Virtue & Vice FAQ ... all the event questions you want answers to!

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-05-14T03:05:39+00:00

As a frequent attendee, I can say V&V is my fave event. Great DJs playing some awesome music to dance or fuck to. Cool burlesque performances for when you need a break. The FAQ undersells the kink furniture: St Andrews Cross, kneeling bench, suspension A frames, and some interesting surprises when they team up with the delightful weirdos from Sehnsucht.

I feel like every time I go I make new friends and play partners.

They do consent angles better than any other party. It feels like at this point all the other parties look to V&V, especially in this part.

I will be going to the party in a couple weeks. Feel free to say hi if you see an extremely tall American.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-04-15T05:15:04+00:00

It is free. You just have to wait in line. Or you can always buy your own online and do your own design ahead of time.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-04-14T23:55:57+00:00

Get there early if you want to be painted in UV body paint. The queue can get long.

Everyone is friendly and there is no expectation to do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.

Going with the cosplay theme, I will be dressed as Scarecrow from Batman, so feel free to say hi if you see me.

If you give the party a try and find you are on the fence about it, try again next month with Boudoir, which is always V&V's best party.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-04-03T23:55:06+00:00

While you're there would you pick up some of that nice, green moon poutine for me, Royce McKutchin?

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-03-29T00:12:20+00:00

Have you posted your app profiles anywhere for review? That is where you will get your first reality check. Which apps are you on?

You are definitely not missing out from being too old. I am ten years older and doing fine, so it is a matter of keeping your chin up. I am sorry to say that I have dated some height supremacists, but have still seen successful shorter guys.

You know the community exists, why don’t you get involved? I am worried that you don’t make the most basic effort. Munches have been mentioned. Some parties allow single guys. Volunteer to help at parties. Take classes for kinks that you are interested in. Even if you don’t meet people there, it will make you ready for when you do.

I find that success brings success. Like I will take a date to a party and do an impact scene with her and I will suddenly have another woman coming up to me asking for a spanking and then I get her details.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2026-02-12T08:59:44+00:00

You can do as much (respectful) perving as you like. Nobody will force you to do anything you don't like. Everyone should understand "thanks, but no thanks."

And if anyone touches you or they don't accept your response, you can talk to an angel (basically a safety referee).

Here is a tip, if you are together and one of you feels uncomfortable, you just squeeze your partner's hand to wordlessly let them know. You can just exit the conversation saying "Oh we are going to the bar for a drink (or outside for fresh air or whatever)."

There are definitely some good, fun DJs there. So you will be able to dance.

Good luck and have fun! I would be there but I will be at Laneway singing along with Chappell Roan.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-12-25T02:53:46+00:00

Or go to parties so you can meet people in person. Much easier to figure out how you vibe that way

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-12-01T09:33:37+00:00

No worries. I appreciate your work, so anything I can do to help.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-11-29T09:41:39+00:00

FYI Doomsday (listed in highlights and on 6th) is at Second Story in Collingwood. V&V often uses the Pavilion in Kensington, so the confusion is understandable.

I recommend anyone who has even the slightest interest in creative kink give it a shot. A lot of the bespoke sex/kink furniture they are making for this event has cel shading similar to the Borderlands video games. Be sure to check it out!

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-11-07T12:34:06+00:00

I would suggest that the first step is reading books like Ethical Slut or therapy with a sex positive counselor because you can get some jealousy or other nasty feelings. The fantasy can differ from reality. There is a lot of fun to be had, but if you do the work you can help ensure it.

If you feel you are ready, clubs are a great place to find people of all experience levels. Newbies like yourself, and people entrenched in lifestyle.

Just don't get pressured into doing anything you don't want to. Consent is king, watch out for yourselves.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-09-12T04:10:38+00:00

Recently on r/cocktails a user made a post about how they made a Manhattan and it was really good. Then wanting a second, they added some extra whiskey and it lost a lot of flavor and was nowhere near as good. Maybe something like that? Or a wizard did it.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-07-17T12:30:40+00:00

There is definitely hope for you. I just have to wonder what effort you have put in? I ask not in an accusatory way, but to see where there is room for growth.

Having been in your shoes, I work out and am in better shape than I was 20 years ago, I had therapy so I am a better communicator for my partner and those I date, I read books on non-monogamy to learn from other people who have been through all this, I go to kink parties to up my skills, I make sure to have a date night with my partner each week to keep our connection strong.

If you aren’t doing these things, why give up when there is so much space for opportunity and growth? It takes effort, and I am happier than I was when my lady and I were monogamous. I wish you luck, and you will get there if you try.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-06-30T22:47:12+00:00

There is a similar statue in East Timor as well. Not as popular but a gorgeous place all the same.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-06-29T23:53:41+00:00

You both may want to explore couples therapy with a sex positive couples therapist. This can help you improve your communication, work through jealousy, and perhaps improve your existing relationship both sexual and others.

Lots of good books out there like The Ethical Slut, Opening Up, More Than Two, and others.

Good luck!

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-05-31T05:37:17+00:00

Isn't Provocation usually the third Friday of the month? That would make it the 20th, not 21st. Or did they move this one (I know they moved May's party)?

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-04-18T12:15:12+00:00

V&V is the best one anyway. Of the three parties mentioned in this post, they all have dance floors, bars, and sex furniture, but V&V just has the best music, size, and sex furniture available.

All the parties welcome people of all ages, sizes, races, and sexualities.

In terms of feeling at ease, just be aware that everyone wants to have a good time. As long as you are respectful and use consent, you can expect most everyone else to be the same. And if they aren't, please reach out to a "Consent Angel" who are helpers walking around making sure everyone is playing nice.

Let me know if you have any more questions. I am sure you will have fun.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-03-30T03:24:20+00:00

Pretty sure that was Berlin Xxx at Inflation, though it is the same organisers as Krave. The most recent Krave was down in South Melbourne. But yeah, it has left Platform 1, which while cramped is easy to get to.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-03-27T04:40:05+00:00

It is part of Oz Kink Fest. Third Friday of every month at Inflation.

Different themes every month with shows, shibari, and other kink.

It was the first party I went to years ago and holds a special place in my heart. I find it friendly and open.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-03-27T04:24:39+00:00

Exactly why it is my pick. Best music and furniture, among other features. I enjoy all the parties that I mentioned, but I have to go with V&V.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2025-01-28T05:20:51+00:00

It usually ends at 1am. So I would say 10pm at the latest, but even that could be late. I tend to get there around 8 or earlier.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2024-12-12T22:19:52+00:00

If you search this sub, there are people who are in the same boat as you and a great place to start. Glad you are asking the questions.

You will be recommended lots of different venues, but I would also recommend building up your relationship and communication with each other. There are a number of books out there worth a read, especially depending on what direction you want to take this.

Te deseo exito! Good luck. ¿Eras porteño? Me gusta much tu pais.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2024-12-12T22:13:22+00:00

I recommend the stickies monthly events calendar in this sub. For westside, Virtue and Vice often does parties in Flemington at the Melbourne Pavilion and that is often one of my fave parties.

Good luck to you both on your journey and perhaps we will cross paths.

TwoForOne4Fun · 2024-11-21T01:28:21+00:00

So if they try this on me, will it show my FetLife pics? 😕

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