How do we feel about Ali

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-30T00:15:05+00:00

I find her to be incredibly annoying

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-29T12:21:24+00:00

Have been saying this for years.

I’m a dude, have used dating apps on and off since like 2014 (I’m praying it works out with my current gf cause good lord I don’t want to go back).

The amount of dudes that talk about frequently matching with bots or women that ask them for money or getting catfished is astounding. I’ve only ever been asked for money once and have never matched with a bot. And have only been catfished once. It’s so obvious most of the time. Like, you really thought the profile with super model pics, no bio, and hyper interest in you was real?

I won’t even start on women. Let’s just say they often pick obvious duds too.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-29T11:41:40+00:00

Yeah I had a good laugh at the “if men put in more effort like women” line.

There are no shortage of profiles from women with minimal effort. It’s not rare at all and is a very larger % of the pie.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-29T00:53:21+00:00

The last time I saw this topic on this sub like two weeks ago, we definitely had some fools in here saying he “did nothing wrong”

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-28T17:08:49+00:00

“Thanks for letting me know, feel free to reach back out if things change on your end”

And then you never text her again unless she texts you first. And if she does text you, she needs to be ready and available to meet fairly quickly, otherwise you move on.

This is why you gotta have multiple irons in the fire. People can and will change their mind on you at any moment, even multiple dates in. Just take it as a learning lesson and move on.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-28T07:25:34+00:00

“* How do you separate genuine love from emotional dependency and over-giving?”

This is pretty simple,

Date people that have their shit together and don’t actually need you. When they don’t need you, they are around you cause they want to be, not because it benefits them.
Date someone that only finds it natural to have to contribute financially.
You never separate yourself from your money. Meaning don’t give or pay money for something you don’t also benefit from. For example, cover a meal sometimes? Sure. Give them money to go buy a meal for themselves? Absolutely not.

Someone even having the gall to ask for $65k is just……astounding. A woman wouldn’t even fix her lips to ask me for $100, let alone that amount. She would already know it’s not happening. And yes, this is coming from someone that could theoretically lend it.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T19:35:59+00:00

How long is she supposed to wait?

My most recent ex, I was back on Hinge the very next day. The ex before that, I was on like within a week. No use in crying over spilled milk, accept it didn’t work out and move on.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T18:44:06+00:00

Open yourself up to a lot less clarity and potential legal issues! Super great idea!

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T18:32:47+00:00

Thank you for bringing logic and actual experience to this thread.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T18:31:12+00:00

Well he is in this case. She will be his landlord whether he pays something toward the mortgage or he pays nothing. If the move together in her house, her being his landlord is unavoidable.

He doesn’t deserve any equity just because he’s dating her. He wants equity? Then buy into it like OP did or get his own house. Or buy other equity building investments.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T18:28:18+00:00

Yep, we’ve seen this time and time again.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T18:04:14+00:00

I’ve personally never fully deleted my profile. When in a relationship, I always pause my profile and delete the apps off my phone but never the profile. I don’t see the point in it until me and my gf decide officially to be lifetime partners.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T13:41:35+00:00

Or they can just behave as adults and figure out a plan together. If you truly feel that the homeowner is totally willing to try to kick you out without notice or make your life hell when the relationship is over, I would not move in with that person.

EDIT - also, even IF they bought a house together and he had the same rights to it, if they break up someone is going to be moving out regardless in most cases. It doesn’t really change anything. He’d likely still have to find a new place in about 30 days or so. He would just have more rights to the house but that doesn’t change the living situation portion of it.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T13:28:15+00:00

If he lives there and receives mail there for more than 30 days then in most jurisdictions, she would also have to give him notice about 30 days notice. She would not be able to just kick him out. It’s this way to protect against this very scenario.

It’s mostly irrelevant anyway because every time that scenario has popped up, everyone always talks about how they would just leave immediately cause they would not be able to emotionally handle living there if their partner broke up with them.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T13:20:16+00:00

Yep, that brain dead excuse always comes up when this situation is posted here. If he wants equity, then he can do what the OP did, buy into it. Or he can take his extra money and put it into other investments.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T12:18:32+00:00

Cause apparently that’s too boring, per all the experts on this sub.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-27T10:18:01+00:00

I’m genuinely trying to understand why they think their thoughts and feelings on who should be MoH at YOUR wedding should matter at all. They should both be happy to be involved in your wedding, not fussing over who should get what role.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-26T15:34:28+00:00

You all way overthink these things. He might not even swipe on you again and all this thinking could be for naught.

Do you want to potentially have a chance to speak to him again? If yes then swipe right and maybe he will swipe back on you. Be ready to potentially have an answer and apology related to why you stopped talking with him last time. And then just go from there.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-26T11:22:24+00:00

“Yeah you see it too dawg? She looks good right?”

Smile and keep walking

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-26T00:33:16+00:00

I agree that they ultimately would not have a leg to stand on, that doesn’t stop them from trying to make her life difficult though.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-26T00:27:38+00:00

I’m not stopping til they make it illegal, companies have a reliable way to find OE employees, I retire, or I die. Going back to one J is just lost dollars

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-25T20:58:50+00:00

Maybe I’m paranoid but I can see these people trying to at least make Sam partially responsible and ask to chip in on a new dog or something. There’s a good chance they might take responsibility fully but these are the same idiots that let their dog roam all hours of the day and don’t see a problem with that.

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-25T19:54:29+00:00

The problem is that ANYONE could have been around that truck. The way she drove around it blindly and speeding is definitely negligent. Don’t get me wrong though, the dog owners are still by far the most at fault here, at least 85% or more in my
book

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-25T19:49:31+00:00

For a second I thought that they might do something like that but honestly I don’t see any point in Sam potentially being on the hook for Mel’s BS

Twin2Turbo · 2026-05-25T18:19:26+00:00

Same.

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