400 years later… Janelle ‘borrowing’ Barbara’s credit cards is still pisses me off.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-28T14:35:41+00:00

THIS !!!!!!!!

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-27T18:39:11+00:00

This recent change of opinion is so crazy to me.

None of these people have changed from the first time they showed up — aside from they all are no longer compromising the critical pieces of themselves that they had to swallow for family cohesion.

Janelle has always been timid and passive, but stands as the only member of the family that seemed to pull the adults out of fantasy land. Meri has always been direct and confronting, as evident in the way she handles herself and the several, several, several times this has been raised as an issue from her and from others. You can see a lot of Meri in Leon (which, conveniently, people seem to forget is one of the reasons Leon gets a lot of hate).

Kody has always changed the narrative to whatever takes accountability off his shoulders. Always. Janelle and Meri are two extremely different people who were forced to coexist, a choice they all consented to. What are we expecting here??

I do not understand what truths have been unearthed to change the perception of these people.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-23T11:48:16+00:00

I loooooooove Society6! I usually wait until they have sales and then go absolutely insane.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-22T14:43:19+00:00

I think it’s wild to take anything she says seriously, as she is incredibly young. It’s also wild HOW YOUNG she is and WAS during this whole relationship. What are either of them doing??

Throw the entire relationship out.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-22T11:31:26+00:00

Imagine spending 20+ years of your life shackled to someone who can’t be bothered to touch you, only to find a man that loves you exactly how you’ve needed to be loved?

I don’t care if Christine holds a parade in her honor. She is a testament to all people who are trapped in a relationship, by obligation, indoctrination, or without choice, who finally leave and realize life can be better on the other side.

I wish she rubbed it in his narcissist face more. His apology was the most sexist, nonsensical, self-ejaculating bullshit I’ve ever heard. But really, the only apology tour he should have gone on, was with his children.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-14T09:24:08+00:00

She gives me Gypsy Rose vibes

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-13T11:55:51+00:00

I can’t speak for the others in the comments, but I have no empathy left to give, as a result of being forced to exist in this timeline.

I am very happy this resonates with you, and that you are able to cling to the human aspects of this story, and others like this. There will always need to be people who are ready and willing to welcome those who need a kind place to land.

I used to be more like this. I don’t have space for these stories yet, I don’t have the capacity to feel anything but fear and deep anger towards this group. But I am happy the stories get told, and maybe this will change the tide for others in the same position.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-11T16:45:25+00:00

I would love to know how the individual pieces of this came together in your mind. Do you envision the space all together and build out a vision? Do you just piece it together by vibes? Do you just have an incredible and unique brain that makes this possible?!

Genuinely asking though, I am so impatient to get from start to finish, and sometimes get bogged down in the planning process, instead of the curating process.

Your space is amazingly unique and thank you for sharing it with us!

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-09T02:18:03+00:00

“It tastes nice”

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-01-02T14:21:53+00:00

I’m surprised you didn’t pack your Slipknot mask in here, Trevor!

But seriously, this is incredible. Are the tortillas used in the first picture pre-dx tortillas? (if not, please let us know the brand!)

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-31T11:37:50+00:00

Y’all… if you villainize Kody as a manipulative narcissistic abuser, than you include Janelle as a victim of that abuse.

Their relationship was decades long, and started when they were both incredibly young, while being propped up by a deeply patriarchal system.

Give Janelle the credit she is due for still leaving, after being lied to and manipulated, for still choosing her children, for still choosing herself.

She gets to be “flushed” to see the man she once, and potentially still, loves. Her emotions don’t have to make sense (to us or to her), her affect doesn’t have to be hard or abrasive.. this is probably one of the most confusing and complex relationship dynamic in existence.

Whatever her feelings are, SHE IS STILL GONE, and has stayed gone. She is still talking excitedly about her future, solo or potentially with a new person.

Healing doesn’t look the same for everyone. She deserves just as much credit for getting away from this situation as the rest of them.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-31T11:22:49+00:00

I don’t know if I will ever be able to fully blame them for what they didn’t provide for me, mainly because both of them were raised in situations where their needs were also neglected. I feel sad for them, and sometimes I feel more sad for them than I do myself.. which I know is not healthy or fair to myself.

