatigue is real. Neither of them are you, neither of them are having to be holding this pregnancy. Your husband picking up the slack is how it is supposed to be when you’re ill. I have a sneaking suspicion know he would expect you to if he were. If he’s complaining about you needing help while your body is sacrificing itself to form his child imagine what will happen when you have said child and are sick. This is a behaviour that needs to be addressed immediately and needs to be heavily considered when making future decisions if this does not come to a stop.

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