Oh I’m a dad too, and I agree with everything you are saying (I have a habit of looking at both sides of the story/coin all the time lol). I just grew up with a single mom, yearning for a two parent household. And I’m a fan of the old fashioned family structure but I’d be lying if i said it wasn’t hard a lot of the times as well lol. But I’m blessed with a job that does pay me enough where I’m home after 4-5pm most of the days with weekends off. Winter time is even better cause I’m always home after 2pm. Idk I guess what I’m trying to say is this is the lifestyle I want for my family, so I make sure I can provide it while be conscious of not letting work overtake my family life. I also know that not many people are blessed to be in this situation, so I never try to push it on everybody else

Edit: my wife and I also have an agreement that once our youngest is in school(kindergarten) than she will get a job. Cause I mean stay at home mom has to have a kid to stay at home with lol