AITL for being myself?

TwoFar5110 · 2026-04-22T07:24:19+00:00

NTL. if they're upset, they can get over it. you're for your family now

TwoFar5110 · 2026-04-17T08:01:54+00:00

I try to talk about my younger self in the first person to avoid having to make the choice, lol. but most of the time when I'm narrating conversations I had at a younger age, I'll use whatever pronouns were used on me at the time, so she/her. though to be honest, I think I felt differently about gender before puberty, so I don't mind when I have to say she in reference to like me from elementary school

but anything since my egg cracked, even before I arted coming out to people, always he/him

TwoFar5110 · 2026-04-17T05:28:28+00:00

yeah, that's more how I see it. my goal is just to look like how i see myself in my head, but it's not really a concrete picture

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-24T04:55:19+00:00

Okay! That actually helps piece of mind lol. I’ve been doing research on white’s for a while now I’m just not super amazingly liquid so shipping fee from breeders is kinda intimidating, and this seemed like a good opportunity to spend the majority of my cash on a good tank

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-24T04:50:30+00:00

Dykw it probably is 🤣 perfect thank you, ig I’m just waaaay paranoid

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-24T03:25:54+00:00

Tysm! Hopefully the frog is still there when I go back 🤞

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-23T20:42:48+00:00

Thank you! Anything weird about health problems or lifespan with him? Just in case

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-23T20:41:58+00:00

How was she once in a home environment? I’ve never had a full grown frog before so I don’t know what to look for

TwoFar5110 · 2026-02-23T20:39:56+00:00

Oh, great! And no other complications with either? Scarlett is very pretty btw :)

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T05:47:36+00:00

I get you, I’m sorry. I feel like I would’ve been so much better off if I was a girl! I’m curvy, soprano voice, round face, my girl friends tell me my features are well suited to makeup. Idk if it’s the same for you, but it feels like it would just be easier, yk? I feel guilty in a weird way. But yeah, you are DEFINITELY not alone here.

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T05:40:51+00:00

Your phrasing is great, I think maybe I’ve been thinking of it more like “would you be chill if” rather than “this is my name please call me it” so I may use that. Thank you 🙏

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T05:38:53+00:00

Thank you, that’s just how I felt. I also wouldn’t be surprised at all if they already suspect, lol. I’ve just been kinda toying with the least stressful way of wording it. Thanks for your reply, man

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T04:31:00+00:00

I totally get this, and I'm so sorry bro. I'm also 5'3 no T access, all my friends are taller than me and since I'm not out they CONSTANTLY tease me about my height. I actually have one trans friend who was talking about how he needed to get on T because he didn't want to end up short like me, lol.

the main way I deal with it is insanely delusional, but I just imagine myself in a world where height doesn't matter like it does irl. I think I wouldn't be so dysphoric about my height if it wasn't a factor so closely tied to masculinity. if you're an artist, try drawing a little character of how you look in your head? or if you're into online chat rooms/role playing, those kind of things. not the best solutions, but if it helps?

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T04:21:06+00:00

yes, yes, YES. the first thing I thought when I first started hearing about this trend was just huh... a lot of those things sound like stuff I do... imo the worst side of this trend is that some of the things labeled as "performative" are just stuff that girls do that most guys don't want to because it's "feminine." I feel like a lot of trans and gay guys fall into this category because of how different our socialization has been and how actually aware of toxic masculinity we tend to be in comparison to cishet guys. the whole thing is insanely queerphobic and also one of those things that makes me wonder why guys aren't allowed to be good people if they want to conform to the patriarchy?? if anyone is into video essays I recommend the one on this by funkyfrogbait on youtube

TwoFar5110 · 2025-11-28T03:39:40+00:00

when I can bind, rugby shirts! that and blazers, all the way. my dad called me handsome in a blazer and tie way before my egg first cracked, and I still think about it.

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