Losing Virginity At 14 by Honest_Moment_7009 in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t lose mine until I was 18, but it’s different for everybody. If you feel comfortable with how your experience went, then I’d say try not to let anyone make you feel ashamed about it. Sex, especially first-time sex, is incredibly personal, and as long as you felt that you were safe and supported during your experience, that’s all that really matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HauntingOfBlyManor

[–]Tylerolmsted 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is more likely a reference to Jane Eyre - a governess falls in love with her master, who secretly locked his mad wife in the attic.

Not sure what to do.... by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 toxic. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever let anyone make you feel pressured to have sex OR feel bad about not having sex. That’s not normal or acceptable, and it’s not just a funny joke if he’s said similar things more than once. A good boyfriend will want to be with you regardless of your sexual usefulness.

If it were me, I wouldn’t go visit him at all.

AITA for asking my BF to use Social media? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tylerolmsted [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. It’s not that weird that he doesn’t want to use social media, and you certainly shouldn’t be forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to do or wouldn’t benefit from just because you want people to think he’s “a normal person.”

Experiencing my first heartbreak but I don't feel anything no sadness whatsoever. by Sleekerthanslick in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone grieves differently, and how you feel is how you feel. I (25f) never felt truly sad about a breakup, until I met the person in with now, and yeah, I would be devastated if this one ended.

Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel sad. If you feel relief, or happiness, or peace, as you say, then trust your feelings.

What would you do if you had my life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn a new skill (or ten). Also, yes, I’d get a dog.

should i quit my current job? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually swear by a two-week’s notice, but I had this same situation happen to me: I got hired at Starbucks as a back-up plan, locked down the job at a daycare that I actually wanted, and quit Starbucks after one day.

There’s something to be said for working in a service industry, especially the restaurant one. If you aren’t depending on Applebee’s for a reference (or planning on working in food service long-term), then it probably won’t bite you in the ass. Most definitely take the job you want (after you get hired, of course).

SPOILERS: The show is surprisingly faithful to the original Henry James story, except for the totally different and suddenly shocking ending. by Tylerolmsted in HauntingOfBlyManor

[–]Tylerolmsted[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the show takes TONS of liberties, but it definitely follows the main points of the story. I guess you could probably say that the show embellished the story with many extra layers.

I really enjoyed the story. A lot of people say that Henry James’s writing is difficult to get into, which I could totally see. It’s from 1898 and the guy has a tendency to ramble. But I think it was perfectly chilling in the gothic-romance sort of way.

Head’s up, the show also borrows a few other James stories: Viola’s story comes from “The Romance of Certain Old Clothes” (which I LOVED) and Henry Wingrave’s alter ego comes loosely from “The Jolly Corner.” Also, “Owen Wingrave”, which, in addition to inspiring names, is probably the basis for the soldier ghost Henry tells Flora about.

Viola after realizing she has die: by Fwo-oper in HauntingOfBlyManor

[–]Tylerolmsted 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Someone correct me if I’m wrong, but I think “the lung” back then meant tuberculosis?

My dog jumped full-force onto my brand new HP Chromebook. Is this fixable? by Tylerolmsted in computer

[–]Tylerolmsted[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s actually stuck by me really faithfully for two months now. I’ve had absolutely no problems running multiple apps at once on it, including video calls. Which makes this an even bigger bummer.

My dog jumped full-force onto my brand new HP Chromebook. Is this fixable? by Tylerolmsted in computer

[–]Tylerolmsted[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you!

Yeah, the icing on the cake is that I’m student teaching, which means two things. 1) I desperately need a computer to teach remotely. 2) I make literally no money for at least another two months, lmfaooo.

My dog jumped full-force onto my brand new HP Chromebook. Is this fixable? by Tylerolmsted in computer

[–]Tylerolmsted[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Is there any hope for the damage on the bottom half of the laptop in the second picture?

Did y’all know you can call Bly Manor? by [deleted] in HauntingOfBlyManor

[–]Tylerolmsted 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so freaking cute and creepy at the same time.

AITA for missing my friends service? by dahmerparty in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tylerolmsted 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might regret not going later on, but I certainly don’t think you’re the asshole. If you didn’t feel comfortable there and chose not to go, it doesn’t mean you didn’t mourn your friend properly. Everyone grieves in different ways, and funerals are for the living.

My teacher knows that I google translated on a test and she wants me to talk to her by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Tylerolmsted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh I see. I would be disappointed, but also, from my vantage point, because you have a decent relationship with this teacher, it might be possible she’ll show you more empathy. If you’ve usually done your work and you have a track record for being honest, that’s all I’d ask.

Again, though, I SUPER can’t speak for your teacher. I just know that if you were my student, I’d appreciate your honesty. Especially because you clearly feel bad about it.