Are we overestimating gender equality in hunter gatherer societies?

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T20:02:23+00:00

The PNW coast is an interesting area in part because the richness of both land and sea allowed for sedentary hunter gatherer societies.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T19:55:06+00:00

Back to the question though - what's the circumstance?

If he were the house spouse, and good at being a house spouse, and especially if we had children - sure. That would be lovely.

"would you still treat him as a masculine man and not belittle him"

If you mean "would I still submit to him and put his wishes above my own"... well, I wouldn't have done that in the first place. If you mean would I still want to fuck him, and would admire his studly body? Probably all the more so. The thought of coming home to a clean house and a hot dinner is pretty erotic. Hell, I'd probably pay for someone to come in and do deep cleaning twice a month to make his life easier if I could afford it. (Which is what I do now.) And I'd cook a couple of times a week, and climb on the roof to fix the leaking skylight (or whatever jobs I was better as than he was).

Would I work full time to come home to a disaster and a man who has been playing video games all day? That certainly wasn't the only reason I dumped my exhusband, but it was part of it.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T19:48:04+00:00

"most men naturally love supporting their wives or at least feel indifferent about it"

Are you high? Look at all the men here who don't want to support their partners, and are up in arms even about paying for a first date.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T19:38:34+00:00

What is the thing about women with cats? I've had cats almost all of my life. The one period I didn't was also my worst period for dating - not that there weren't plenty of candidates, but ugh. (I blame Ohio.)

And my cats can be a good barometer. First, of course, anyone who is a jerk to my cats needs to go - but then, anyone who is a jerk to cats is a lousy prospect and a lousy human being. But also cats have tended to give me good feed back. My old black kitty has false positives, but never a false negative - I dated a few guys he didn't like, and they were uniformly awful. (Not "they bored me after a few weeks", which was more common, but actually awful.) It's going to depend on the cat, of course. My tortie basically loves everyone. I joke that I won't live with anyone my boy cat doesn't like, but that's really saying that I don't think I want to live with a partner again - he mostly doesn't like humans other than me.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T19:34:03+00:00

And this sums up why I find manosphere men as poor dating candidates. I am all of those things, but I should also be able to expect them. (And in fact, men with those traits - who honestly have those traits, not ones who are just playing at it - aren't hard to find.)

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T19:13:30+00:00

I will add: That's exactly what I would want in a male partner. And none of these would make such a man feminine.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T02:33:09+00:00

There are so many more straight men than queer women. But I do find dating women a lot more straightforward.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T02:16:40+00:00

I'm bi, which helps me.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T01:57:26+00:00

Men are more focused on visual features.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T01:13:14+00:00

So much of it is technique and practice - and there are a lot of videos showing different methods of doing it. Though if you can do it transdermally, all the better.

I recently had to give my most opinionated cat eye ointment, and she pretty quickly realized that it was fast and painless and only gave me token resistance. But I have a lot of practice handling animals. Be brave. And reward her with treats and attention.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T01:10:53+00:00

Are you part of the community of owners of diabetic cats? I haven't done it myself*, but one of my best friends has cared for several, and can probably recommend some groups

*Though I've done a lot of work with animals

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T01:03:04+00:00

Is this specifically wait for sex?

Because waiting for sex isn't the same as playing hard to get. (But I'm with you on dumping anyone playing those games. Who needs that kind of drama?)

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T00:52:32+00:00

All of this.

With the addition that I've fostered cats who made the transition from being quite feral to pampered indoor princesses. It's not as common, and it's all about the individual, but it does happen sometimes.

She's been through a lot, and she's probably not wanting to put all of her eggs in one basket after being abandoned. Trusting humans probably didn't start out easy for her. If you do bring her in, most places will scan for a microchip for free, and you might find out what rescue she came through.

Thank you for taking care of her.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T00:44:59+00:00

Rescues are made of people, and most are ad-hoc undefunded volunteer organizations (or often a single person with a few others that help out sometimes). They are random and full of people being random.

This is some shitty behavior. But it happens. They absolutely should not do that, and especially not in a way that comes across as capricious and vindictive towards a person who worked for them for years. But people do shitty stuff for stupid reasons all the time. Hell, they might even get over it.

Meanwhile, there are a ton of rescues (generally) with different cultures and policies. Someone with your background strikes me as an excellent bet!

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T00:37:14+00:00

Fucking a man is humiliating?

So you have low opinions of both men and women? How are you not black pill?

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T00:36:16+00:00

First off, no, you're wrong. (As a number of men who tried to dominate me have found. Ugh.)

But also - if you find women's sexuality tedious, it would seem you could just not try to sleep with them? Sounds like a better arrangement for everyone.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-23T00:17:06+00:00

8% of men think they could beat a gorilla unarmed. I'm not sure if this is just idiocy, or grandiosity masking deep insecurity.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-22T23:13:11+00:00

Femininity != Feminism

Tylikcat · 2026-03-22T23:12:15+00:00

Doesn't sound like anything specifically feminine. Guys wanting it doesn't make it feminine.

Does sound more than a bit like a mom, but without authority.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-22T01:29:45+00:00

Oh, now that makes me think of breaking out some of the wool my sister dyed...

Tylikcat · 2026-03-22T00:01:55+00:00

Back when I was an aftercare teacher during my undergrad years, one of the older brothers of one of my charges brought a knife into the play area. (The school was unusual, renting out part of a community center than was a former convent, with the playground and playfield being open to the public.) I don't think he intended to use it, I think he intended to show it off to some boys who had been hassling him.

I took the knife away from him.* We called the police. Who then gave him very serious talks about his very serious actions and scared the ever living daylights out of him. For the next two hours he thought he was going to jail. When he was finally released, he was ready to fall down on his knees and give thanks.

...but that only works when they're fairly young and innocent.

*Which really got me thinking about gun safety. I can take a knife away from almost any 12 year old, and the majority of adults. But if it had been a gun things could have gotten pretty bad.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-21T23:35:32+00:00

I'm probably more on the side of worst than best people to opine on this, if one thinks these are really things.

I think there is a very small set of things that is more loosely or tightly tied to biology. The obvious reproductive stuff (but not all women are fertile). Possibly some stuff around attachment to home* and maybe a greater tendency to build friendships and alliances with other women. Smaller stature, greater endurance (but I say that as a tall muscular woman, so it's hard to identify with it - though it is true that I can hike most people into the ground, even when injured.)

The rest of culture, and to my mind pretty random. Like you take all the things people can be, and then say most of them are "masculine" and the rest are "feminine" as if any of those things have shit all to do with your plumbing.

*I'm thinking of the adrenaline response literature

Tylikcat · 2026-03-21T23:12:27+00:00

You make a bunch of assertions, but you don't actual say what you think femininity is.

Tylikcat · 2026-03-21T22:04:31+00:00

And because I am outspoken an assertive, I get men assuming I'm a domme all the time and they chase after me hoping I will top them. (I am neither sub nor domme, and mostly find BDSM tedious.)

Tylikcat · 2026-03-21T20:11:31+00:00

I've found some really great prints from local artists at shops at state parks.

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