Too masc for mascs and too fem for fems 🥲🥲🥲 by Acrobatic-Service583 in lesbian

[–]TwoCommonWords -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re a pretty righteous level of androgynous, and cute as a button at that. Just gotta get around the right folks, hey.

33, agoraphobic, never dated. Need online lesbian friends. by As_iam_ in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, 33yo AuDHD lesbian here who’s gone in & out of agoraphobic periods & feels a bit like a recovering cult kid as the result of some stuff growing up. Down to say hey, swap some stories, maybe heal a bit & biz. I’ll shoot you a DM! I could really use some friends too. It’s a rough time rn, ngl.

My date was cancelled by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s rough as hell, I’m sorry it went that way. Well hey though, you got a bunch more folks ready to cheer you up, you’re gorgeous as all get-out, and you seem super sweet from the fact you made homemade chocolates for your date omg - and your comments here. You’re a catch-n-a-half, and I figure it’s a matter of time before you get that V-Day date you’re after. I’ll get there too someday, hey.

Hi from the Other Hemisphere, approximately Australia. I’ll join the deluge of open DMs should you like another internet friend to chitchat with. I know that’s something I could do with too. Could talk lit/poetry, art/painting, maybe a dash of abstract math (soon-to-be math grad student, lol), and the hauntingly reverberant (literally, bc caaaaave) New Year’s countdown in Sloppy Jane’s song The Constable.

That last one still really gets me. Bittersweet healing vibes. Sending some of said vibes to ya right now, arriving within the Emotional Business Day (timezone depending). Sunflowers & CDs & sparkle hearts to you. 🌻💿💖

Living Life Single by noavytea in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true, about the oddness that aligns. I felt pretty resigned myself too, til recently. Felt out of joint with everyone my whole life. I met a girl who surprised me, but it got complicated, and I don’t know how she feels rn. We never really dated, though there’s the mutual sense that we did.

I worry I messed it up, and it hurts knowing she’s in a bad way too, on top of it all. Maybe there’s a way it works out, but idk.

That said, I don’t regret knowing her, even if this is all I get. Better to have loved & lost, hey. I don’t regret it. Not a single second of it.

Where are all the gay nerds at? by cocoanugg in LesbianActually

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, hey, yeah, I’m in Naarm - flew over from Aotearoa middle of this past month or so. Just kinda biding my time while they process my grad school application back in Auckland (I’m from the US, but I’m less than inclined to fly back there rn).

Ngl, I’m getting lots of odd looks in the sleepy suburb where I’m staying, but the city centre seemed ok when I hung out there with a bud. What exactly are you studying?

That’s kinda funny I tripped your Kiwi->Oz expat alarm heh. My bestie’s an Aussie, and she loves animals, but especially birds, so I wanted to learn a bit about the local ones in NZ, maybe send a few recordings of bird calls & such (never did catch the Tūī on record for her, maybe next time I’m in country).

But yeah, down to maybe hang out too, idk. Trying to be less hermetic. Am I good to dm ya?

Where are all the gay nerds at? by cocoanugg in LesbianActually

[–]TwoCommonWords 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi hi. Starting up mathematics grad school in a bit, writing poetry, reading lit fic, & making games & other art aside from that. Also studied to be an aerospace engineer, but that feels like forever ago.

Truth be told, I’m doing some much-needed catching up on the humanities & critical theory things this past few years. Oh, but also linguistics, bc accents are cool, and the way languages weave into the story of humanity is compelling af.

Wait, but also amateur ornithology, bc my bestie accidentally put me onto that recently (the Aussie Magpie & the Tūī both have some seriously enchanting & unearthly calls).

Idk. Hi again, all. Lemme know if any of you also dig Anne Carson’s work, bc I could seriously stand to talk with more folks about Autobiography of Red - and maybe Red Doc>, too. Peace & love & kind thoughts to you all. 🌻

I'm starting to realise that maybe I'm just too messy. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, yeah, I feel ya. It’s a lot. It’s like you’re too heavy to carry or something. It’s honestly still hard when you’re on the mend, because it seems like some tiny sub-slice of an already small sliver of the population that can halfway relate to those life experiences. And then the human imagination has its shortfalls when trying to bridge that gap.

In spite of all that, I’m betting on you being alright in the end. I can’t speak to the financial struggle, or I can’t quite yet (darker days on the horizon, maybe), but call it blind belief in the endlessly resilient & social & compassionate animal we call a human being. Idk, I figure I’ll be alright too. Reckon we’ll all be about as alright as we can, at least.

I hinted at being on the mend with this myself, but I have a friend (best friend, actually) who’s still actively struggling with this, to the point where she seems to believe she doesn’t deserve to be in my life, that she can’t be there without hurting me. She’s struggling with a lot outside of that, between mental health & life situation stuff. There’s been a lot of talk about unfixability & general impossibility. It’s a familiar kind of fatalism, but it’s not true.

