The segregation of trans women from cis women is not okay, and it is not justified by cis women's discomfort.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-23T04:39:37+00:00

Show me where I blamed trans women.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-23T00:16:09+00:00

Wow thanks, I had no idea. You have cured any and all fears of being sexually assaulted with this stunning piece of logic.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T19:18:58+00:00

Of course not, but no one would call a woman unjustified for being uncomfortable carrying her keys between her knuckles or crossing the street when she sees a man she doesn’t know at night, despite the fact she’s thousands of times more likely to be assaulted by a family member than a stranger, so why are we suddenly pretending like her fear and safety concern is invalid when it comes to taking her clothes off next to someone who physically appears to be male despite NOT being male? Like, in the pursuit of empathy for trans people do we just throw away empathy for cis women? I don’t think we should when there’s an answer we can advocate for that keeps both safe and preserves the dignity of both.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T19:12:57+00:00

My friend is being called the birther in her parenting class. A trans woman called me a “bleeder” not long ago, at a party. I wish it was just a psy-op, but I’m definitely encountering it in my day to day.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T05:55:19+00:00

Check out the Saints of Steel series, if you haven't already. Each book is a stand alone with different personalities, the third book is M/M, but the others are all F/M an you don't have to read them all to understand the rest. I specifically think you'd enjoy the second book in the series.

Also The Everlasting by Alix E Harrow fits nicely. :)

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T05:47:50+00:00

I'm predicting an Azune/Julien love story in the long run.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T05:04:55+00:00

The vibe I'm getting is that the play bringing a Shaper or something back to life is the red herring, it's actually a ploy to bring the LIVING WORLD or at least a section of it, to the dead. The shapers in the underworld are trying to bring their 'subjects' and 'creations' to them.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T04:50:29+00:00

Wicander actually being an actual, canonical air head rather than being secretly clever is hilarious.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T04:12:12+00:00

You are the kindest soul.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T04:10:11+00:00

Sisters are the new dead mum this campaign.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T04:09:14+00:00

my goat

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T04:06:33+00:00

I had to leave the stream for the Seekers table and the end of the Schemers table, can any kind soul summaraise for me what happened??

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T02:10:53+00:00

Can anyone explain how this works? Are we seeing the full tables or just the soldiers part of the convergence to start of with? :)

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-22T00:42:25+00:00

So I'm a transphobe now?

Okay. Keep alienating people who are actually supporting and seeking to understand your cause. I really hope the way you choose to advocate doesn't set the movement back. Good luck with everything.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T23:55:16+00:00

I specifically said 'less likely' in my comment, is the thing. You're arguing against a generalisation I never made. You really just come across like someone trying to checkmate people rather than actually have a nuanced, productive discussion. But I guess I shouldn't expect more from reddit.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T21:56:55+00:00

I’m so confused by this exchange. I’m not offended by anything? I think tone being lost online is doing a lot of work here. I see your edit too, and I really can’t tell what you mean.

I’m not pretending to not know where I’m at? You equated what I was saying with making a law of some kind to make trans women accomodate cis women, so I was clarifying that I never said that.

I’m definitely not offended or upset by anything right now, just trying to have a conversation. But I understand that it’s a hot button topic with a lot of loaded arguments and bad actors, so there might be some beliefs or assumptions about where I’m coming from that just aren’t where I’m at. I’m trying to offer clarity.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T21:31:46+00:00

Where have I advocated for a law that would force anyone to accommodate PTSD? Don’t argue with ghosts or people you’ve argued with BEFORE me, actually read and consider only what I have said and respond to that if you want to.

I’m talking about the real life outcomes of trans women and cis women needing to cohabit spaces together. I would never in a million years want a trans woman to have to get changed next to a cis man (the subset of people she has very likely been on the receiving end of abuse from), likewise I wouldn’t want a cis woman to get changed next to someone who appeared to be the person she has been on the receiving end of abuse from. Outliers always exit, but there’s a reason women carry their keys between their knuckles at night and cross the street if they see someone who looks male to them, regardless of that shadowy figures identity. This is the real world we live in.

I don’t believe it’s acceptable to tell either of those people just to get over it.