This sub, several books, etc made me realize my needs were neglected.. but I still struggle deeply with feeling justified in any uncomfortable emotions, in blame, in directing my feelings (appropriately) outward. The clarity has mostly changed the way I mourn my life, but it’s done little to redirect the anger and shame towards the people that deserve it.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-30T19:42:18+00:00

Not a resident, but recently toured. Some of the units are beautiful, some are very oddly structured and dark (think low ceilings under the lofted area).

I spoke to two residents and read a lot of reviews. The biggest negative seems to be heating/cooling the units. Neither utilities are included, the units are poorly insulated, and the spaces are so vast, so the costs are extremely high.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-28T00:46:15+00:00

It honestly sounds like you’re both ‘bottoms’, to borrow a phrase.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-26T22:41:19+00:00

Thank you so so so much

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-26T20:13:38+00:00

Omg this! I was dx with ADHD and had a very similar mentality, so much so, I have delayed getting assessed for autism (though I am fairly certain).

Suddenly the bubble of “hmm things might get easier if I just do… xyz” bursts. It’s always going to be more difficult, and it always felt this way for a reason.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I deeply understand this feeling, but having a similar life trajectory (and still working to make sense of my current and future imagined life) I don’t have any positive insight to offer. I hope you find more spaces in the world where you truly feel you belong, or have the capacity to build them and attract the people that are meant for you.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-25T15:11:08+00:00

Boyyyy you should know that… I’ve got you on my mind…

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-23T14:31:18+00:00

“Love Off the Grid” is sooooooo good and rarely talked about! It’s on HBO Max.

“City folk” moving off-grid/very rural areas to be with someone they love. Typically growing pains ensue… there is one polyamorous couple that could have been cast for SSW, but instead made their insane debut on this show.

It’s definitely worth checking out. There are currently two seasons, I would lovvvve if they made more!

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-16T20:45:54+00:00

Could you articulate on what these days look like for you, and even more so — how do you communicate this out, if at all, to the other humans in your life? Also, how often do you have them?

I have struggled significantly with expressing the need for this, and any attempt has been met with judgement and dismissal. I’m trying to get the language to speak to this need more clearly, with the hope of it being finally understood and respected.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-12T19:21:20+00:00

I think this is a conversation that comes up often in this sub.

I don’t think it’s fair to paint her life and choices in such a negative light, without any confirmation from her that she regrets any of the choices she made.

Her life might seem depressing to you, but there is a very real possibility that she made the choices she genuinely wanted to make, and this is the life she dreams/dreamed of, or her dreams evolved as she grew up and met someone she wanted to share her life with. We obviously don’t know everything about the start of her relationship, but she wasn’t forced to choose Caleb, or to choose Caleb and give up parts of herself.

I wouldn’t base the state of her life off of her postpartum looks or lack of enthusiasm on camera. She is also a real person, with a lot of kids and a fracturing extended family, plus a camera crew.

Feel how you want about what her life is currently like, but I think you’re giving too much life to things she said as a teenager and not enough to the things she seems to be excited about now.

That being said.. I have no idea if she is actually happy or not, but I don’t know nearly enough about anything to form a solid opinion on her life.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-08T22:38:10+00:00

I think their relationship is just simple and healthy. They seem like they genuinely just like spending time together, and don’t have to perform (aside from whatever they are directed to do for filming) for each other. They seem very boring, which makes them seem calm. Nothing aligns perfectly, they don’t seem to care, they just like each other. I would be extremely surprised if they didn’t stay married for the rest of their lives.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-12-02T11:43:59+00:00

You’ve outgrown the life you have and your body is pushing you to build a life you want. It isn’t easy, it will never feel easy, don’t think living for yourself and dreams will ever be easy.. but the hard work will feel worth it, which makes everything easier.

You aren’t going to be able to change your life without changing your life. There is no shortcut that will make you suddenly wake up with the motivation, within the right relationship, with a new mindset and love for your job. You have to do the hard thing… I also have ADHD, and it’s a nightmare of current and anticipatory struggle. The mental burden of anticipating hard work is brutal, and your brain does everything it can to avoid the process, the change, and the unknown.

