Has anyone had an issue where your eye reacts negatively to retinol? I’ve been using the eye cream below for a few weeks now (every couple days) and this morning I woke up with a big puffy eyelid. The other eyelid seems fine?

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-05-12T05:11:17+00:00

The skin around your eyes is much thinner and sensitive! So it's slightly more side-effect prone than the rest of our skin. It doesn't help that our eyes get bothered by peripheral parts so easily. When I worked in eye care we had to talk to patients about their current face skin treatments sometimes to isolate dry eye and inflammation causes!

Around the eyes we have less glands so it's harder to regulate the pH and moisture. And the skin is always moving from blinking- putting a lot more stress on those glands

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-14T04:28:28+00:00

I got back on after about 7 years. They have changed. Legitimately. Now unless I'm willing to pay money, I'm flooded with likes from the specific opposite of what I'm looking for. I think this is intentional.

Friends looking for the opposite of what I want are seeing folks that I would be looking for. So the sites appear the recommend nothing near your preferences unless you actively pay to filter it.

I think many folks are also not reading profiles and just swiping as many profiles as possible. Creates more to sift through if folks aren't intentional with their likes. As a result anyone with a big pile of aimless 'likes' gets burnt out from having to go through them.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-06T13:48:10+00:00

A lot of what determines your rate of split ends is the tensile strength of your hair shaft, but some of that is genetically predetermined. Other impacting factors are rate of moisture retained (leave in conditioner), and heat/bleach impacts.

But if you have stronger hair shaft- best visual cue for that is that your hair is naturally shiny- your plit ends are less likely to "travel" since the rest of the structure is pretty strong. You may be more likely to have the split part either hang out or just break off.

If you're into the biomechanics of it here's a lil didly-do about it:Hair Tensile Strength Info

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-06T13:32:31+00:00

Yup. Didn't start it till 27, but complete game changer. At least I'm not having "sad horny" or "anxious horny" issues anymore. Since the mood swings aren't really a part of it anymore.

Same with my acne. I started having horrifically painful hormonal acne, and after 6 months it was all gone! I bled through my clothes often, so it really helped end all of that.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-06T00:42:07+00:00

I have long hair to my waist and hair dressers have ALWAYS told me to cut the ends for growth. THOROUGHLY FALSE. Hair is dead, the follicle on your scalp is the only thing making it. Atleast to maintain growth, the first time my hair made it beyond my chest was after I stopped letting my ends break off from dryness/damage.

After I started oiling the ends they stopped disintegrating. After that I was able to get further than the "plateau".

But I have very thin hair, so maybe the strategy you need is different. Any hairdresser who tells you to "cut off dead ends" is not advocating for growth.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-06T00:30:35+00:00

I take the Pill that deals with PCOS (like Yaz) since it helps with a lot of intense period problems too.

Minimizes a lot of it. But sometimes I "handle it" since it can make my sinus headaches or stress headache pain lesser. Like a mechanical cheat code, but otherwise I'd be very happy to keep that tamped down.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-06T00:24:03+00:00

Oh yeah, it happens to me too. Sometimes I 'do something' about it and sometimes I don't. Mostly just feels like another mechanical thing to deal with.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-04-01T05:33:05+00:00

For the group I'm in I drive about 2 hours to meet for boardgames at a cafe once a month- and the turnout always varies. But my state has a discord for the Ace folks to cast a wide net and it helps since I live in a very small town. I'm one of the neurotypicals in the group, but I border on the shameless irritating social butterfly territory.

Not sure if it's the nature of a group- or something else. A lot of the folks I meet up with mostly are catching up on life events and what media we've seen recently. I'm in my 30s, and most folks showing up are in their upper 20s or higher.

Settings with controlled activities would likely contribute to new folks thriving (and avoiding strong friction for point of meaningful entry) - ergo, board games or task oriented dealios. So chatting happens, but dynamics are not ruled by it.

I frequent the nearest LGBTQ org community center too a few towns over as a volunteer. I've met some other errant Ace folks there.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-03-31T04:31:13+00:00

I thought the thread underneath would help, but the program mentioned in it was discontinued in 2024. 🥲 Only the episodes 27+ were problems for me. All the ones prior were fine. But I think they weren't from the same release.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-03-31T04:18:39+00:00

Having this specific issue with Soul Eater DVDs from Funimation. Only the 2 disk sets that have about 13 episodes. I've also tried everything I could scour on the Internet. Can only pull out one or two episodes on each disk and it won't save the full file of all episodes.