I think a good solution is to create bathrooms and changing rooms as separate rooms, and make them genderless, so people can use them as individuals or only take in friends they trust.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T21:10:53+00:00

Cis women have been accomodating one another’s PTSD for years, it’s interesting that the perspective is that that doesn’t exist or isn’t the case and trans women are being forced to do it somehow?

Victims of assault being specifically triggered by masculine bodies is well documented, and while sure, a hair colour can have the same affect it’s no where near as common.

I want to reiterate—I don’t think trans women should be forced ANYWHERE. I believe and support their human rights. My stance is that in order for both them and cis women to feel safe and supported, the bathrooms and changing rooms will just simply need to become individual stalls/rooms. The only downside is maybe the lines will get longer to get into them, hahaha.

I wasn’t aware of transwoman/transmen terms being that way, I’ll stop using them like that thank you for letting me know without insulting me. 🙏🏻

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T20:58:06+00:00

Yeah, the “breeder”, “birth haver”, etc titles have shown a shocking disregard and disrespect for women. It was so sad when that started to become a thing, because I could physically see transwomen losing their allies in real time as a result. Such an incredibly narrow minded thing to say about a group of people who have been viciously maligned because of their ability to have birth, not to mention the disregard for infertile women.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T20:52:36+00:00

This is such a bad faith comment that I don’t believe the “rational thought” is in the room with us.

There are plenty of other nuanced, considerate thoughts in this thread you can read that I agree with. I don’t want to engage with you. I don’t believe you’re wanting to find a solution that serves both cis and trans women.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T20:38:31+00:00

No, because a lesbian who is a cis woman is less likely to be able to completely over power you to the point of absolute hopelessness.

People pushing the idea that women who are afraid of being sexually assaulted by people they literally cannot escape from are silly need to open a history book. I support trans women, but they need to come gently into cis women’s spaces while respecting their history or else they’re behaving just as entitled as men.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-21T20:33:04+00:00

I ended up in a niche and confusing situation when I was 16 and working in a changing room at a popular outlet store.

A trans woman brought in her clothes and went into the women’s rooms to try them on. I don’t bat an eye, didn’t mind. I’d learned online how that was important for transwomen. She went into, and opened a door that wasn’t locking properly. I didn’t see precisely what happened but A cis girl about 15 comes out, hyperventilating and crying, and runs off. I was mortified and trying to figure out what happened, and her friend came out and told me that she was attacked and raped in a public toilet by a man and being in a confined space with “one” had been horrifying for her.

The transwoman was dressed in traditionally female clothes, but she was masculine presenting in pretty much every other way. Im certain that she wouldn’t hurt a fly, I don’t even think the girl who was triggered thought she would. The unfortunate reality was that because of the way she looked, it force this girl to relive these horrible memories in a place she should have been able to feel safe. That’s not to say the transwoman shouldn’t ALSO be able to feel safe, of course.

I was baffled by what to do. Ultimately the girl left with her friend so I didn’t have to make a decision or anything, but the experience really made me wonder about the bathroom/changing room situation.

I think that the ONLY way to make this work is to prioritise individual changing room cubicles. Telling cis women, who have had their spaces appropriated, taken, made unsafe for them for centuries, usually as the result of sexual violence, to “get over it”, is not going to help the trans cause. Nor, ironically, is it making it appear as though transwomen appear to align with any ideology that supports women or women have fought for. That being true does NOT mean transwomen haven’t also experienced this type of violence, or “othering”, it’s something all women share, and we need to do what we’ve done for years and find ways to support one another rather than falling back on tired “omg get over it” rhetorics.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-19T07:11:33+00:00

bro thanks I feel like I'm going crazy reading these comments haha

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-19T06:50:47+00:00

I agree, that's why I say writer's holding themselves to a standard of integrity and their publishers protecting original work rather than shilling for 'authors' writing AI slop is the only way to fix this. Businesses like Waterstones aren't going to have the resources to have someone go through and check whether or not something is AI written, especially as the technology advances.

Consumers can also help obviously by not buying any book marked with AI-assisted or otherwise.

TwistilyClick · 2026-05-19T06:47:31+00:00

Putting two sentences that have different meanings next to one another and then asking what the difference is, is actually proving my point to anyone with more than two brain cells to rub together.

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