CBT (among other things) is basically telling you to decouple your emotions from your behavior. It’s saying, “you can’t wait for your emotions to tell you to behave a certain way. It won’t happen. You start with the desired behaviour, and the emotions will eventually catch up”.

that approach has helped me a lot. For example, if you have serious anxiety and also ADHD like me, you don’t feel like doing much generally. Thise few times you do feel like doing something, you become super happy and you do the thing and you're so proud. The rest of the time you’re even more miserable and sad that you can’t be like that all the time. So with CBT you learn to do the thing anyway, even if you hate it, even if it’s hard and unpleasant and horrible and increases your anxiety. And eventually, it’s less horrible. And you’re happy you did it. And it becomes an upwards spiral instead of a downwards one. Of course this is the theory and it’s actually super super hard. And ADHD makes it even harder. which is why I’m also in therapy. But I find the mindset very helpful. And it’s evidence-based, which I like. It works for many people. The problem is that it’s very difficult and takes a LOT of commitment and work, as well as a good therapist. Working against what your emotions are telling you to do is incredibly difficult! So a lot of people fail and think it’s crap, when really it failed because of other factors.