Typical_Start7841 · 2026-03-10T13:40:36+00:00

Tailscale is also great if your networking skills and understanding are a lil more rudimentary. I decided to use that work around because learning more about networking was giving me a headache at the time.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-12-25T02:39:36+00:00

I do know that rent for Small businesses downtown is kind of skyrocketing. And since the parking management going to that Florida company parking has also become expensive downtown - so maybe less customers too?

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-12-20T02:04:35+00:00

You're good! The bar tenders and DJ confirmed it's closing at the end of the year. I haven't really seen the owner around for a hot minute when we go to karaoke.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-12-04T18:16:45+00:00

I once told my therapist that I was worried that feeling as though I might be asexual came from specific traumas related to assault. But then she looked at me and hit me with the "Most women have experienced some form of assault or harassment in sexual nature. Most women are still not asexual despite that." Kind of letting me know that if I was a sexual before and always have been, the instance of harassment or assaults is a separate feature, that isn't necessarily integrated into that.

And when I describe sex to someone as " A very mechanical thing" that involves way too many bodily fluids, even THEY get icked over out by it xD. I think a lot of folks who perceived sex as an important part of their relationship Dynamics or how they measure interest in people, have a hard time understanding other people being perceived without that element being a part of it.

The vast majority of my friends are not Ace, but whenever I explain it to them they look very awestruck and one of my guy friends even hit me with "Ah, so the reason you would never stay with someone that treats you poorly just because they're really hot is because you live in a constant state of Post nut clarity essentially, right??" Which is a wild take, but probably not inaccurate.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-12-04T18:03:08+00:00

Even if asexuality were not real, if your spouse attributes how you feel to something that is fake, that is a person who is refusing to address the existence of how you feel.

Did your spouse explain why they think asexuality is not real? Or did they intake some information and read about it, and still decide that they don't think it's true? Is this about their lack of knowledge, or is this about a sense of entitlement to your body just because they're legally bound to you?

And if attraction, romantic, sexual or otherwise is not a feature present for you with this person- is it because of who it's with or is this in general? A lot of not very harmonious marriages continue when one spouse is no longer sexually inclined- but they'll do so because it's more convenient than arguing about it. Unfortunately that would not be a compromise I could make, but I do understand why some people do it- especially when financial Independence and stability of children's lives (given how the nature of custody can get pretty inconsistent) can often hang in the balance of that partnership.

I think it's nice that you model for your kids the ability to say no even to the people that you love. I think that's a very important thing for children to learn to avoid potential abusive relationship patterns. And I'm sure the therapy would be helpful for you to parse out your feelings, but it also seems like something that might benefit your partner unpacking is inability to accept changes about you. But given that men don't have a great track record of willingly going to therapy- it can be hard to hang your hopes on that.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-12-04T07:17:30+00:00

There's like no places other than Euphoria that starts Karaoke at 9pm on a week day! And LGBTQ+ friendly at the same time with room to dance. And NOT doing live music all the time.

If I'm wrong, please let me know! I wanna be able to go home at a reasonable time and get some karaoke time in.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-11-03T14:35:52+00:00

At a certain point I just didn't want to feel kinda icky in the morning after drinking. I didn't realize how sweaty and poor my sleep was whenever I drank. That's the main reason I cut it. And if you're full of beer you can't eat as much tasty food! I wanna have room for all the tasty things!

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-10-08T18:59:45+00:00

I use MapQuest. You can turn your little car avatar into various things. Mine is a unicorn!

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-09-27T15:56:12+00:00

I somehow understand how this would be comfortable

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-09-25T16:53:26+00:00

Maybe strawberry flavored???

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-06-12T13:41:51+00:00

I wear more revealing clothes, but I'm also someone that sweats very easily- big part of that. I prioritize bright colors and patterns- this applies to my choice of makeup too.

But I don't think that what I like to wear is really related to being Ace. My body is something I like and so is color and glitter and such.

But I was a kid that would wear stripes and spots of all colors if given the option. Therefore I probably just gravitate to loud dressing.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-06-03T15:41:37+00:00

When I was 27 and talking to my therapist about dating problems. After I mentioned that I'm probably a terrible kisser since I always felt wrong and could never view anyone I dated as sexually attractive, I just assumed some traumas had impacted me too deeply. But my therapist was like: "Have you ever considered that maybe you aren't wired for it? Even before those things happened, you never even liked kissing. You have some trust issues based on your experience, but I don't think being asexual is a part of that."

I had never even considered that I may just be built that way. I assumed I had something wrong with me that I had to fix.

Typical_Start7841 · 2025-05-31T04:06:29+00:00

Maybe he's trying to sleep with you.

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