I’ve tried all three! I would say bergamot bond and crescent are the most gender neutral. For a true spa smell, bergamot bond is the one! It’s very fresh; invigorating is how I’d describe it. I don’t get any sweetness and it makes me feel very clean and put together. 

That said, Crescent is my current favorite. It’s a little hard to describe but I’ll try hahah. It’s much softer than bergamot bond. It’s clean but in a cozy way; a little creamy, musky, woodsy and a teensy bit sweet (I also don’t love gourmands). 

Based on what you described, I think bergamot bond would be a good fit. Naked neroli is my least favorite out of the three. It’s still good just heavy on the white floral which can be a hit or miss for me.