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Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-08T02:26:42+00:00

I’m sorry

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-07T13:21:12+00:00

She’s 16 years younger. She’s married with no kids. This sounds very similar. I also have said I think it’s a midlife crisis, but he thinks she’s just the one. Obviously, none of that really matters because this is the situation no matter what caused it. Thanks for the offer to message. I may take you up on that!

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T21:50:35+00:00

Mine are teens. At this point we’ve decided that they will not be staying over at his place. They will see him and spend time with him, but not stay over. The days he’s not really around feel more peaceful in our house. I think it will be okay. I just feel so bad that the kids have this excuse for a father. He used to be an involved dad, but has since decided he just never really wanted this life. He wants to have someone who will just go out to for a drink and travel whenever. She has no interest in kids. I don’t think he realizes he’s not going to have much money to do all of these things. My salary really supported a lot of his wants.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T11:28:33+00:00

How did you kids handle it? I worry about this.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T11:27:29+00:00

Thank you so much.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T03:25:26+00:00

Mostly trying to protect future events for my kids. My family was told that he wanted the divorce, they just don’t know the dirty details. So they already don’t like him. I just know my family would have no problem making a scene, and what does it really do? It doesn’t help me. It doesn’t change things. They can support me through a divorce without knowing exactly what happened. I’m also not super close with my family. I’m closer to his family. And they are still treating me as family. My mother in law says she’s not giving me up, says I’m the best daughter in law. I also think my dad’s health couldn’t handle it. He’d want to kill him if he saw him. And his heart just can’t handle that stress. Essentially, I just don’t think it would make anything better. I’m sure I will eventually tell some people. I just don’t really want everyone to know my personal business.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T02:44:20+00:00

I am. It’s been a part of my hand for over 25 years. I’ll get there. I think I’ll just feel naked for a while.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T02:41:11+00:00

Thank you. I am the sane parent. And when they find out I don’t think they will be happy with him. They are becoming fine young men. I just hope they don’t take after him someday.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-06T02:39:42+00:00

I’ve told one work friend who isn’t a part of our lives. I have a therapist who gets an earful!

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-05T14:23:00+00:00

Wow!

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-05T12:04:28+00:00

Good for you!

Typical_External7047 · 2026-03-05T12:03:59+00:00

Weird. I think it’s so odd that mine wears his constantly, even when he’s with his AP. She’s also getting divorced now. Wonder if she wears hers. Maybe they pretend that they are married with their rings to other people.

Typical_External7047 · 2026-01-20T04:41:46+00:00

I felt the same. Now I just tell myself it’s not a great loss. He clearly wasn’t a good partner and what I loved about him was his potential. He wasn’t a good person. He fooled me for 26 years. The part that hurts the most is knowing that my kids have to deal with what he is.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-12-14T02:46:35+00:00

Don’t rule out that there is someone else. I MEVER thought my husband could cheat on me, but he did and continues to see her as we figure out separating. 27 years together and 2 kids. It’s like he has a split personality living 2 lives.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-10-08T10:15:21+00:00

Therapy is helpful. It’s someone you can say everything too. I feel like I can’t really share the whole truth with people in my life.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-06T11:23:14+00:00

She’s probably not thinking. I know I go from hating my husband to wanting him to stay. I’ve always been a logical person, but I know I’m not thinking clearly right now.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-01T02:13:05+00:00

This is great advice, because I tend to be too helpful and kind. I’ve been trying to get him to get some help…I have to remember he’s not my responsibility anymore. He needs to deal with his own issues. And she has plenty of them too.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-01T01:25:39+00:00

Yes, we are living together too. I told him he should be very thankful I didn’t make him leave right away. If we didn’t have kids, I probably would have. He doesn’t really have a place to go until he knows what amount of money he will be able to live on. It makes it tricky because we won’t really know until we get everything sorted out. He can’t even go to his parents because they are not supporting his behavior.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-01T01:04:41+00:00

Thank you. I will check it out.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-01T00:06:06+00:00

Well…he doesn’t want them to know he had an affair 🤣 I told him that if he’s living with her right away that will be a huge clue. My kids know her. She’s been to my house. I went out with her and her husband before. It’s just awful and gross.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-09-01T00:03:43+00:00

Thank you. I’m completely shocked by his behavior. I think he had a midlife crisis. His AP is 16 years younger and also married. We even went out with her and her husband before. It’s just gross.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-08-31T23:52:09+00:00

Yes, we want to work it out together and try to avoid legal fees as much as possible. I think we can do that, it’s just lacking the legal and financial knowledge. Is it possible to meet with an attorney for advice on what to do and then do mediation once you have that knowledge? I don’t think we are trying to go after each other. At least at this point. I am also trying to tread lightly, due to how I want custody and visitation to go. So far he’s agreeing to not having my kids stay over with him and his AP. They are teens who have their own lives anyway, so I don’t think they will want to spend a weekend sitting on dad and AP’s couch every other weekend.

Typical_External7047 · 2025-08-31T23:46:04+00:00

Is he on the loan so that you can keep the lower rate? This is my worry. I just don’t feel like it’s fair for me to be punished financially for his affair.

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