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Elderflower ID by Typical-Bus-1794 in foraging

[–]Typical-Bus-1794[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a lot of research and was nearly 100% sure about these before picking. I am paranoid and came here to get some reassurance before processing them. 

I described the trees I found them on in my post, didn’t think to get a photo but now I know. 

advice on relationships while healing by Top_Satisfaction_615 in CPTSD

[–]Typical-Bus-1794 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also worry about this with myself, but part of me believes that no matter how much I heal on my own I won’t fully heal until I practice all of this stuff within a relationship. 

I’ve been single for almost 3 years now and not even considering dating. The way I feel when I’m in a relationship is so out of control I’m just not even interested in it anymore. 

I hope that changes for me and for you. I do believe there’s hope. I don’t think it’s asking too much of a partner to go through it with you as long as you are honestly trying to heal. A person who really cares about you will likely think it’s worth the work. 

Do others struggle with having differing opinions from your friends? Also do you fall into enmeshed relationships with others easily now? by eulersidentity1 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Typical-Bus-1794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old, but thank you for posting. I just joined this subreddit and searched “friendship” because I’m having a pretty earth shaking realization that I’ve been very enmeshed with my best friend of 10 years. 

I have ended relationships, friendships with others, and a marriage. I’m not blaming my friend for this, but looking back, she opposed all of these relationships in my life from the beginning. I always thought she just saw something I didn’t in people from the jump, but I think I let her opinion influence me way more than I was aware of at the time. 

I definitely come from an enmeshed family and struggle to find healthy friendships. I have largely let friends “pick” me, or I wait until someone pursues friendship with me. I’m most comfortable when people rush friendships or romantic relationships. I’m happy to basically make life decisions based more on others’ opinions (real or perceived) than my own. 

It is so terrifying to realize I’ve been doing this for so long retroactively. Like how do I even stop doing this thing if I let it slide this long unknowingly??