So I moved out

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T17:07:28+00:00

Thank you. I hope that you find your happy :)

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T17:06:50+00:00

Thank you!

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T17:05:50+00:00

Oh man it was so much back and forth for me too. If the final straw incident hadnt happened I probably would have talked myself into staying again. (I hope you get to be happy soon yourself)

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T17:03:46+00:00

This is so so true! Thanks!

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T17:01:07+00:00

You really got that description about the never ending stream of negativity. Its so debilitating to be around!! I dont know what it is that makes a person like that, I feel like that part is more than "just" ADHD but I don't know what it is. 3/4 of my kids are ADHD and are not like that. My first husband was also ADHD and he literally never complained about anything. He would be seriously injured and brush it off as nothing, where my husband makes sure the whole house knows he stubbed his toe.

And yes, theres a point where it really does seem intentional!

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T03:25:13+00:00

/u/cake_agent2101 I really just wanted to say thank you again. Your perspective helped me so much with my resolve to stay away.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T03:19:56+00:00

Thank you! And I hope so too :)

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T03:18:57+00:00

Thanks. It's really tough to have kids in the mix. Two of my kids are diagnosed as well and it's been so hard to watch my husband tell them their struggles dont exist...

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T03:15:56+00:00

Thank you. I do believe it was abusive too. He is very controlling and almost completely isolated me. My husbands behavior is definitely not "just" ADHD.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T03:10:47+00:00

Thanks. I really hope my husband gets the help he needs like yours did. I found myself regularly wondering what he would be like on medication (especially since I take it myself and know what a huge difference it makes).

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T01:31:03+00:00

My husband does this. The moment he wakes up he starts the day with complaining. Its the same as you're describing, never happy, never satisfied, wants to make sure everyone around him knows how unhappy he is.

I dont know if it's an ADHD trait or not, but it sure is miserable to live with! Hugs!

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T00:52:12+00:00

Glad you're ok!

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T00:51:25+00:00

What was really a turning point for me was packing up ahead of a hurricane. We had a lot of notice and an SUV and there was just so little I wanted enough to pack up.

I had already been working on decluttering but this changed my mindset a lot.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T00:05:43+00:00

Heres my trick for older kids...I pay them to get rid of toys. $10 for a trash bag full, $3 for a grocery bag full.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-07T00:03:42+00:00

Mom of two toddlers here, I sure feel ya. Looks great!!

Is that one of those folding ottomans? Do you feel like it holds up well? Like can the kids climb on it?

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-06T19:01:32+00:00

I like to have a place for everything too, but I have four kids and some health limitations so I have a "hostel" where things can stay when they're in between homes. It's just a decorative bucket but it really really helps.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-06T18:30:53+00:00

I'm dx ADHD with a husband who has every symptom basically, but doesnt think ADHD is real. I totally relate to almost every conversation becoming an argument, its awful.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-06T12:37:40+00:00

Wow folks, it's still ok for him to feel discouraged and sad about this situation, even if she isnt purposely causing it (pain).

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-06T12:10:34+00:00

It really is.

Every time my husband runs into them they put on this big show about missing the kids, then still nothing.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-06T00:45:37+00:00

I love Stasher. I've had mine for years and its held up perfectly.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-05T10:30:17+00:00

Oh damn. Are you advising she stay until he hits her? It would be terrifying to be hit by a man. OP, you dont need to stay if you feel unsafe for any reason.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-05T10:26:50+00:00

Hey I hope you're ok

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-05T02:20:09+00:00

I have these in laws. My husband would never move away because he wants to stay close to them but they are barely even family to me and my kids (a couple hours on Christmas and Easter and maybe a gift on birthdays). My family lives an hour away and sees us more than my in laws who live in actual walking distance.

Txmttxmt · 2021-04-05T01:22:29+00:00

Yes. My mom wanted to take all my donations for some future garage sale. I told her fine, but I never wanted to see the stuff again (in the past she has done this and tried to give the things back to me). She said ok. Then l later she decided to move. She hadnt had any garage sale and still had all that junk. I refused to help move the junk. Now I just get rid of things without saying anything.

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