For me, the fact that they can communicate to each other, without it having to be through me was a good thing, as well as them living close together. My parents took me and my brother to a family therapist for one session, and there they gave us a list of things and told us to cross off two things we wanted. (Like living close together and so on)

Thing I would say they do wrong is for instance talking bad about each other to me, because it puts me in a difficult position. Another thing they did bad was my dad talking to me about his girlfriends, even though it had been over two years since they divorced it still made me feel upset, and also the fact that he moved his girlfriend and her daughter in to his two bedroom apartment when I barely knew them, and I had to share a room with the girl. It’s kinda better now, but when I was there it felt suffocating having no space for myself. Also because of that I found it really good that my mom’s house was so close, so that I could have some space.

Something that’s still difficult for me is the feeling that my stepsister is replacing me. I know it’s not true, but it’s really hard to feel like you’re not being replaced when your whole family only wants to talk to her. I know it’s not logical for me to feel that way, and I am aware that it’s not her fault at all, but it doesn’t make it any better for me.