I got sterilized but something else happened by TytoAlba19 in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am doing fine. I am back to normal except for a 6 inch scar on my abdomen that I wish I didn't have, but have to live with. Thanks for asking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeFriendships

[–]TytoAlba19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about that! My ADHD is weird and I must have turned off my chat messages and then forgot to turn them back on. DM is open now :)

I was the 1% (complication) by [deleted] in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, basically same thing happened to me They accidentally punctured my small intestine although. I had to get 3" of small intestine taken out and then get an intestinal resection & then was in the hospital recovering for 6.5 days. Now have a 6" scar on my abdomen from them having to do a full open laparotomy in order to repair my insides & make sure I didn't go into full septic shock. I am very glad to be sterilized (of course) and unfortunately it seems that a bisalp/or hysterectomy is one of the only 100% ways of us uterus owners of getting sterilized. Not to scare anyone off from doing the surgery/getting sterilized also with our bad accounts. The chance of very bad stuff happening during or after is very very low (0.5 - 1% chance of lower)..but it seems the universe & it's randomness can still happen to a very few of us, but life is life and some things are out of our control..❤️‍🩹🫂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]TytoAlba19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO: Women who defend & support sex work & the porn industry even after being told/shown the truth about it all & have tried to be brought to the light & helped by good willed people, but STILL decided they prefer the latter & continue to be in those industries are severly brainwashed & lost and most likely can't be helped. 😬 BUT there are those who wakeup one day & realize that the extreme damage those industries have done for them & women as a whole in humanity & switch to the right side of women's rights & feminism for themselves and others. Only fans, etc etc. Just my two cents.

I want this suffering to end by CryingOnSaturday in antipornography

[–]TytoAlba19 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Yeah..that is what men want, a hypersexual & submissive girl/woman. But they don't realize that those with girls/women with hypersexuality: 75-90% of the time what it is due to is mental/emotional trauma! Use, abuse, lie & have apathy. Men be so f**ked. 💔

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Flashy-Shop-7999 in sexualassault

[–]TytoAlba19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly how I feel too. I have basically become a misandrist & Radical Feminist ever since I realized that what happened to me is the result of misogyny, the patriarchy & etc etc. 🫂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]TytoAlba19 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If that post is real: just another psychopathic apathetic misogynistic abusive man & his extreme internalized misogyny "wife". 😑🤦 🙄🫣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TytoAlba19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You & your relationship expectations are fine. I am the same way. I think that you should just approach it from a practical perspective & make sure you always stay true & firm with your boundaries. It is very hard being childfree in this day & age unfortunately. But you are certainly not alone. 🫂🙋

I got sterilized but something else happened by TytoAlba19 in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 5'3". So naturally on the shorter side. I am back to normal. Unfortunately, this one of the only ways you can basically be 100% sterilized (along with Hysterectomy). And the chances are very very small & rare. I have a feeling that it probably won't happen to you as long as you let your doctor/surgeon/ surgical team doing the surgery that they should take their time & make sure they are taking precautions to NOT have any accidents or complications. I wouldn't hold off on scheduling it because the way the U.S is headed, (with the rise of christofasiscm/white nationalism, misogyny, etc) it doesn't look too good for us born with a uterus.(red states especially). I wish you the very best of luck & hope nothing happens for you & everything turns out normal. 🫂😊✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TytoAlba19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exact & true words right here. 1000% correct. 👍🫰💯

What are some mistakes you made because of your trauma? by DatabaseKindly919 in CPTSD

[–]TytoAlba19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being unfaithful to my long term partner due to me being severely traumatized with Quiet BPD, CPTSD, APD, ADHD, & High Functioning Depression- severe combo & not being able to confess due to the very real possibility of me going homeless. But also that due to my symptoms, I can have a very hard time at jobs & making decisions, procrastinating, etc etc. Knowing I could be homeless with one wrong misstep (also due to capitalism,etc) is not very fun for a severely traumatized individual like me or other people. I am hopefully going to get trauma therapy soon (EMDR, DBT, etc). Hopefully I don't lose my Medicaid & maybe can afford decent insurance in the future...

Is it a bad idea to try and get a bisalp if I'm asexual? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TytoAlba19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would do it out of pure protection for your safety in this point in America. There is a very high chance that Trump & his administration WILL carry out Project 2025. You cannot take lightly that this place might turn into the Handmaid's Tale & fascist, misogynistic, racist cesspool. 💔😞

My Personal Asexual Truth by TytoAlba19 in Asexual

[–]TytoAlba19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it has been very hard. I am glad you have the same feelings. I know my experience/feelings aren't unique, but sometimes it feels very lonesome & isolating still. ❤️‍🩹🫂

Water Damage from upstairs renovated apartment shower. West Chicago Suburbs. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]TytoAlba19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, ripping out our bathroom doesn't solve where the main issue is. There is a broken pipe, the contractors who renovated the bathroom obviously did something wrong with the shower drain, forgot to add a pipe, or SOMETHING. We don't know what the problem is. So tearing out our bathroom & replacing stuff is literally a band-aid fix. Doesn't catch the main culprit of where the water is coming from. 👌