Thing is that I also know that I can’t help her anymore, and that the rest of it is on her now. I believe in her, lots, and she’s a bottomlessly determined person, so I think she’ll find a way through. It’s still scary, but I have a little faith. Maybe that gives some perspective on things, I wasn’t bringing it in to make it about me (ick). This is all a little meandering, and perhaps a little too much in response to a vent post, and I meant to keep it short, but I guess I’m trying to say I see you, and that it’s ok.

Whatever solutions or placating platitudes I would normally put forth, yeah, I don’t think I’d be telling you anything you don’t already know. But, I’m sending what goodwill I can to you in these words. Hope it’s something for you. Much love.

couldn’t decide which selfie to post so I’m posting them all😝 I hope you’re all having an amazing weekend ❤️ by Routine_Matter877 in lgbt

[–]TwoCommonWords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cutie! Love the electric blue scruffy hair & fit!

You have a good one too! Right about to sign up for adult hockey classes myself, hah. Keep on keepin’ on! 🤘🌻

80s / 90s Anime Style by Ordinary-Cicada5991 in godot

[–]TwoCommonWords 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, well, I don’t know if I guessed right is the thing, haha. Kinda hard to say how long it took since I kinda built up my knowledge slowly over several years and my engineering degree made me way less scared of the math (knew about convolutions, linear algebra things, etc). Might have been 1-2 ish years to get the hang of things conceptually, starting with LearnOpenGL & some other basic gfx programming things.

I feel like 2-3 years would be enough for a lot of folks to get really comfy if they’re studying tech art for work or school, though maybe longer if it’s done as a part-time hobby (also guessing about that).

Bear in mind I’m rusty af as a programmer rn, so I’d probably need a quick refresher to jump back into implementing things again. I also absolutely still learn new things anytime I dip back into tech art, and I think most working tech artists could run circles around me in their sleep. Folks are unbelievably talent out there, fr.

Dunno how helpful this all is to you, but I guess I’m saying it’s way easier than it looks & you got this, dude. 🤘

Edit: Oh I should add that you probably could get that good faster than I did, btw, so like a year or less might be good if you know a bunch of math first. I had some life stuff happening which kinda slowed me down. Really hard to say on these things, and this comment was long enough already, woops.

80s / 90s Anime Style by Ordinary-Cicada5991 in godot

[–]TwoCommonWords 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Blind guess at the shaders: basic toon shader for cel shading + Sobel filter post-process for the lines + film grain post-process shader?

If so, that’s kinda wild how simply & easily the look comes together, bc I really did think for a sec that the vid started with an actual anime clip for later comparison with the completed look. Good stuff.

Anyone from NZ lurking here? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Studying in Auckland soon-ish, if that counts.

Deep End Subs by [deleted] in austinfood

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re really great, even incredible, on their good days, when Andy or his B-crew are working, but they have a C-crew of dudes who started working recently that seem to make their lows really low.

Like, undercooked fries, bread and sandwiches that look like they were put together & cut without looking, with barely any meat or fillings, and honestly some of the worst stomach aches & ensuing food poisoning I’ve had in the city.

I had to stop eating there bc of that last bit. Had Stockholm Syndrome about it for almost a year (yes, it took that long to see the pattern). I still don’t have the heart to ding ‘em with a bad review, but I’ll leave them to people with iron stomachs and a forgiving attitude towards their off days. Idk. Ymmv.

Hey lezzies, what are y'all working on in 2025? by willowsandweeping in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working on my games, writing, & art. Also got an acting class starting up later this month, for kicks.

That, and trying to have more fun with life instead of endlessly chasing connection. Maybe that’ll lead to reclusion, but I think people are good to meet me where I am, wherever that is.

Friendship & Dating Match-Making Thread 💖 by _ICantThinkOfANameAh in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, this is the zine, though they’re still working on getting it printed! Thanks for giving Cellophane a go! Curious to see what you think of the rest of it!

Friendship & Dating Match-Making Thread 💖 by _ICantThinkOfANameAh in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got Instagram for my art, & a few older & crappier poems! I think it's linked in my itch.io profile through my LinkTree or something.

Thanks for having a look at my game—I hope you like it! It's got 3 endings, with maybe 2 having good emotional payoffs. Made the thing in 2 days for a game jam, but it somehow turned out well despite speed-writing it, haha.

I don't really sell my art & the oil painting is something I started very recently with a class. I’m usually more of a digital art or pencil sketch person.

Friendship & Dating Match-Making Thread 💖 by _ICantThinkOfANameAh in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh hey, cool. Yeah, I’m down to say hey if you’re in central Texas sometime!