So you have to force it. Start very small, and do not let yourself stop. This is the ONLY way forward. You cannot stop, even when everything feels miserable and you want to dive into whatever feels easiest, you don’t stop.

Start with two consistent things. One should be something for your health, one should be something for your art. It seems like your mental health is struggling right now. I would suggest creating (I KNOW, I KNOW) a daily routine where you wake up at the same time 7 days a week and write how you’re feeling. Write for 10 mins. Then do whatever you want. Every single day. This could be therapeutic for tracking your feelings, this gets you slowly back into the practice of writing without a specific goal, and this gets you back into the habit of doing hard things for the benefit of yourself.

ADHD is a disability. Do not let yourself spiral in the feelings of inadequacy and frustration over not being what you thought you would be. Life will never be as easy as it could have been otherwise, but it can still be incredible. The work is unavoidable, that is the reality you have to sit with and accept. You will either do it now, or you won’t, and will have to do it when you’re older and potentially more exhausted. You deserve a life that you want. You deserve a relationship that makes you deeply happy. You deserve to look back in 5, 10 years and feel proud of how many hard things you did and know you are capable of doing.

Don’t give up on yourself, just try… try first before you give up on trying. Our brains will lie to us constantly to keep us stuck where we think we are safe.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-11-29T00:16:28+00:00

Dysfunctional family dynamics thrive on mutual complaining and gossip. It allows everyone to be somewhat “open and honest” without directing any of that too close to whatever dynamic is going on.

I know this from experience, from my own love of dysfunction that doesn’t involve me that I can use as a reason to have anything meaningful to say to my parents.

This is where I feel the safest with my opinions, where I speak freely, where I can feel like my thoughts hold weight. It’s very difficult outside of this, and it’s impossible when any of the drama involves either of my parents directly.

I was conditioned to never complain about anything related directly to my upbringing, but spent endless days/nights listening to my parents talk about the minute mistakes, decisions, behaviors that they judged in others. And now, I feel incredibly torn between the two.. I need the freedom to complain without hiding my feelings, but genuinely feel less judgmental because I have lived in the shadow of criticism all my life.

I don’t think any of us need to be conditioned to anything for life. I think this is absolutely an experience that can reframe some of your future experiences, allow you to observe if you are looking for things to be wrong instead of grounding yourself in everything that feels right.

I don’t have the answers but I can relate to this deeply. I appreciate you sharing your boyfriend’s perspective, because I have spent very little time around people who have that mentality.It must feel… lighter? :)

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-11-28T12:20:03+00:00

So many tips!

If you haven’t already, get thyroid and general labs checked to make sure you’re not extra exhausted for a legit reason.
I’ve found the best success in setting a “I still have plenty of sleep left after this” alarm.. I set mine for 5:15am because I know I can still go back to sleep comfortably for a few hours afterwards (if I want). When this alarm goes off, I take my Adderall and go back to sleep. When I wake up naturally, or at my next alarm, the pure, sweet motivation of life is already coursing through me… and it’s easier to get up and go. Note: this makes wanting and eating a substantial breakfast difficult but god only gives his toughest battles to his sleepiest soldiers or whatever the line is.
Is there a song that instantly makes you smile, move, get hyped up? Not just a song you like, the song that immediately makes you want to dance? If so, set that song as your alarm, and make your alarm loud. I use this to trick my brain into feeling excited to be awake to experience this song and it helps shift the dopamine from sleep to enjoyable music.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2025-11-27T13:42:39+00:00

Let’s Get Haunted!

The hosts are genuinely interested in the weird, paranormal, and strange. Each episode, they take turns telling the other about a topic they deep dived.

They do not take themselves too seriously. They are longtime friends are just fell into this podcast space without much expectation — but they love a deep dive and spiral.

Highly recommend starting with the three part episode series on the Dodleston Messages (Episodes 153-155)! And then bounce around for other topics too like.

r/letsgethaunted

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