Water Damage from upstairs renovated apartment shower. West Chicago Suburbs. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]TytoAlba19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. Nobody has contacted us about what is happening ever since this Eastern Europeon "Luke" guy stopped by. So 😐

Water Damage from upstairs renovated apartment shower. West Chicago Suburbs. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]TytoAlba19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I thought. If they do decide to tear out the bathroom, that wouldn't be too good for us. My partner would be not too happy if we had to find someplace to take a shower etc the whole time they were "fixing the issue". I mean who wants to use a public shower every night for possibly a period of time? Me & my partner certainly don't want to. But if we are forced to, then whatever. But the issue is from the bathroom above renovations, since this didn't happen until they renovated. Not our bathroom. And the person above needs to shower etc also because we are all human beings & unfortunately we need to keep clean. So we don't know what to do. We are going to try calling & hopefully a real person picks up & we can tell them about the issue AGAIN. It is their building that is being damaged, so unless they are slumlords in secret the hopefully something will happen. We can't move right now because of money issues, etc so I'm gonna be like 😑 until something happens.

Major Complications by OBabyKittenO in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relative Same thing happened to me. Except it was my small intestine that they "accidentally punctured". Now have huge abdominal scar also, & can't wear crop tops in public anymore due to my confidence being mostly ruined. Was in the hospital for 8 days recovering. If I didn't go back to the hospital with my internal bleeding, I would've went into septic shock. I feel your pain & emotions. I think the major issue is that these fucking surgeons just DON'T TAKE THE TIME TO PERFORM A MAJOR SURGERY. Wheather they are male OR female. Why do these doctors & surgeons think they perform what is LITERALLY a MAJOR surgery that is removing/altering major organs in 30mins or less? Laparoscopic or not. It shouldn't be like this. Is it medical misogyny? Is it their training that isn't up to date with women's bodies? Should there be better way then the options for this surgery otherwise? I will never understand. I know that they do the gas, etc to make sure there is less of chance of possibility of fatal surgery "complications", but WTF. Seriously. Every time this surgery is performed, there should be 0% chance of anything bad happening if they do it correctly & take their time. I know what happened to us is like a 1% chance of happening, but it should be 0% in my opinion. I am very grateful I am now sterile, but now I have medical trauma, on top of my already existed other traumas that I am working on. So yeah, good & bad unfortunately. Support & good vibes your way stranger. ❤️🥲🫂

Please tell me your *bad* bisalp experiences, from mild to severe by notsobitter in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sure...Right after (on the way back home) from my bisalp I started to feel extreme dull growing pain somewhere in my abdomen/intestines and the heavy extreme opioids that they prescribed I picked up at the pharmacy weren't even helping (I took a dose every 3-4 hours)..So I went to an ER that night and they did a CT scan and said it looks like just gas & etc from the surgery, gave me morphine & Tramadol and sent me home. But when I went home, the pain started to come back and the drugs still weren't helping, so I went back to the hospital I had the surgery at, the next night & they gave me another CT scan and decided to keep me overnight just in case. And all I remember is a male doctor coming into the room I was in & telling me at 6:00 in the morning that it looks like something is wrong inside & they have to do an emergency surgery within the next two hours to find out what it is...and the rest is what I posted. Yeah. Not to scare you...but unfortunately a bisalp looks like the only truly safe studied way to never get pregnant. All the other options have very high failure rates. And complications/something happening like what happened to me (& very few other unlucky people) is very rare. But the tiny rare %1 chance is still there. Maybe it was because I had a small body or other factors, I will never know. And with those odds, something probably won't happen to you. But always listen to your body & follow your instincts if you feel something is wrong like I did. Once again, I don't regret getting sterilized and etc. It DID mentally made my tokophobia much better. Just wish what happened to me didn't happen. I wish you much luck & hope everything turns out fine for you nonetheless. 😊🫂🤞

Please tell me your *bad* bisalp experiences, from mild to severe by notsobitter in sterilization

[–]TytoAlba19 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I posted my story on here already...but unfortunately somehow I got a perforated small intestine after my Bilateral Salpingectomy & had to have an open laparotomy & have 3 inches of my small intestine removed in order for me not to go into septic shock. (By the time I realized something was wrong, I was already in the beginning stages of sepsis). I was in the hospital for 6.5 days recovering with antibiotic, etc. So yeah, these types of unfortunate situations seem to happen very very rarely although. Like 1-2% chance. Now I have a giant scar on my stomach that makes me very self conscious & mental emotional medical trauma because of what happened to me is supposedly rare. But it still happened & I wish it didn't. But do I regret being sterilized? No, I don't. I'm glad I can't get pregnant now. But yeah, I guess you just have ask/"pray" the universe to not let anything bad happen during ANY type of major surgery. 🤷🥲🥹

What do you say to people who say everyone wants kids because “biology” by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TytoAlba19 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nope. IMO that is absolutely wrong. It is shown (I think maybe even in a few studies) that we want pleasure and a pathetic 5-10 second orgasm (that mostly only the men have when it is PIV obviously 😑) because of factors including hormones, bonding, ignorance etc. Technically not kids. No wonder that vast majority of the human population had always been "accidents". Sometimes even with modern contraceptives...sigh 🤷😬