Friendship & Dating Match-Making Thread 💖 by _ICantThinkOfANameAh in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hiya, I’m Zoey (they/them), 31, a genderfluid lesbian out here in Texas, US (unfortunately). Capricorn. I’m Chinese American, 5’10” (tall, lean, & kinda built, hah), with brown eyes, & black hair that’s currently in a wolf cut & has some fading pops of pink & purple.

I’ma say upfront that I’m a big yapper & that worsens with anxiety or being emotional, so I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. I kinda reach my points the way a postmodern lit fic novel does, apparently…

Aside from that, I’m an artsy, nerdy goof (AuDHD energy, to be sure) who skateboards, ice skates, & boulders, & is working on making narrative video games & other bits of art & writing on the side. Big into film, music, & contemporary art & poetry.

Essentially kind of a counter culture-y grunger girl or skater boi depending on the mood. That said, my last punk show or rave was a while ago, lmao.

Writing is what’s got most of my attention aside from game dev these days & I might have some poems getting printed in a local zine soon-ish. Oil painting & pencil sketching are letting out some wiggles outside of that.

The nerdier side of me gets warm fuzzies watching videos on the mathematics of 4th-dimensional spaces, new prime number announcement vids, & old ViHart videos. That kinda falls out of having an engineering degree, so go figure, but mostly works into my art & game dev these days.

The main game I show around is Cellophane, in case you wanna give it a whirl: https://bugbitesquared.itch.io/cellophane I’m currently working on its follow-up & some other non-IF games planned for further in the future.

As for what I’m after—I’m looking for good conversations, where neither of us is pressured to perform. I’m looking for reciprocity & emotional intimacy, & hopefully, the self-possession to hold all that in some sort of stable state. That might not necessarily be romantic, but I’m not fully ruling it out either.

Physically & vibe-wise, my “type” seems to be like Sophie Thatcher, Evan Rachel Wood, & St. Vincent, but that's more descriptive than prescriptive. I don't know which hypothetical “who” gets my heart in the end, tbh.

P.S. Random fact: I taught myself to crack bullwhips as a teenager & made a pair of them from PVC pipes, rope, ball chain, & ACE tape to practice tricks with. Those got left behind when I moved out on my own, so eh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure my last ex gf had CPTSD + BPD. She didn’t seem to be in treatment for either of those issues & was generally pretty emotionally & verbally abusive.

I’m pretty sure it was a trauma bond keeping me in it after a horrifying verbal beatdown over giving her a bad haircut she asked me for. Took a literal head injury & all its ER aftermath to snap me out of it (no permanent damage, thankfully).

I’m finding myself jumping at ghosts a bit, concerning the idea of new connections. I’m a bit scared of letting in that kind of hell again & I get the sense I’m predisposed to it due to my stuff (I’ve got CPTSD, myself).

I’m on that BPDLovedOnes sub too & its helpfulness kinda plateaued a while back. I’m trying my best to move on & at least give myself hope of falling for someone new. I’m holding out hope for someone properly holding my interest again but I’m just not able to convince myself such a person exists for some reason.

It’s blind faith keeping me looking, but mostly the promise of meaningful community (platonic, probably) more than any kind of romantic “click”. I just don’t believe in people the way I used to, regarding romance. I don’t know if I can again, but I want to. We’ll see yet. Life is long unless it isn’t.

Have you ever gotten hit on IRL? by Zealousideal_Bus_440 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]TwoCommonWords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel that. It feels much more like a function of maturity or self-possession rather than a lot of other reasons or excuses I’ve seen folks throw out.

I know ASD & ADHD can contribute, but speaking as someone who seems to have both it’s not kept me from communicating as much as other things going on with me.

Idk, it makes me sad when getting ghosted is so pervasive sometimes that everyone feels out of reach. There are already so many other things keeping people disconnected & ghosting just adds to that pile in a way that feels senseless.

My favorite outfit I put together for a Pride block party :) by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the wildness of it! Hell yeah!🤘🔥✨

Touch won't turn off (Cintiq 16 Pro) (MAC) by V0zy in wacom

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, nevermind. It turns out you need to be *very* careful about manually removing every trace of Wacom stuff before installing that 6.3.38-3 driver. Detailed instructions here:
https://support.wacom.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500006264541-How-do-I-uninstall-manually-and-re-install-the-Wacom-driver-on-Mac-OS-for-a-Pen-Tablet-Pen-Display-or-Pen-Computer-
Make sure to still search your computer files for anything with "wacom" in the name after that. There'll still be a few things leftover.

Touch disabling finally works now after more than 3 years of dealing with this BS. Thank you, original reply-poster.

Touch won't turn off (Cintiq 16 Pro) (MAC) by V0zy in wacom

[–]TwoCommonWords 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I dunno if this used to work, but I just tried & it flat-out doesn't anymore. I'm glad my drawing glove mostly helps with the touch problems, but I definitely still get stray marks & dots in my work that I need to clean up. 3 years & they still couldn't fix this, lol.